Why people automatically assume good looking people are arrogant?

[Anonymous]

[Anonymous]

I am good looking and I get this all the time, to the point that girls dont like me because of these assumptions. I honestly feel like in this day and age being good looking isn't that great. Being attractive, people often times assume you are something that you aren't, more so then normal looking people. It isn't just for good looking people, I can tell you first hand that up until sophomore year of college I never had a girl approach me, never had a girl express interest in me, and never felt like I was good looking (because girls never expressed interest in me). I asked around a couple girls I was close with, why I didn't have any girls showing interest in me and they all said the same thing "What? You've never had a girl express interest in you? You are so good looking, I assumed you had had tons of girls interested in you"... this is exactly what I didn't want to hear from them. They all assume you are taken or think you are out of their league so the girls go for other guys, and write you off before you even get a chance. I dont know the number of girls who haven't approached me because they thought I had a big ego, but I'd be willing to bet there are a few of them, because I had at least one girl straight up tell me after meeting me "Wow you are so nice, I honestly thought you would be different (implying I'd be a jerk/arrogant)". Of course girls have approached me since then, but they have all written me off as well. They come up to me, some looking for sex, and some looking for someone different, in both situations they write me off. For the sluts looking for sex they really quickly find out that I am only looking for a long term relationship, not one night stands which disappoints them because they expected an attractive guy like me to sleep around. Meanwhile other girls will approach me looking for a funny, outgoing, socially confident guy (some probably looking for that arrogant guy as well) because of my looks, only to find a quiet, yet somewhat socially inept guy, who isn't particularly good at talking to women. In both cases though the girls leave me because I wasn't what they thought I should be (as an attractive guy).

In this world I seriously dont think being attractive is a good thing. You have tons of expectations, people assume things about you, if you date an uglier girl you are looked down upon because your girlfriend isn't as good looking as you, and anyway its hard to date LT when women look more at the way you act then your looks.

[Opinion Owner]

Seriously, if I could choose I would rather make myself average looking with a "great personality"(I dont even know what that is), then attractive with my personality, because my looks haven't gotten me anywhere in life. The only time they help is when I want a one night stand, which I am not about, otherwise they are useless.

[Aarron]

not all are, i assume they are just because from experience they are always arrogant and self centered... the type that gets everything handed to them and finds themselves better than others.

i go to a gym that male models go to do there business to stay in shape and i get along with a lot of them but holy shit some are so arrogant even the other good looking people avoid them like the plague!

[kaylaS91]

Because putting those who they feel are more fortunate than themselves in a negative light, saying they're arrogant by default, makes them feel better in comparison. I guess it's a way in which they feel that they 'level the playing field' a bit.

[BiscuitesSwag]

They are either peanut butter and jealouse, or they think that attractive people always get compliments on their looks, which makes them bitter because they don't.

[KBob93]

They assume it's their only merit, hence the assumption that they haven't invested in much else.

[ak666]

I think a lot of people want to have this oversimplistic view of the world that people can't possibly be good at many things at once, like that someone who is beautiful cannot possibly have the greatest personality, that someone who is very intelligent cannot be a star athlete, things of this sort.

It's a kind of pathetic and oversimplistic way of looking at things.

[Anonymous]

lol i know what you mean my girlfriend told me ( well used to be my girlfriend now my ex ) that she thought i wasn't smart, deep and thought i was very shallow , when i asked her why she thinks that she replied with " well you are very good looking , dress really good and take care of yourself and work out... and from experience these kind of guys who care about these kind of stuff are usually shallow " i was like lol yeah you have a point but iam not like them and she agreed.

[523206720]

I don't assume that. I know many good looking people who are also very humble. I meet them in religious circles.

[aoifeislovable]

I think it's a jealousy thing, and many attractive people at confident which others mistake for arrogance

[Helpmeplease44]

jealousy, rage, generalizations, the usual.

you'll find it all on this site.

don't take it too hard.

[ConsultantIsBack]

Yes they do, especially on gag!! Omg they so do!! Below avg fuckers can just suck my dick!!!
Lmao

[Ferretman21]

People are always gonna hate on the internet. In person they just give you dirty looks, or laugh amoungst their pack of ugly faced no muscled hyena brothers lol.

You know what I mean.

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Ferretman21 ya for real.

I was way arrogant in this comment lol i overdid it a little didn't i?

[Ferretman21]

Not really, haters should suck a dick lol.

[ConsultantIsBack]

@Ferretman21 lol ya man

[apple24]

I can't help it. I just seen to many good looking jerks!

[Humping_Tornadoes]

They probably feel intimidated and insecure around attractive people.

[Omar5881]

It depends actually , cocoz a lot of hot people are arrogant coz they don't work on their personality ( from a personal experience )

[Anonymous]

Most of them are. I live in the land of looks and money. If you don't have either, people don't give a shit about you.

[thewanderingme]

they're jealous. looking for excuses to hate them

[Mistnigqa808]

exactly.

[rgb008]

Because they're jealous and intimidated

[Jon_Gre_g]

But what if they are a girl though?

[rgb008]

@Jon_Gre_g does gender matter?

[abundantlyrich]

They are or plain weird

[Kylesar]

Jealousy
Nothing big

[I_am_repulsive]

Because beauty is very subjective

[Anonymous]

Because they usually are.

[Anonymous]

Why did you just assume that?

[bubbletrouble]

Because many of them are

[Muhammad1999]

Usually just pretty girls are arrogant

[justbanANNAz]

good question.