I don't see it as weak. I think a lot of people just get the wrong idea when it comes to comparing masculinity/femininity and men/women, and I think this comes mainly from this idea that men and women are the same and are supposed to be held to the same standards.
Our gender roles weren't a product of some artificially created system called "the patriarchy" that only existed to benefit men over women. They were a product of male and female nature.
Most people when it comes to the genders, and in fact many other things, think in terms of modern civilisation. A lot of the beliefs around things like men/women only exist today because of our modern technology and because we live in a relatively safe society. But as humans we haven't "evolved", we still have the same programming and the same biological differences as we did in the past. The advances in technology making things a lot easier cause people to ignore these differences.
Men are physically stronger than women generally, that's a fact. In the past, in harder times when we were at constant war with rival tribes, we had to hunt large dangerous animals, fight off predators, this meant that men had to hunt and protect the tribe. Women wouldn't be strong enough, especially if they were pregnant or nursing one or more small children - and they needed to have children to sustain their tribe. They couldn't get away with many women choosing not to or choosing only to have just one, like we can today.
This is where masculinity/femininity comes from, and it's in our nature, even if people believe that it's no longer needed today which it is - the reason you're safe is because mostly men protect you - just a lot fewer men are needed for those roles than in the past when most would have been.
So masculinity = qualities that would make a good hunter/warrior - strength, courage, competence.
Femininity is more to do with nurturing, caring. Qualities that make a good wife and Mother.
It's an insult to a man to call him feminine because for a man to be useful at least back then he'd have to be strong, brave etc. Or else he'd be useless.
Femininity has never been an insult to women, only ever a positive quality. Only feminists see it as an insult because they have silly views about gender, and somehow think that in order to empower women they have to hold them to a male standard.
There was a time when male and female genders were opposite, and they complimented one another. There was no question about femininity being weak, and it was recognized as an inner beauty, strength, compassion, intuition, and understanding that men did not possess. Men were meant to be masculine to connect with the female to continue the species. I am not attracted to masculine women, and as a single male in my mid-fifties, it makes me deeply sad to see women not wanting to be feminine anymore.
Guys did not want to be called girlish because guys were created to be masculine. That is what makes the species work and continue in harmony. When some women became discontent being mothers is when society started to lose its foundations. If we continue on this current trajectory, the days of romance and wondrous love between men and women could become past memories. What a sad world that would be. We all need to recognize that women have a right to be treated with respect regardless how feminine they are.
Hell naw, women are just weak these days, in thinking that femininity somehow defines us as women.
Femininity just refers to biological di-morphic qualities of our gender.
You can still be taken seriously as a human being regardless if you are tomboyish or vibrantly girly.
Its all judged off your humanistic qualities.
A weak woman is still weak even if she is totally butch, because her core personal foundation is weak.
A strong woman is still strong even if she is a princess dress model because her core personal foundation is strong.
Strong personal foundations come from depths of self awareness, awareness of others, confidence, and a keen ability to judge situations well.
Men are iconic as the leaders and descision makers, which makes it seem such qualities are masculine; thus a woman like this can be mistaken as being less feminine.
In truth, women had to have the same aptitude - these qualities are gender neutral and vary between persons.
Hence why you can have weak men, as well as strong women, but weak men can still be very masculine, and strong women very feminine.
Femininity and masculinity are a phenomenon of the metaphysical which is why its difficult to define.
We do it very basically off pysiology, appearance and character - but these hardly do them justice lol
Yeah this has always really annoyed me. So many women distance themselves from femininity because they believe it's, dumb, vapid, weak and pointless, it's very much an ingrained into the culture that femininity is something to be shunned. I actually blame 3rd wave feminism for instead of elevating femininity it actually tried to force women to reject it. As i've gotten older I've actually come to understand what femininity means, and the answer isn't weakness but a transference of power from direct to indirect. One massive part about femininity is that it is considered as the main judge, the main power that decides life or death. It's no coincidence that Mother earth, is female, a being that is equal parts merciful and uncaring, and has the power to control everything around them. Socialisation and diplomacy, which are cornerstones in our society, basically what separates us from lesser animals is inherently feminine. Health and healing is feminine, why we've considered this less important than violence is confusing to me. Creativity and the arts are inherently feminine, that desire for introspection and thought bred critical thought. To me femininity is culture, wisdom, intelligence, the ability to become more than what nature sets out for us.
You could say, part of the reason that feminity is less valued is because in a male dominated society, which is most of history, they recognize what you said. They recognize that for the most part feminity is more about progress and expansion where masculinity is about aggression and stagnant movement. So they tried to suppress it to feel validated.
I don't completely agree though, there are elements of feminity and masculinity that contribute to all aspects of life. Culture, wisdom and intelligence as well as are can be masculine
@GreedyGiver651 I guess, but culture, wisdom and intelligence are the kind of traits that only really developed once we became social and lived in large social groups. Femininity has always been kind of been the conductors and manipulators of socialisation and human networks. I guess that's my reasoning. Culture also is very feminine for this social reason, but also of it's relationship to tradition, which is considered a very feminine domain.
That's how society is unfortunately. Being feminine is considered degrading. A man who is feminine and wears things women would typically wear, society considers it gross and below them. But when a girl wears something more masculine it can be more in powering and socially acceptable. Also masculinity is so damn fragile that men have to protect it all the time. From a very young age, boys are socialized to behave a certain way. It's pretty sad
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I think the feminine and the masculine compliment each other, where one is weak the other is strong and so on. They both have their strengths and weakensses.. this issue where women are wanting to be more masculine is feminist idiocy and indoctrination attempting to teach men and women that feminine and masculine are one in the same. That in order to be a fulfilled successful women you need to abandon your family and become a worker bee.. feminists actually shame women that choose to be mothers.. which is very sad, creating a life and guiding that life in to the future is the most important job one can have.. take a look at the statistics some time.. women are more unhappy now than they have ever been through history..
And no. I am not saying women just need to be confined to the home and be mom's. What I am saying is don't shame those that choose that path.
My wife as a for instance.. she doesn't want to be a stay at home mom.. totally respect and support that. And I will not shame her for her choice either.. that would be incredibly wrong.. If one of us had to give up their carreer though it would be her.. this is because I make double what she does.. when she gets out of school that might change and if it does I'd happily give up mine if needed.
Basically back on point, masculine and feminine they compliment each other neither is weaker or stronger than the other.
Very well said, I appreciate the interaction between weakness and strength. And I enjoy being the physically stronger one, while I understand that I may be less emotionally intelligent. It makes me feel like both parties contribute to a relationship in positive ways
Thanks sir!! I'm sure some will have issues with what I said though loo.
I think it is a beautiful thing to share with guys. Femininty can seen as creating a gap between sexes. But it's not bad. Embracing you feminine side is part of who you are as a woman. It Should be enjoyed. And men do like women that embrace parts of their feminine side. But I think confidence is also another part. I think we can be done with oh no there's a spider kill it. Just grab a paper towel and smoosh it and throw it in the garbage. Women should also be empowered to fix things around the house. I believe femininty is important but it just has a different context now a days. I think femininty changes as society changes.
This concept like any other one is quite definite, you can't say femininity is different for a woman than it is to another, every woman has her share of the the concept that along with other qualities has developed her character and her type of a woman, there's no woman with 0% femininity and there's no woman with 100% of it, there's always a balance between feminine energy and masculine energy in any human being, probably also species of organisms and maybe even objects.
With neglecting the physical aspect of femininity as for it's obviosity, the essence of femininity is class, which requires self-discipline, which leads to self respect and knowing of self worth. A feminine woman is reserved, emotionally mature, self-caring, humble, merciful, joyful and loving, she's caring and supportive.
That was my understanding to the concept of femininity, hope it's convincing enough.
Femininity is not weakness, though women who are feminine often have a different set of strengths and weaknesses. For one, the phrase 'throw like a girl' is often repeated, mostly by women who are trying to shrug off their feminine characteristics. Unfortunately, it's a biological fact that women are not nearly on the same physical level as men.
Men are great at making fast decisions, and women are great at connecting issues together and coming up with a plan on how to avoid future pitfalls. This is proof that men and women are designed to work with each other. Though today we are competing against each other and every woman thinks she needs to prove herself. Are you going to pay your boyfriend/husbands bills and take care of him financially? Of course not. So it makes no difference to men what you accomplish because they won't reap the benefits the same way women reap the benefits of successful men. You just become roadblock instead of partner in a realtionship.
I think femininity as a term is just a social construct, as well as masculinity.
It's like Yin & Yang in eastern philosophy: "Femininity" (Yin) is considered as weakness.
However, the western terms are contextually wrong. Why? Because...
Heterosexual females can be "masculine" (dominant) - i. e Tomboys.
Heterosexual males can be "feminine" (submissive) - i. e Sissies.
Therefore, terms like "femininity & masculinity" are completely incorrect, they are basically stereotypes of patriarchal society.
@grega239 Nature created male and female genders, but not "femininity" nor "masculinity", those are just so called "gender roles" (imposed by the religion).
You obviously haven't red my explanation :)
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Well femininity is supposed to be the yin to masculinity's yang. They're opposites. So if you think masculinity is strength, then femininity would have to be weakness. Now, I don't necessarily think that you have to be "weak" to be considered feminine. I think the whole strength vs weakness dichotomy means more physical weakness than weakness in everything else. Not many people are going to consider a girl feminine if she's benching 300 lbs and regularly arm-wrestles guys bigger than her. However, you can exude strength in other areas like emotional strength, perseverance, and resilience. No guy likes always saving a damsel in distress. I don't think looking at femininity as just weakness and masculinity as just strength is very helpful because they're much more than that. At the end of the day, guys just want a girl who makes him feel like a man (whatever that happens to be), and girls just want a guy that makes her feel like a woman.
Weak isn't how I'd put it. I'd say gentle is a better word. I understand why people think weakness though. Here at G@G a. k. a Femboys 'R' Us, the effeminate guys on this site hardly have an characteristic that you'd see in a male if you disregard anatomy. So in comparison a feminine guy would appear weak to a masculine one but I don't femininity in itself is weakness. It's different for women because they aren't held to the same standard. A woman who likes feminine things likely isn't a weak person, she can be independent and a great leader while still being feminine. A feminine man though likely is all negative traits. On the flipside a masculine female is seen as unappealing, not because of a strong personality but because they likely display traits a man would. I dont think being strong is gender specific
I don't think a woman being very feminine is weak, I just think it is a different kind of strength than masculine strength. Masculine strength I would argue is protectiveness often showing physical strengths. Femininity to me is best shown to me in a woman's bond with her children the way she cares for them I think women have more emotional strength than men. I think both femininity and masculinity are needed and that a world with only masculinity would be harsh, and a world with only femininity would be unprotected.
Well said.
Physically yes. Women are mostly physically weaker than men. That's not supposed to be insulting, but to be a fact. Else mental they could be equal. I wouldn't consider them as weak. My mother for example is mental a very strong person. Way stronger than my dad is. Both genders have their pros and cons. I would say that women aren't as good in driving cars as men are. They just think a bit differently. Whenever I'm driving with a female and want to park she used to tell me we are too big to get into the parking slot until we are in and she realizes it works. Or that a lot of women have problems to differ between left and right. No idea why it is how it is, but nevertheless I wouldn't consider women or feminity as weak.
Femininity is absolutely NOT weak. A woman can be very feminine and still be a strong person. A very feminine woman can be a doctor, or scientist or CEO or any other demanding profession. Or she might be a stay at home mom whose strength permeates through her whole family. Femininity and strength are not opposite things.
Thank you for posting this question!
I've heard a lot of people decry the decline of femininity, but female-ish things are always put down and considered less than or less valuable (ex: stay at home moms, being emotional, etc). Why would anyone want to identify with something that's considered less than?
Exactly. Feminine characteristics aren’t respected as they should be, so why expect women to behave in a way that apparently society looks down on anyway?
Men have have never though low of stay at home moms. No one ever shamed women for being emotional. Men are shamed for being feminine, women are rejected for being masculine. All these gender war was started by feminism.
Feminism criticises Ivanka Trump for taking the the background and just playing supporting roles to the white house and her fathers team. They wanted her to be a "strong woman" and be at the forefront and be inspiration to all young women. No Ivanka has her on dreams in fashion and design. Her goal is to support her father, her goal is not to outshine men.
Lots of people have shamed me for being emotional. Too many stay at home moms I see aren’t treated as well as they should be by their men. They are resented for not making income. They are shamed for being gold diggers when they need or want something their husband has to pay for. They are shamed for gaining weight. They are shamed for being too tired for sex. They are often the most cheated on I have found.
Well any man that shames a woman for being emotional is only when its irrational. Well u can't be a stay at home mom to a man who doesn't value it. A man can not resent her for not making an income cos the husband agreed to her staying home. Any woman can gain weight. Any woman can be too tired for sex. The cheated on part. U will need a statistical data to make that claim. Cos its not like guys are like my wife is useless, let me find me a useful side chick. Most of what u said is probably based on personal experience and assumptions
Observation. I’m sure as heck not being a stay at home mom.
The decision to stay at home is made by husband and wife. From my observation its women that think low of stay at home moms.
You should be a stay at home only if it benefits ur family more and u guys can live a good life on one income
I honestly believe you should be whoever you want to be and I see nothing wrong with being feminine especially with a person that you care or are in a relationship with as a guy I'd like to feel something different that im not just hanging out with my best friend but also the person I care for and love and I can be weak to and she can give me the care that I need and when she's feminine I can help her I feel like I have more of a role to do I can treasure her as my emerald making sure nothing hurts her I'm not saying she should not be independent she should do whatever she wants but weakness is being someone you are not for someone else😁
No. I think there are both feminine strengths and weaknesses and masculine strengths and weaknesses, and they compliment each other. Masculine strengths cover feminine weaknesses, just as feminine strengths cover masculine weaknesses. Together, they are a formidable force.
It's when one gender tries to be the other that things get confusing and competitive.
People (especially stupid men) believe that femininity is okay for women to have but not men because they’re “an alpha male”, whatever the hell that means but anyway...
It’s a stupid concept but... I think femininity and masculinity are purely social. Because everyone has met a “more masculine” woman or a “more feminine” man... and it doesn’t mean they’re lesbians or gays, or just means they don’t conform to societal rules
I agree with the idea around what you said. But throwing in insults makes people see you as a "man hater" and so they won't take you seriously. It's best to leave that out if you can, it's hard to advance the ideas if people can use your comment as an example or "man haters"
I didn’t hate on men... that’s their problem if their lack of reading comprehension doesn’t let them. I said stupid men, not men as a whole. Some men are stupid, and that’s a fact
I know. But again, like I said, sometimes it doesn't matter your intent. If people read what you said, and feel insulted, justifiably or not, then you are suddenly an example of a man hater or "feminazi". Sometimes how people see what we do, is more powerful then our intentions
I know what you mean trust me, but “sugar coating” doesn’t work either. I have to tell the truth as it is. I used to be like you’re telling me to be, but it simply doesn’t work. If people feel insulted that means that their ego rules over facts. And that’s their problem, not mine.
I don't sugar coat either. I really don't. But I don't throw insults. There is a good way to come off strong and firm, without throwing insults, it makes you less credible
Okay. I’ll take your advice.
Thank you. We are on the same side here, so I really appreciate that.
As females, we are the weakest sex. Although, we have our strengths. We can give life, we get periods, we have higher pain tolerance, we can see more colors than men, etc. There's differences to both male and female, its stupid to say that we're completely the same. There's nothing wrong with being feminine. Femininity has grace and beauty, its a good thing.
I have no idea if that part about women seeing more colors than men is true, but I guess I can't prove that it's not since I'm a guy, haha.
Since men are so much objectively stronger than women to be called femine is considered weak. I wouldn't say femine is weekness persay but masculinity is all about being strong mentally and physically. Feminity is kind like the opposite of that. Being patient and kind and caring.
I think that part of femonity encapsulates weakness. But I don't think it's a bad thing. Women are biologically weaker than men in some things and stronger in others. "The gentle sex" is a name that had been around for a long time, it's not a slander. Women are more caring, gentle, soft, weak, and loving. I don't see that as a bad thing, it's just how it is
Society is getting worst everyday... I dont wana be compare whit girl because im a man bit i dont say this in a bad way because i like to cook and im not girl or gay... I like to be independant and whit that comes Washing your clothes, cleaning the dish, cooking, cleaning the floor and very much... My opinion is that society have the Fault why? Because most of the time is about The TV MUSIC or even friends is all like a chain... Dont know if i get out of the point if it happen im srry😅
Femininity is being compassionate and it is sad that women would rather go out and be assholes like men it all boils down to the word that the left hates: Biology
Women are designed to care fo children Men are designed to hunt so that they can feed their family. This makes men more aggressive than women and women more compassionate than men
Women should be womanly and men should be manly
Men desire wonemly females
Women are supposed to want manly men
Sadly it's all got fucked up and women now chase pretty boys with plucked eyebrows and skinny jeans.
Women have huge power but they sacrifice it cosbthed rather be the same as men
Men's still under the thumb of women's great power act and dress like girls.
Weird world really
Its just different. Not worse, not better. Different. Men see it as an insult because men should not be feminine. Just like women shouldn't be masculine. Its feminism, and other retarded shit that encourage women to be more masculine. Thats one of the reasons why a lot of people call feminism cancer to society
A woman is at her strongest peak when she's secure in her God given femininity , who masters her biological composition and her inner spiritualality. Masculinity performed by a woman , is a weakness briught onward by her insecurity with her own femininity.
Well said. Thank you.
I think gender roles are bullshit.
Fuck femininity, fuck masculinity. Why can't we all just be individuals who like different things?
We're so concerned about fitting into roles and labeling people.
Masculine people like feminine people. Feminine people like masculine people. Have u ever also considered some people like those roles
No, femininity is absolutely not weak. The thing I hate the most about modern feminism is that it essentially implores women to abandon their femininity and act like men. Some men don't like to be seen as feminine because it is not what we are built for, and it is not what women want in a man.
Women should embrace the beauty and elegance of their femininity.
There are women like me who would do that but men too often act superior when I do. I have to behave masculine because it’s the only way men won’t walk all over me.
Yeah I hate women playing the victim so often, blaming men and being so passive in dating waiting for men to make the move when they are clearly more interested in him than he is in her.
Men don’t like to be chased.
Not true. Maybe some won't but the majority will like it cause trying to find a girl is like having a 2nd job. Everyone wants to feel wanted at times.
Men like when women show interest but men are born to be the ones to do most of the pursuing.
It would actually benefit everyone if women approached too because they would get to choose the guys they like, not get approached by creeps, not getting catcalled as much, and guys wouldn't act weird and desperate feeling they need to be perfect and impress the girl cause they know they would get approached too and have other chances to meet someone.
Making statements like men are born to pursue and girls shouldn't put in effort is why some guys treat girls like shit when they learn how to attract women easily cause girls just sound like entitled brats.
I have approached and it rarely works. The only men that want it easy are the ones who are lower value or insecure.
And you think that's any different to guys?
How many have you actually approached? Cause you know you're going to be rubbish at it until you've done hundreds, even a thousand or more approaches in different situations to different people until you get good at it.
It doesn’t matter because I’ve already got someone. And I didn’t have to chase. He moved mountains for me and was happy to.
So like other girls on this site who've declared they approach, you've probably approached like 2 guys, it hasn't worked out so you've now decided it won't ever work so now it's the mans job. Just be realistic about it, guys have standards too. It can take sometimes 20 approaches to get a number from someone, and even then it might take getting 5 numbers for someone just to respond, let alone get a date.
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Most males of any species are hunters/warriors which is why males have more physical strength and endurace. being a hunter/warrior is a gender role or are you going to tell me that lions , elephants, monkeys etc. also have a religion that created these gender roles. and if being a warrior is not a gender role, why are men drafted and not women
I think the strongest kind of women, is a woman who can be strong, and tough and successful, and still be able to be feminine
I like women who are feminine.
Masculinity is a mans thing it's what makes us unique. And femininity is a women's thing it's what makes them unique in my opinion we should stop trying to be like the other, it's not how we should be.
I think the general consensus is, whether anyone realizes it or not, is that yes, femininity is weak. But is it actually? Well, that depends on how you define femininity, the specific feminine act in question, the context that the action takes place in, and then what it's being compared to. Some of the traits of femininity that I've seen most people hold are: being emotionally expressive, being empathetic, being intuitive, being submissive, etc.
Are any of these traits weak? Well, it depends on their context. It often takes strength to express one's emotions, it is good to be empathetic, it's good to be intuitive, and it's sometimes good to be submissive. Like I said, it depends on the definition and context. I personally would define femininity as: submission and passivity and I would define masculinity as: authoritarianism and aggression. All of these traits are good in certain contexts and bad in other contexts.
So no, I don't think the acts of being submissive and passive are weak. On the contrary, there is strength in them. For example, if I am the boss of a job and I call the shots, then I am the authority, however I couldn't accomplish anything alone, my workers, although submissive, make it possible for my plans to be actualized.
Yeah people do cobsider feminity to be weakness. I don't know why. Because women are the most strongest emotionally. And I think how us women handle such tough life situations is a big deal. I don't know why people think feminism to be weak
Women are not strongest emotionally lol
No because women get offered countless tissue when they cry. We cry to but when we do cry, no one cares. We deal with it alone.
Yeah. That's a different issue and I saw a question about it a few days back. That when a guy cries they're considered weak. Obviously guys cry. They're human too. Its just the society. But what I said about feminism was a bit different because only a girl can know what women go through. And how hard they push themselves to be strong. I didn't say men are weak.
This is not even the issue of being considered weak. Its more like you are a man, its almost like men don't need help. Our complains are seen as whining, a man is supports to he self sufficient, we don't get hand outs for being men (like women do sometimes. All types of programs to help women). Not even his own friends or family would help sometimes cos he is a damn man. If we were married and had a fight and u called ur Bestie (that is also married) and tell her (emotional support) that u can't stay another night with me. She would ask u to come over and her husband wouldn't mind u staying there for weeks until u got sorted out.
While u are there they will listen to ur worries and comfort u when u cry ur eyes out.
If the tables were turned, as a man, after I got a court order to leave the apartment for my wife and kids which i am still paying for. how would I tell my married bestie that i need a place to crash?
I don't think i mentioned anything about feminism. The catering for babies example u gave wasn't a good one. Most guys couldn't last taking care of a babies cos they lack baby skills, men are not trained or prepared for "motherhood"
Men are supposed to be dominant, masculine. Women like being dominated. A guy who likes being dominated is very unattractive
A lot of women don’t really want to be dominated. I like men who just don’t try to be.
Being submissive does not mean you can't have self esteem or be confident. It's just a different approach to things
@GreedyGiver651 No by definition it does. It's all about reliance on another person, being dependent on someone else. " I have never heard I man say, I hope she's dependent on me for existence"
Submissive and dependent are two different things. And even if by definition it does, in practice and in life it doesn't.
@GreedyGiver651 How? submission relies on a need for authority, a need to be controlled and validated by someone else, how is that not dependence. I mean sexually it's the most common fantasy, for both men and women but personality wise it's not that uncommon.
No, submissive people do not "need" any of that. Just like dominant people don't need someone below them. It's a want, a personality style and conflict resolution style.
@GreedyGiver651 I don't see how changing "need" to "want" changes anything. It's still a fundamental idea that one wants to seek assistance from the other constantly.
The difference is one means , like you said, one who wants assistance from others constantly. To in social situations tend to be more submissive or open. There are submissive and dominant people who don't need others to validate their way of interacting, on either side
@GreedyGiver651 In practice this is actually super draining and horrible. I'm not saying we shouldn't be open, I think a blend of both is healthiest but relying on other people is bad for the individual as well as those around them.
Ask a group of feminists on an Island with no men to move a heavy crate some where. Watch them look for a man to move it for them. Physicually yes, family wise HELL YES
Personally i think the part that people are pretending to be better than there fellows and thus they want to be stronger in ever dicipline which then begins to reflect masculine values and the problems begin when people of either gwnder begin to stray too far feom who they once were in the interest of being the stronger person
I think people who stand on a pedestal trying to shove their opinions in everyone's face are weak because they need to be justified by others
Femininity is just a concept it's strength is based solely on those who believe in it
How could feminity be weak? Women undergo pain every month which is equivalent to hitting balls, feminity is not weak. females can endure more pain, emotional trauma and and physical tolerance. Evolution has made them weak but even with that they excel in lifting things up and let's not forget the art of multitasking.
While masculinity deals most of the things by muscular strength feminity deals with wit and smartness
Actually its quite a powerful trait, i find it the opposite..
might be surprised how many women succeed through life just using there femininity.
Hell no females are just as equal in every way as a man i have seen women that have won against guys in boxing.
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Btgs012, you are the type of guy I like.
It isn't weak. Masculinity and feminity are different, each have their own strengths and weaknesses, they are equal overall.
Man. 9 years of school time. 9 female homeschool teacher. Never once not getting smacked. Never know femininity is weakness at all
Yes and no. Girls are very picky and choosy. Girls literally say "I want a tall man to make me feel small, femenine and protected" so in that sense, yes, I think femininity is weak.
Then girls get to say "since guys have to audition and ask us out and please us if they want to be with us, we are the gatekeeper for them to be seen as men or just beta male losers" in that context it's a strength.
No, women should be more feminine
too many masculine women these days. if i wanted to date a man, id be gay
How are women too masculine? What are they doing?
I think women should be feminine. They shouldn't have abandoned it. Woman shouldn't try to be like men. of course men don't want to be compared to anything feminine. Woman could be strong in the mind anyway if she finds the right man it won't matter.
Society needs both masculinity and femininity to balance out society.
I never thought of femininity as "weak", just opposite, of masculinity.
I think people are too hung up on what is feminine and what is masculine. It's all bullshit anyway. Just be you however you choose to be
uhh, define weak.
In society? You're weak in society if you're a dick.
In a fight? You don't want to be feminine, whether you're male or female you don't want to be feminine lol
I wouldn't say weak, but soft hearted. Nonaggresive
Women are supposed to be feminine. Men masculine. When that changes things go wrong.
Like what?
How is that related?
Isn't that the point of asking questions?
You sounded so confident in your response, wouldn't you want to prove it?
I'm 23. Are you going to keep making excuses or actually back up what you said?
No, that's not by definition
That's a big jump in logic, there are many feminine men with lifelong partners. If you honestly feel we are just driven by nature and biology then it's a good bet you aren't accepting of the fact that humanity has evolved beyond that
@GreedyGiver651 yes it is. I'm assuming your theory comes from the idea that, women won't choose to sleep with him, they are the judgers. In reality this mirrors the very feminine power, to judge who is and isn't worthy, much like mother nature.
Not everyone is straight by the way. Your assumption is off, considering it didn't add up well, could you rephrase it?
Feminism isn't a fantasy, and what does that have to do with your comment, feminity and feminism are two different things. You made a claim and I'm challenging you to support it. If you can't, then it's probably a false claims.
It's the belief that everyone is equal, different, but equal. Again, try and distract, your main point remains unproven.
Femininity isn’t weak at all, in my opinion. I think women should embrace their femininity a lot more.
No. It might give that impression sometimes if it's like "omg I broke a nail" type of feminine. But the best thing is to be feminine and kick ass!
i think it is a lot stronger. It does not abide by the rules the masculine abides it is free to roam and empathize with another, while the mascline is tied to expectations.
No, I'm straight but I am in touch with my feminine side to a point. That being said if you lose your feminine side everybody has it I feel you will lose important part of you. Could save a lot more but I don't really want to text that much.
I love it, i think femininity is a great trait for women to have. Its what makes females unique and masculinity what makes men unique.
No, I believe society should be more accepting of femininity, I tend to enjoy some traditionally feminine things and some traditionally masculine things, but I'm straight and a male
No of course not. I find it sexy and many women are confident and strong.
God created both femininity and masculinity. God is powerful.
Femininity is a different kind of strength. It's only a weakness if you let it be a weakness.
Def not, it’s just different but we’re used to thing of strength as a synonym with masculinity
Essentually it has power over masculinity in many ways, but femininity is incapable of standing alone in the world.
Femininity is weakness and I don’t understand why women want to be like men
Because femininity is viewed as weak, that’s why.
Nothing wrong with being weak!
Um yeah there is, it makes you vulnerable for being taken advantage of.
You know what always counterbalances being weak? Having a gun! Guns are a good equalizer!
I have two but I’ll kill with my bare hands if I have to. Yeah that’s not “feminine” but we live in a time where men have thought they can have their way with me. They thought wrong.
Historically this is a great time for women. And I mean it’s wrong to clump all men in the category of wanting to have their way with women. I’m not saying thats what you’re doing, but starting this whole is femininity weakness is just stupid. Most men don’t try taking advantage of women! When you’re going into an interaction with a man in that mind set of, “you’re going to try to take advantage of me,” then you’re going in already hating that man. Nothing good could come from it. Being weak isn’t bad because most men won’t exploit you. Stop associating with dipshits and on the same level men should stop being dipshits! No man should take advantage of a woman!
Too many men in my past took advantage of my niceness and hospitality.
Leave it in the past! Don’t let it run your life and make you a miserable person!
It’s only in the past cuz I had to get mean.
That’s one way to live but I don’t expect you’re a very happy person!
I’m better than I was. No one messes me.
Keep telling that to yourself! Maybe one day it’ll be true!
There’s no need for cattiness. I’m just being honest. Men say they want the nice girl. Sure they might like her, but they certainly don’t respect her.
That’s another generalization! Not all men are like that. You’ve had bad experiences. I don’t know your life story but I’ll give you that. It happens. I’m sorry it happens, but it happens. Doesn’t mean it will always happen. Failure is the path to success! Words to live by. Don’t be afraid to fail or get hurt. It’s the only way to succeed and truly be happy! You can be better off now, but you’re possibly missing out on great things by being mean! Experiences that could change your life just flying by because you got hurt in the past. Leave it there and move on with life. You’re only hurting yourself.
I’m sure there are exceptions, but as we all know, exceptions don’t make the rule. I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just what that it is what it is and that’s why women are the way they are.
I have faith in humanity, so I would argue that the men you are talking about are the exceptions to the rule!
You’re young, give it time.
I wish you all the happiness in the world, but I doubt you can have it while being so negative.
Absolutely not. As a gay guy, I grew up being shamed for it, and I was often asked if I wanted to be a girl, as if there was something wrong with being female or just feminine. It's not weak, it's incredibly brave.
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