10 Things Guys Should Know About Girls

[Guysvsgirls]

*Disclaimer: Not every girl will be like this. Every girl is individual. However, these are some of the basics.

10 Things Guys Should Know About Girls

1. Girls can also be shy, so don't be afraid to make that first move

2. We do like guys who have feelings. Don't be afraid to let a tear fall, or tell us how you feel.

3. The majority of girls like the well dressed guys. No pants hanging.

4. To follow up on the previous point, not a lot of girls like a guy who isn't hygienic.

5. A lot of girls like a guy who is smart and intelligent. So get those grades up!

6. Following up on that, girls also like a guy who has goals in life. (Not just to sleep with as many girls as possible). I mean goals consisting of changing the world with his talents.

7. This one is a personal one, but I believe a lot of girls out there want the same as well; a guy who is a Christian.

8. Back up what you say. This is a very important one. A lot of guys will say, "sure, of course I love you" or "you are the best girl in the world!" But please back it up with actions. Make her really feel special. Give her chocolates, make time for her, take her to special places. Really show her that you mean every world.

9. Don't push a physical relationship if she doesn't want one. It's a huge turn off, and a waste of both of our time.

10. Not every girl just likes that guy with big pecs, or six-pack. Every girl is attracted to a different type of guy. Some girls like the skinny, tall guys. Some like shorter, husky guys. Some like everyday, average sized guys. So never fear, there is a girl for you out there!

Hope this helps all of the guys out there!

Girls, please add anything else that you can think of down below.

[MaxRocks]

Uhm, I agree with most of those. A few objections tho,

1. "So get those grades up!". Okay sure, getting good grades shows commitment and intelligence, but grades are by far the last thing that comes to mind when I think about someone smart. Grades tell little about how smart you are, only about your memory and problem-solving skills. Smartness (imo) is being able to take information A and draw up in your head ways you can take advantage of that information to serve all sorts of things. Smartness is knowing as much as you possible can in a field, despite you getting an A or a F in school. Smartness is being able to take opinion in all sort of matters and back it up without going to insults or profanity.

2. "a guy who is a Christian". If I wanted to be mean I would say "Well, what happened to the smart guy?", but I wouldn't say that, would I? Seriously tho, there's a growing trend of people in general becoming atheists, or at least non-Christians, and this is mostly caused by the Internet and the spreading of information. For example, I can simply put here for the whole world to see that in Deuteronomy 25:12, God tells men to cut off their woman's if she tries to defend him.
Besides, what's the point of saying this? If I'm not a Christian, am I supposed to become a Christian because that's what girls want? Who says I want a Christian girl at all?

Besides those 2 points, it's a well written take.

[MaxRocks]

*cut off their woman's hand

[Guysvsgirls]

For number 1, It was kinda sarcasm about getting your grades up. When I said smart and intelligent, I meant a guy who talks in good language (so no, "Aints" haha, and cares about life. is in tune with the girl's feelings.
For number 2, I changed that to say a girl that matches your religion or non-religion.

[MaxRocks]

We are in agreement now :)

[Guysvsgirls]

That's good! :-)

[Bysshe]

"... only about your memory and problem-solving skills. Smartness (imo) is being able to take information A and draw up in your head ways you can take advantage of that information to serve all sorts of things. "

What do you think problem solving skills are? You are right about grades though, they're a reflection of effort as much as they are of intellect.

[MaxRocks]

@Byshee Okay yea that was a nice catch xD
When I said that I was thinking about these people that were with me through High School and weren't very good at memory and learning in general. However when the teacher talked about a subject they were always interrupting and going "Oh so that means we can use that to do X? Well what happens if we change it, wouldn't we then be able to do Y?".
Totally out-of-the-box questions the teachers loved them for that and these guys are still on the top of the smartest people I know to date. Then there were those guys (and this is my group ^^) who cared more about their own topics and research than school, so we ended up being masters at some other field that had basically nothing to do with school, while trying to maintain at least average grades

[MaxRocks]

Goddamn, *@Bysshe

[MaxRocks]

@Bysshe

[aamy811]

I don't really agree with the Christian one, because that encourages guys to change themselves to have mass appeal. So I think instead you should say "girls like guys who have the same values outlook on life". Because there are more than one religion in the world so you want to let these guys know that girls like more than one kid and girls come in more kinds. Also you could be Jewish but he still may like you (assuming she's Christian) because you have the same moral outlook in life but not the exact same religion.

[Jager66]

This is kinda dumb in my opinion.

Read between the lines people.

1. Men, don't expect women to share in the risk and pain of social rejection.
2. Be ready for women who have not earned your emotional trust but still expect it.
3. Girls like money and status.
4. See point 3, also no one likes nasty BO. duh..
5. Reiterating point 3. Women will often conflate grades with intelligence, what this actually means is they like strong earning potential in men.
6. Reiterating point 3 again, it's that important. Plus social status this time.
7. Excuses to reject compatible men that will be tossed out the window if a guy comes along who has enough resources.
8. Sacrifice your resources for her, including your time, money, mental energy and emotional energy. You must do it in the way SHE wants you to do it, your own love language is not good enough.
9. Don't be an ass hat, if you've been rejected move on to someone else already!
10. Women don't prioritize looks like men do, they have other priorities, listed above. See #3 again.

[Guysvsgirls]

This is probably the girls that you have come across. *most* women don't think some of those.

[Azara]

10 YES I DO prioritize looks. They matter. a lot. Not in place of personality but at least as much.

# 2 they do and they should.

#8 everyone uses valuable time when courting someone. That's how it works. You think her time she's spending with you could not also be spent in other productive ways? Course it can.

# 3 # 4 # 6 WRONg. And the rest is just bla bla bla.

From what you claim is your reference point, You sound like you date a lot of assholes, and not necessarily women.

[Sigma88]

This comes off overly bitter, but I have to say this list really does seem like the case, when it comes to the majority of women now. Can't really blame guys for feeling as they do, or why more & more guys don't want relationships.

[Jager66]

@Sigma88 Yeah it really is true, blunt and no sugar coating, not bitter though.

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@Azara
@Take Owner

- Why is there always someone who interprets frank speech as somehow negative?
- Why do people always think that providing and example of an exception to the rule somehow makes the rule invalid?
- Why is there always someone who thinks they understand what they read but it actually went way over their head and they still want to be taken seriously?

[FBorDie]

I have a major problem with #5. I may be taking it too literally but I'm not sure. As a guy who fucked up in high school, and who doesn't really care for traditional schooling at all I'll be honest and say that if a female really puts so much value into a petty little letter on a piece of paper she can keep walking, don't even bother with me. I'm tired of being ridiculed over my 2.0 GPA by people. Just because I don't care about my grades doesn't mean I'm not intelligent. I actually love learning, but I couldn't be bothered to "learn" about the symbolism in Shakespeare. *yawn* Grades mean very, very little to me. Because of my past mistakes once I graduate from high school I'm going to enter a tech school, become and an ASE certified mechanic. This should put me close to an AS degree at the school I'll attend, which can transfer over to a university and put me halfway through one of their engineering programs.

That letter doesn't tell anybody who I am, or what I'm capable of. Period.

[Blacknailpolish]

You sound like my kind of guy *intelligent and outspoken* If I knew you in real life I'd probably ask you out. Would love to chat with you sometime but you're probably gonna block me... so nice knowing there are guys like you out there.

[FBorDie]

Why would I block you?

I appreciate the comment. To be honest I'm actually a fairly shy and quiet person but a broad, shallow statement like number five will really get me going in a heartbeat.

[Anonymous]

In 40 years of life, I have never ever come across a female that was willing to make the first move. I'll admit, the first couple kisses (age 8) were put on me by her (she must've seen her tramp of a mother doing something), but I've always been the one that had to initiate the conversation/friendship, always, I'm the one that has to make my interest in companionship, clearly known. My exgf even said that she thought we hated each other before I spoke to her (talk about mind games, we don't even really know each other, yet there's hate between us?) I've noticed a few females throwing extremely subtle, and pathetic, hints in my direction, but they're just playing ego mind games, not making their interest in getting to know me clear. Also, as one who helps keep a place rented out, (for over 7 years now), I've noticed that women will not live with a male unless they expect to be involved sexually, even senior citizens living with young guys (age is irrelevant, from what I've seen). It's like, generally speaking, females will live with females in order to have someone to talk to and split the rent with, but when it comes to hetero males, unless you're sexually involved, you're living with another male in order to split the rent. Having now experienced the sexism females harbor, I feel rather traumatized by the feminist brainwashing I went through growing up (the females wear the pants in my family), I can't help but now empathize with religious and sexist males. Females, you want equal rights, you have to prove that you're ready for them, cause the males that were supporting you in the past, are fed up with the double standard you keep putting forth.

[Guysvsgirls]

Interesting opinion. Thank you for this view. I'm really sorry that you experienced some of our gendor brainwashing. I know that for me, and a lot of my friends, we want a partnership with a guy, not a dominate and submissive. And definitely never will expect sex just by living with a guy. Only if he was my husband would I expect sex.

[Opinion Owner]

If you still don't know, I'm male.

[Guysvsgirls]

Yes, I've noticed. XD

[MiniMinions]

Most of these are not actually about girls, but about girls' preferences. But I'll let it slide.

1. An obvious one, but expecting too much, perhaps? Although I believe everyone should go for what they want and not wait around, as it's not likely to happen on its own.
5. Grades rarely measure intelligence. Showing you can have an intelligent conversation is much more important.
6. Just goals like traveling or getting a career. Not trying to change the world. That's called being naive.
7. You do realize that the majority of women in the world is not christian, right?
8. Again, expecting too much. Random kisses and hugs are enough to show affection.
9. Should be obvious.

The rest is pretty spot on.

[xobrowneyedbeauty]

Hygiene, not dressing like a slob (I don't wanna see your boxers come on), intelligence (though not necessarily grades), and showing as well as telling me how he feels are extremely important to me as well. A lot of girls' tastes In guys vary a bit too. Although I think many girls don't actually care about religion, unless they're very religious. I'm catholic but that's not a priority for me; it's not a big enough deal breaker because you can be a good person without being a religious person. Also, guys and girls can both be shy so we can't hog that excuse. Why should we force shy guys to make the first move just because we are shy too? It's not fair. I make the first move and I've been rejected. More girls should try it; then you don't have to sit around wondering if he will talk to you. Other than those two complaints/disagreements, this is pretty true! :)

[ScruffyNerfHerder]

I actually have an issue with several of these points, but I'm only going to isolate one of them for now:

9. Don't push a physical relationship if she doesn't want one. It's a huge turn off, and a waste of both of our time.

Very, very wrong, gents. Push for the physical relationship. If she doesn't want one and you do, it's important to discover that. You don't know if you don't try. And that would actually be the waste of time--sticking around in a relationship where you aren't truly compatible or attracted to one another.

Find ways to dismiss a potential partner as quickly as possible--the more women you meet (and the more you dismiss!) the faster you will meet a girl you are actually compatible with. Pushing for a physical relationship is one very strong way to filter out a girl who isn't really, deep down, interested in you.

[Sex-Kitten]

Good one. I agree! =)

[Anonymous]

LOOOOOOOL Don't fall for #2 !! Girls are masters of emotional manipulation. Here are 10 things guys should know about girls --

1. Crying to guilt

2. Making angry so that she get's an opportunity to play the victim, and thus guilt the man

3. Cook good food and use it as a weapon later

4. Have sex asap so that he reveals his emotions which can be used for future manipulation

5. Pretending they are sad/upset/weak

6. Threatening to leave

7. Cutting off sex

8. Make him think she's cheating or will cheat on him

9. Frequent criticisms, irrational tantrums, twisting things around, act bitchy

10. Act like she doesn't care when the man show emotions

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Peace.

[Guysvsgirls]

So I assume this is what your take on women is based on your experience as well?

[AleDeEurope]

Sorry, but you shouldn't have said #7 as it's something really personal and that it doesn't apply to even half of the women population, so you can't generalize on that. Most women that I know don't give a fuck if you're religious or not.
You should've add that as an extra if you still wanted to put it up, but like I said, most of the women out there don't want that.

[Guysvsgirls]

@AleDeEurope Okay, that's true. #7, is what I, and maybe 25% of the girls in the whole entire world would like. Thanks for clearing that up. :-)

[AleDeEurope]

I don't even think 25%. According to Google, 32% of the population is Christian, so more or less, 16% are Christian women, and I highly doubt all of the 16% want a guy who's Christian, most don't really care.

Oh, I forgot to say that it was a good Take :)

[Guysvsgirls]

@AleDeEurope Okay, thanks for clearing it up. And thank you!

[HeyJustBeingMe]

wow #7 is total bull****
sorry to tell but im an atheist myself and i dont care what religion a girl has as long as she doesn't manipulate me into believing what she believes..

so in child's language; i can date any religion, so long as it doesn't effect me.
why can't you / girls? believe me.. it works.

[Guysvsgirls]

You can date whatever religion you want, if she has any. And even then you can. That was just my personal prederence.

[KimmyWhimmy]

How long r u Atheist gonna wait for your theories to come true? Modern science points to one creator because I don't know about you but things look pretty detailed and in it's place to me. Everything can't come from some dust (or whatever you think evolves over time) and if u think there's a couple gods then who came up with the idea to have more than one? I'm not trying to upset u dude but I'm just trying to get you to think instead of blindly believing in something. Have a nice day :)

[Xonen]

@KimmyWhimmy talk about hypocrisy... but anyways, religious tolerance should be exercised.

[BZerpy]

@KimmyWhimmy
Appalling hypocrisy. You drowned your post in it then dismembered the body, cooked it, froze it, re-heated it in the microwave, fed it to your dog, bagged his droppings, lit it on fire on someones porch and watched their house burn down.

[HeyJustBeingMe]

@KimmyWhimmy
I dony expect something to come true.. and i dont believe blindly.. thats the same as trusting your car to a blind woman/man..

I only believe in the wilpower of the most pure humans on this planet. I do not believe in some god or gods that made this world because thats just a theory brought to our minds by humankind. A theory that could be explained scientifically. But we all know science isn't a 100% accurate.

[NukesRus]

I am athiest, because all religions, and all religious text were by mankind. Many religious views were proven wrong, even though they apparently came from the gods themselves (sorry to seem condescending, you believe whatever you want). All religions keep changing to "fit" with modern society. Why did it become unacceptable to sacrifice livestock, or people? Because the gods all of a sudden changed their minds on wanting that to happen? I believe on what I see, and what I could re-created given the knowledge and the equipment. I don't trust people, therefore I don't trust all the "I promise you, if you act a certain way, you will be happy when you are dead." People should be good TO BE GOOD, not to be rewarded for it. Religion had it's purpose, it brought people together and started civilization, now it only tears at it.

[Sex-Kitten]

Disagree with 2 and 7. Well...2 is alright. I just want to distinguish between sharing feelings and letting the occasional tear flow with good reason, to a guy who always cries over everything. To me, crying is a weakness, because it's what one does when one is incapable of finding the right words. I don't know, I'm not big on the crying thing. For myself either. Crying is what kids do. As adults, we can analyze our feelings and communicate them with words.
Disagree with 7, because I personally don't like religion.
But the other points are great =)

My own personal is: men who are confident and masculine. Meaning they can take control, they have strength (mental above all), they can back you up, they are reliable. Not one who is a sissy and I have to take care of him. I'm a strong and independent woman and for me, I'd want someone even more strong than myself.

[kheserthorpe]

I think most girls like it when confident, strong and masculine men occasionally share their feelings and self doubts.

Guys who are insecure and weak should probably find someone else to talk to it about then a girl they're hoping to score with.

[Sex-Kitten]

So much truth in this.

[TankSinatra]

Ok, so I'm a guy and I cried when I found out my mother died and I cried once again at her funeral.
I guess that makes me less masculine eh?
Okay then

[2Spooky4U]

You sound like a sad person. Crying is a basic human response, if you feel its pointless and therefore don't do it you are missing out on a huge piece of life that stops you feeling the need.

[Sex-Kitten]

Of course there's nothing wrong with crying over serious issues, like the death of a loved one. I meant crying over each fight you have with someone, like if you had a fight with your girlfriend or mum and you started crying every time. THAT's not masculine.

[NateInAk]

I think #7 would be more appropriate as "guys of the same religion" although even that may not be strictly true.
#10 what about tall husky guys? Are we the lepers of today's society? :(
I totally agree with the hygiene one, that goes both ways, nobody wants a stinky bf/gf haha
All in all, not a bad take

[Guysvsgirls]

Yes, that's what I want to change number seven to.

Haha, no tall husky guys are totally invluded in this!

[lumos]

Number 1 is stupid. A lot of guys are shy too. Shyness is not at excuse not to approach someone yourself. I'm getting really tired of girls always expecting the guy to make the first move. Make it yourself.

[saccharose]

Agreed

[p0rtis26]

@lumos I am still waiting...

[lumos]

@p0rtis26 for what?

[p0rtis26]

The first move, you just said shyness was not an excuse for a girl to not make the first move. =) @lumos

[lumos]

@p0rtis26 disinterest, however, is a good excuse to not make the first move.

[p0rtis26]

@lumos I knew you would not disappoint, awesome. =))

[MaxRocks]

@lumos that was kinda cold but I loved it xDDD

[lumos]

@MaxRocks I don't have time for sugarcoating, lol.

[p0rtis26]

@MaxRocks That was a great come back, but I would not expect anything less seeing the coarse witty comments @lumos has made before. =)

[creativ3]

What the heck is a Christian? I took statistics from OkCupid and perhaps 0/185000 people that were online answered yes to the question 'I'm a virgin' for girls. For guys it's probably about the same (we're 1:1 in the population).

Judging by that, who in this country is even practising this religion? I mean, I am going to guess that because it's a Christian country, that most know pre-marital sex according to the Christian faith is wrong.

What I found was that 9 people were online in the entire past month from the ages of 25 to 55, that were virgins. 6 of those were Christian. These again are the statistics for women.

[creativ3]

That is, most, have heard at least once ore more that it's wrong.

[Guysvsgirls]

Christian is someone wo beleives in God. That he sent his one and only son to die for our sins. :-)

[Bysshe]

Your mistaken in your argument, being a murderer, rapist, thief, liar, tattooed or whatever doesn't mean one is no longer a christian, merely that they don't follow all the rules the subscribe to.

[Kyndra]

"This one is a personal one, but I believe a lot of girls out there want the same as well; a guy who is a Christian."
I'm glad you stated that it's personal, and you didn't make any certain statements like "most girls want that as well". Other than that it's a nice take, covers the basics like hygiene.

[Turtleluv]

#7, yes I want to know if he's Christian so that I don't waste time dating him. I'm an atheist, no matter how many times I've given the religious guy a chance he always tries to change that about me. The only thing I end up changing is not dating him anymore.

[AwesomeZach]

Sad to know there is descrimination against other religions. I guess my chances completely fell.

[MisakiNakamura]

Not at all, that's just her opinion on #7 Me myself i could care less what religion you claim to because tbh i'm not even sure myself what i believe in and I've dated a Muslim, Christen and an Atheist.

[Guysvsgirls]

She's right, that's why I said "personally". Doesn't apply to everyone at all

[Anonymous]

1. Um, what? A lot of guys are shy too so why are we always expected to make the first move. So much for abolishing gender roles, eh?
2. This would be great of it were true, but it's not. Guys who are emotional or cry openly are not accepted and many guys have to learn that the hard way because they are mislead. Please don't mislead guys with this stuff.
3. Agreed
4. Agreed
5. Agreed
6. I don't think this is a surprise to anyone.
7. Very inappropriate
8. This one sounds a bit entitled to me. A girl who expects the world is a big turnoff to most guys.
9. This is purely a compatibility issue. When one partner wants to be physical and the other doesn't, neither is right or wrong, just different. Saying it's a huge turnoff sounds judgmental and isn't appropriate here.
10. Good point

Hope the above helps you as a girl.

[Guysvsgirls]

Yes, it dies. And I changed number 7 in the comments below. Haha, I meant ever "word" in number 8.

[Opinion Owner]

What dies?

Glad you changed 7.

I have no doubt you meant what you said in 8, and it does indeed sound like female entitlement. Not surprised though... most women seem rather entitled today. Interesting though how a man's sexual desires are viewed in entirely different light...

[Opinion Owner]

Ah, "does". Sorry...

[Guysvsgirls]

*does. Sorry, autocorrect.
Yeah it is interesting.

[Opinion Owner]

That was a cop out. But oh well...

[PhiOmega]

So idiot anons can start crusades crucifying religions left and right! But she can't state her personal preferences regarding it?

Hypocrisy ^^^ (cuz I'm sure none of the people critcizing her expression in #7 aren't the first ones bringing up the same subject matter in the most disrespectful and inappropriate of ways)

If a lot of girls didn't feel this way there would be no money in Christian dating sites, so yes she's right in saying a lot

She used no all inclusive statements, put up a disclaimer and stressed this was her personal viewpoint

With some of the garbage "religion" based posts that spawn here constantly her respectful mention was a breath of fresh air and a welcome changed,
》BUT, wtf do i see! I see her small mention met with some rude and negative comments while no one whispers a word when someone writes a post of wiping out Muslims! 《
Wow!!! Sometimes things are so backwards

To be clear, this is a general response to not you specifically but several

[Bysshe]

@PhiOmega If she'd merely said most girls prefer someone of the same religion, that would be more reasonable (and probably accurate). Plenty of people aren't christian or are only nominally christian.

[molan]

"5. A lot of girls like a guy who is smart and intelligent. So get those grades up!"

Intelligence is not influenced by grades or persistence. How Americans define smart is always interesting.

"9. Don't push a physical relationship if she doesn't want one."

Agree. you should runaway from her asap.

"So never fear, there is a girl for you out there!"

Technically that is not true, since there are 300.000.000 more men than women on earth, hence 300.000.000 men won't find a woman.

[Guysvsgirls]

Interesting fact! I never thought about that for how many guys were on this planet. Why would you run away from her asap if she didn't want a physical relationship right away?

[molan]

I presumes "Don't push a physical relationship if she doesn't want one. It's a huge turn off, and a waste of both of our time." implied he wanted one and she didn't.

In that case, find a girl who wants the same, and stop wasting time with one that doesn't match you.

[Guysvsgirls]

Ah I see. Though i think itd be hard to actually find a guy who doesn't want a physical relationship at all. But i see your point

[molan]

Indeed it is, and those girls who don't want a physical relationship should realise they are not fit for romantic relationships - there are not many asexual out-there, so living alone is the most likely option.

[Guysvsgirls]

I guess so! :-)

[AndrewTheAwsome]

I'm a Christian as well, and the writer is not wrong; there are a lot of girls looking for Christian guys (hence Christian mingle, eHarmony, etc...) however, I do think that it would have been better, in this setting, to say that a lot of girls are looking for a nice guy with set standards who isn't just looking for sex. I think that might be what she was trying to say.

[Guysvsgirls]

thank you. :-) I honestly didn't mean to offend anyone. Because I have a lot of Christian girl friends who have the same credentials, I just spoke up saying their are girls that are looking for Christian guys as well as non-Christian.

[kheserthorpe]

9 is not a waste of both of your times. Him hiding wanting a physical relationship if it's a priority for him WOULD be a waste of both of your times.

There's nothing wrong with wanting or not wanting one, but nobody's partner is obliged to adapt to what they want.

I suspect at least half your other points express what a lot of girls want in a non-physical relationship, but are things that tend to make girls feel close, but not attracted, otherwise.

[Guysvsgirls]

Yes, I'm not talking about sexual attraction as more of emotional attraction which girls are known for. The sexual attraction is a different avenue. XD

[kheserthorpe]

It might be important to note the difference.

Far more guys actually have trouble generating sexual attraction. For women, that's not true, so they often don't think of it that way when giving guys advice (or they're not considering high sexual attraction very important).

Unless a guy is getting girls who want to fool around but not date him, odds are it's the sexual attractiveness that's holding him back.

[Guysvsgirls]

hmm, I find that interesting. I guess I would have thought guys had it easy when generating sexual attraction due to them being so visually oriented. But I see your point. Most guys I'm emotionally attracted to, I find "sexually attracted to". Just because *most* girls are more likely to have sex with someone they feel emotionally attracted to.

[kheserthorpe]

You're quite right that guys are 'visually oriented' which is part of why it's very easy for women to generate sexual attraction. If they make an emotional connection, they're set. Furthermore, their behavior doesn't impact their sexual attractiveness -that- much, beyond how they treat sex. So as long as they look fairly nice and dress decently, any guy who connects with them, likely finds them attractive.

For young guys, it tends to be harder to generate sexual attraction, because just looking relatively nice doesn't make the average girl think "man, I'd hit that!!"

[Azara]

It's easy for guys to be attracted doesn't mean it's easy for them to be attractive... How would being visual help them attract women? Unless you meant actually yeah I don't know... What were you thinking?

I don't find emotional attraction increases sexual attraction for me I never realized anyone was like that. I can be physically attracted then hopefully he's got a decent personality then I'll feel ok about being attracted but the personality in itself doesn't make me want him. It just determines whether it's ok for me to go get him.

Don't you know if you're physicaly attracted to a guy before you get to know him?
(Physical attraction meaning sexual attraction. )