I am 5'4 and 172 lbs should I lose weight?

[Anonymous]

I want the self confidence that most young girls around me have. They are skinny, popular, and loved by everyone. They can easily get boyfriends and I can't. I don't want to change my body because I love my curves. Is that the only way? Do I have to be skinny to be happy? Can someone also answer this question www.girlsaskguys.com/.../q1246585-how-to-boost-self-confidence-for-curvey-women

[hypnicjerk]

I'm getting mixed messages from you. You're saying you like yourself, but also that you lack self confidence. Doesn't self confidence come from truly liking yourself? You are not going to change what the popular ideal is. The cultural ideal DOES change, gradually, to a degree, but it's really just a fashion, like women wearing bustles, then pants, then bell bottoms, then peplums. You can try to change your body to fit what's popular, but you may never win this battle. There's a trend now, obviously, of desiring the girl who's fairly thin but has a big round ass... for the most part, this is a build you're born into. I'm the same height as you, and I have very hourglass proportions, whether I weigh 110 or 160, and I have weighed both. There's no amount of eating or squatting that's going to give me a kardashian build, and it would also be ridiculous to let that get me down. I try to make me the best me I can be. In my eyes. And that's where self confidence comes from, from comparing yourself to yourself only. Your weight is debatable. It strikes me as a little heavy, but that's me. Weight alone tells me little about your body composition or lifestyle, so it's not fair to immediately jump to health risks and state you're going to die and that you should lose weight. My vote will always be to do what creates a happy and healthy you. Self confidence follows. As for skinny, well, I look like shit skinny. Fo real. According to BMI and weight tables, I was spot on though, and it took me a while to see that my body has a weight that it wants to be, a weight that's fairly easy to maintain and looks healthy and fit. That happens to be about 135, which is a 'big' number by a lot of people's standards. Don't. Care. I know what works for me.

[Stacyzee]

If you want to lose weight because you want to be like the "popular" girls
then you are losing it for all of the wrong reasons.

I guarantee, if you lose your weight for those reasons,
you'll be highlighting another
flaw that you think you have, that those popular girls don't.

LOVE YOURSELF!

If you try to change in order to blend in with every one else...
what will happen when they change their colors?

BE TRUE TO YOU!

Lose the weight for your health.
Lose the weight because it's something you want to do.

If you do it for other reasons... you will always be unhappy.

[findingdreamland]

First of all being skinny doesn't make anyone happy and beautiful. That skinny trend is bullshit let me tell you lol
Skinny girls are skinny because their built is skinny. ( I am talking natural skinny)

BUT if you want to be really healthy, I think you need to lose weight. Not because of that stupid fashion, for health reasons you can lose weight. Because you're still young, you can prevent yourself from any health problems. At this moment, maybe you don't have, but you have potential to have.

You can still have curves, just be average BMI. If you have natural curves, that will stay with you.

[RandomStudent]

Everyone wears there weight differently, so it is hard to tell without a photo if you are an attractive weight or not. I like chubby girls, and curvy girls, but 172 for your height is on the verge of obesity (according to BMI charts) so I really don't know. If you are happy with yourself I'm sure you'll find someone out there for you someday, my only real advice is try not to be too picky physically if you aren't perfect yourself, that is what I'm trying to do now, lower my standards.

[madhatters4]

i think you should consider losing weight simply because from a health stand point it would be better for you... I am very happy to hear that you feel good about yourself though

[Drooogie4]

Skinny isn't the only way to be happy.
But, you're definitely pretty overweight. If you get down to 130 ish you'll still be curvy, but at a healthy weight

[Asker]

I am healthy just bigger.

[Drooogie4]

Right now. Long term, it migjt not do you well to be over

[MxInsight]

I feel that it is a matter of self perception. It you are healthy, and you are happy then change for know one. If you are not healthy then yes you must change. You are second guessing your self right now. And you shouldn't. Rock what you got... Only if it's healthy, if you're shoveling garbage into your body you need to change it.

[Asker]

Would you ever go for a girl like me? If I were your age, but same body size. Would you?

[MxInsight]

I'm six feet, & 220lbs , muscles yay! I like the gym and I like lifting weights. I don't do it to impress people I do it because I like changing myself to lift heavier weight each time. I date woman based on the total package. An ex of mine was curvy and had similar height and weight as you. So absolutely are you date able, but I have to stress the healthy part. Hope that helps :)

[MxInsight]

Challenging*

[kambo_trick3y]

Do YOU think you should lose weight?

If yes, then you should.

If no, then you shouldn't.

[Asker]

No. But everyone says the only way to be confident is to be skinny. I want confidence and someone to love me. Does it get better after high school?

[kambo_trick3y]

Yeah it gets better.

The only way to be confident is to find that confidence within yourself, no matter your life and physical outlook.

[ThatGuy98]

Well I'm 5'9'' and I weigh 155 pounds so your ratio doesn't seem healthy at all. You should start eating healthier and exercising, if not for the boys then for yourself. And you don't have to be skinny to be attractive, but overweight is not good in any sense.

[Asker]

I am healthy.

[ThatGuy98]

Well it's hard to believe with those stats but if you say so :)

[Katy16]

You don't have to be skinny to be happy, if you aren't happy now that won't make you happy. I'm only 5'5 and about the same weight and I have a great boyfriend so i'm sure you'll find the right guy eventually. :) If you want to lose weight you can, but if you like your body I don't think you should :)

[AustinMan]

Without a photo, it's impossible to say. I'm guessing down 10-15 would preserve your curves but enhance the overall effect plus if you exercise like mad correctly, you'll be all toned.

[PippiL]

No, you don't have to be skinny to be happy. But from a health standpoint, you could stand to lose some weight.

[Klaatu51]

lose weight only by yourself if you want... not for those stupid skinny gals

[Anonymous]

Nooo, don't change for anyone else. If you are happy with your curves leave them. I Would love to have curves but I don't soyeah.

[Asker]

Men don't ask me out. I want to be loved.

[Opinion Owner]

I don't get asked out and I'm skinnyish.

[Prof_Don]

Definitely start making gradual changes to lose weight, for your health and your looks.

[Anonymous]

You've over shot your max weight by 16 lbs. It's up to you if you want to lose weight though.

[Asker]

Are you saying I'm fat?

[Opinion Owner]

My statement is literally equivalent to "you are overweight". Take it as you want too, I need not add more words.

[Anonymous]

You are 72 pounds from a place that will get you headswings, so,... yes.

[Asker]

How much should I lose?

[hypnicjerk]

He's implying that you need to weigh 100lbs, which is bullshit.

[Opinion Owner]

@hypnicjerk Are you a man? Do you know what men are attracted to? Stop acting as the 35+ divorcee and consider society, your own track record, people you know and everything therein. It is not bullshit and is absolutely correct. Sell your ultra feminism elsewhere. She asked a question to a male which was answered, are you a male?

[hypnicjerk]

I'm very impressed by your use of anonymity. Purely speaking facts, 100lbs is underweight for 5'4. You as an individual may be attracted to that, but simply being male does not make your opinion representative of the entire gender either. The society I'm a part of considers Kim Kardashian a lot sexier than Twiggy at the present.

[Opinion Owner]

@hypnicjerk You can be impressed or not impressed with whatever or whoever you want for all I care. It makes absolutely not a single shred of difference to me. I am always, and always will be, anonymous and that is for obvious reasons which, for whatever reason, are beyond your understanding.

Simply being male does allow me to give insight into the gender. I would say my years of athletics, years in college, years in HS before, numerous relationships, numerous chases, etc, etc, make me a viable candidate to tell this young lady what is and isn't considered attractive by the majority. We live in a society that punishes overweight people. Is it cool? No. Is it the way things are? You bet your ass it is.

Further, in current society, men don't care about a woman's opinion and such. Is that nice? Hell no it isn't. However, for women to remain in a mans eye gaze in THIS day and age, she needs the physique and appeal. 100-115 pounds would do that to the majority of men.