I am 20 years old and I have no friends?

[Anonymous]

I'm 20 years old, and ever since I was 17 years old I had no friends. It's a long story why I have no friends. Let's just say that my best friends hated me all of a sudden and as an end result, I was the one who ended up alone, hurt, back stabbed, and betrayed. I also stopped talking to everyone (mutual friends, acquaintances, etc.). It also left me with this uncomfortable feeling around people. I felt like I couldn't trust anyone. Anyways, now I'm 20 years old and I still have no friends. Sometimes I'm okay with it, because I have my family. But sometimes I find myself feeling lonely and wishing I had someone to talk to and chill with. I also have this problem, where if I don't find a person good looking or interesting enough for me, then I won't even bother talking to them. I don't know why. I never go out anywhere (I hate going out alone), unless it’s with my family, or it’s college or work. I go to college, but I never came across anyone who is interesting to me. I go to work, and I actually like the people I work with, but they only see me as a coworker and nothing else. I really want to get out of this ‘no friends’ rut. It’s so hard to make friends too when you already don’t have any to begin with. It’s so embarrassing. How exactly would you tell someone that you have no friends without them taking it in a negative way? I just wish I could find someone that I can actually talk to, chill with, and be myself around. Right now, I’m working so many shifts just so I won’t find myself stuck at home.

[red324]

I have the same problem. Honestly I think it's just normal for my age range. I'm 24, Although you're 20 so it shouldn't be as much of a problem but in my age range, people are dating, getting married having kids. That's another problem I have. I hardly even bother to approach girls anymore, cause they never like me anyways or they're never single. I've tried like hell to hang out with people here and there, but everyone is so busy that it's rare for them to actually hang out with me. Really I just don't have the energy to hang out with anyone anymore.

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same boat. I have always gotten in with people who were friends prior to me. They welcome me in, we are friends for a few years and then I'm slowly weeded out it seems. I am loyal, honest, I'd give the shirt off my back to anyone... but I never have consistent friends. I really don't understand why either. But, I just forge forward and do my own thing. I hope someday to have a woman I can fall in love with and she can be my best friend. Things will be okay for you too, just try and be optimistic.

[Biggus_Dickus]

I'll be your friend ;)

[Anonymous]

I'm in the same exact boat.