Why do I attract people that only talk about themselves and their problems?

[Anonymous]

Literally every "friend" I've had only talked about themselves. Why is that?

[TheBittenLady]

Probably because you are too nice and never tell them off, and they begin thinking this is the norm, and that you don't mind. My best friend is like this too, always talking about herself, she can't help it. But i've expressed to her how it makes me feel, and she makes an effort to talk about my stuff as well.

[Anonymous]

Try searching for different friends. Usually the helpers and volunteers attend to church, are part of the Peace Corps, etc. Most of them tend to focus more on others than on themselves. You know, its the basic christian view. You help & do more for others and then God'll take care of your problems. : )

[pyramid_princess]

Maybe it's because they value your advice, and trust your confidentiality. :-)

[NYkid27]

I'm not sure why you attract self centered people. I'm the opposite way. I prefer listening to my friends and giving them advice instead of talking about myself so you can pm me anytime if you need someone to actually listen to you

[Asker]

Thanks!!

[Blue_riBBon]

maybe you're good at giving advice ;)
*smart* is the word
and they give priority to your opinion instead of someone else...

[KDA20]

It can feel like that sometimes - Maybe people think you are a really good listener

[Balcazaurus]

Maybe you just give off a listener's aura? Like, maybe people see you as welcoming and comforting?

[Anonymous]

I think it's completely normal for people to talk about themselves. It reassures them of their own existence and they want other people to know of their existence. You should talk about yourself, too.

[reptocarl]

Because you keep choosing the same type of people

[Boboos]

Talk about ur self too