Don't say "Sorry" if you want to say "Thank You"

[sexyback]

Some people are very apologetic. It's ok to apologize and say "I'm sorry" when we've been unfair or we've hurt someone, but there are some situations in which the word "sorry" conveys a message that is not exactly positive... for any of the people involved. If you're one of those people that is sorry for everything, almost even for breathing, then you may want to consider what follows.

Artist Yao Xiao has created this comic about replacing the word "sorry" with the words "thank you". See could happen if we did so:

What if we put this into practice?

[vishna]

I feel like this is a huge problem for a lot of people, and I find this type of language popped up a lot before my last break up. My word was just. I used it to diminish what I wanted and needed and, most importantly, what I felt. So, I made a conscious decision to remove the word just from my vocabulary when I was standing up for myself or stating my emotions and opinion. Instead of saying "I just took offense to what you said" I said "I took offense to what you said" And it helped me see that my words are worth just as much as anyone else's words and my opinions too. And sometimes I slip up and say it, but now it's less about putting myself down now.

[RationalMale]

It's good basic psychology there.

Apologizing too much makes yourself look and feel worse, and probably lowers others opinions of you.

Giving someone a compliment, by thanking them in such a way, will make them like you more.

It's akin to asking people favors to make them like you. Asking someone to do a small favor for you, then thanking them, is a better way to make them like you than doing a favor for them.

[sp33d]

That is very true. One does not emit personality by being apologetic about everything. Often times this is actually a direct application of reversed psychology - one purposefully looks miserable to gain sympathy. We've all done it, but hey, it's better to grow out of it.

[mimmy]

Love it. Useful for me as I'm always apologising so I'll keep it in mind

[sexyback]

I'm glad it helps!

[the_rake]

wow I love this take.

THANK YOU for writing it XD XD

[sexyback]

:D and thank you for reading it! :)

[the_rake]

there is a poem I think you would enjoy: read it to the end and then read it from the bottom up. it has changed my perspective on many things in life x

https://www.poetrynation.com/poem.php?id=50509

I try to employ these principles in any way I can conceive of.

[PeachSunset]

I totally agree and this is just a question but would it be all right just to defuse the awkwardness if you really were talking a lot by saying "Haha sorry, i'm rambling.. but thanks for listening!"

[Regale]

I need a mini version I can keep in my pocket and consult in such times.

[sexyback]

I think now you'll remember ;)

[nymous1234]

I really liked this so much :D
I am quite guilty of saying sorry too often in certain circumstances so this really meant a lot to me. :)

[Heyyakk]

I LOVE THIS! Yes!!! Where can I print this out!! lok

[Accipiter]

Yes, sometimes apologizing when it's not necessary shows signs of insecurity.

[GreatnessPersonified]

Good Take overall.

The first one I agree with for myself. Usually, I say neither. I just say, "I'm here, rejoice." lol.

[DocRim]

Is it too late now to say Thank You?

[sexyback]

No, it's never too late :)

[Anonymous]

If you were supposed to meet someone at a predetermined time and you were late and made that person wait for you, you wasted their time and you owe them an apology, not a thank you.

[takumii]

Good Take, I see your point.

[mickylad]

Great my take !!!

[sexyback]

Thanks!