Do you physically meet society's approval and expectations?

Question

I would say "Are you attractive looking?" but that's subjective. Plus, I mean more than looks. So me just asking these questions would be better. If you answer "yes" to anyone of these, then your answer to this main question is also Option A: Yes.

- Are you tall? 6'1"/185 cm or taller for men, or 5'9"/175 cm or taller for women.
- Are you considered 'good looking face' in the face according to most people? A 7 out of 10 or higher.
- Are you considered 'sexy' body-wise, according to most people? Fit, athletic, well-endowed, youthful, little to no scars, etc.
- Are you in your prime age? 20 to 28 for young men, 36 to 48 for mature men, 18 to 30 for women.
- Are you well-endowed? A penis seven inches or larger, or breasts DD or larger.

I literally fit none of these criteria here.
Short and pathetic; an "F" grade in height. Ugly as hell. Overweight. Small penis. Neither young or "finely aged," and small dick.
I'm just wondering, am I the only one who's considered universally unattractive as well? Or are there others out there?

Daniela1982 · Accepted Answer

I'm not any of these that you listed.

Are you tall? 6'1"/185 cm or taller for men, or 5'9"/175 cm or taller for women.
- Are you considered 'good looking face' in the face according to most people? A 7 out of 10 or higher.
- Are you considered 'sexy' body-wise, according to most people? Fit, athletic, well-endowed, youthful, little to no scars, etc.
- Are you in your prime age? 20 to 28 for young men, 36 to 48 for mature men, 18 to 30 for women.
- Are you well-endowed? A penis seven inches or larger, or breasts DD or larger.

So I guess you and I, and I'm sure quite a few of us, all belong to your club, which makes us all - - -

Do you physically meet society's approval and expectations?

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Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I fit 3 out of 5, as I'm not tall enough nor large enough there. I have never really cared what societies standard or expectations are.

It really hasn't stopped me from going about life, I have to choose to be single as there is always someone else after one breakup ready to go, and I like to wait a bit and try living life single sometimes.

What is interesting is where is the standards from society about people being somewhat intelligent and not a bunch of half wits. Unless this was specifically for physical appearances. I know people that can hit all 5 but a rock is smarter than they are.

HighValue · Answer

I am 6' tall, lift weights and ride bikes to stay in shape, My face is attractive according to many women over the years, you can see my age, and 7".

That still doesn't mean it is easy to find a good partner though. When I want someone with an acceptable past, not promiscuous, doesn't/didn't do drugs or heavy alcohol drinking, doesn't have kids from someone, isn't greedy/selfish, isn't sexist against men, etc. then it makes it nearly impossible regardless of my traits.

My advice to you would be to take one year to work on yourself while ignoring others. Get in shape gradually so you can stick to it (not dieting, just add exercise), and think about your dress style. Certain dress styles look good on some people, but not as good on others, same with hair style. Those things can all be changed.

Some people do prefer different traits too so you aren't totally doomed. For example I prefer women 5' 4" and under that are skinny with small breasts, though I know the majority of guys prefer them larger.

OpenClose · Answer

I mean I guess. I don't think I'm super unattractive anyway.

In my experience, 5'10" is still considered "tall". I'm 6'2" but honestly I don't think that counts for much.

I think I have a good face. My facial hair grows rather thick and almost naturally groomed, rather than patchy or some sort of neck-beard. I have dark blonde hair that can pass for either blonde or brown. I guess like Jaime Lannister. Main complaint is that my jawline is wider than my head, yet my mouth is a little small. So a little less "Henry Cavill" and a little more "Got punched in the jaw and now it's swelling". Or perhaps "Elon Musk". Like I'm jealous Timothee Chalamet and Tom Hiddleston for their epic pretty-boy faces. A v-Shape goes a long way. But I still can't complain. Like, I'm usually quite pleased when I look in the mirror.

I do have a receding hairline as well. But like, it's receding in a relatively hollywood style. Plus I've shaved bald before and got lots of compliments.

My weight is the bigger problem. I mean I used to be just below the minimum normal BMI, but now I'm just above the upper end. 200lb, and less of it is muscle than it should be. I could eat several pizzas and still be 200. Or simply not eat for a week and still be 200. It hasn't changed more than +/- 5lb since probably 2013 or 2014. Not a perfect body, but nice to know it's stable.

I'm 30. I still feel 20. And I still wish I were 20. So I guess that's too young to be a Henry Cavill and too old to be a Tom Holland.

But I mean I don't date much so I'm not sure it has counted for much.

PoopyPoop · Answer

I think so, sorta! It is dangerous territory with me! I'm usually either the first person you want at a party or the last person you're hoping doesn't show up. It depends on the person and context.

Overall, I somewhat know about how to behave at the lowest common denominator level. Like don't pee in front of a tree at a funeral and don't make jokes. But you know, I see a girl with nice breasts and if I find myself looking at them too much, I bring them up in the convo even in front of my wife. And some people don't like that.

Cause my wife probably noticed them too. And that level of being unfiltered is a mixed bag with societal expectations. I think I'm breaking them all the time. But the actual execution in practice tends to fare well with 90% of people. I also look okay for my age.

Xtcy2083 · Answer

Um... well, it's hard to say, because (among other reasons) our appearance is never constant, and for example when we first get up in the morning we're not exactly looking our best (which is why so many of us spend so much time in the bathroom). And I also have to admit that weight can be a real issue for many people as well, in that they will put on or lose weight easily, and it's hard to remain the "ideal" size. Then you've got society's ever-changing beauty standards (ex. it wasn't always the case that a curvy big ass on a woman was considered attractive, but now it is).

Beautyforeverybody · Answer

’m taller than 5’9 .
I don't know how I would rate my face as it is subjective but I usually hear positive stuff about my face.
I am 25 so yes, I’m in my “prime”.
I am in good shape and work out. So I would say I’m fit.
I don’t have DDs or a huge butt. I am overall slim looking but still have some curves
So let’s say 3.5/5 meh

Dana223 · Answer

See there's the problem. You assume "society" "expects" you to hit a degree of attractiveness. Truth is, society rather expects you just not to be overly poorly dressed or have a minimum degree of hygiene.

What I mean is, that on the grand scheme of things if you're just out shopping or doing your errands you should (simply put) not stink and not have your hands apparently dirty when you pick the bread off the shelf. Maintain at least such a degree of dental hygiene that your mouth does not stink like dead fish when you talk to someone.

Other than that, in job market and office, many people believe that you care of about your business as much as you care about yourself. Have no tears and stains on your clothes if you meet your peers. Caring about yourself (see above) has nothing to do with biological properties you're born with.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

Weight is changeable.
Yesterday I saw this very short bodybuilder who beat up his girlfriend and was imprisoned. She later married him but he was still sent to prison.
He got a girlfriend in the first place. I think he was "not handsome" according to society.

And preferences are not the end.
There were men who "preferred" different body types and were interested in me. And it wasn't in sex because I don't sleep around. 😀

I meet most but not all of the requirements.

Also, some people I know would say my weight is perfect and others would say it isn't.
I like my current weight and
I actually would like to gain "a little more" weight for the sake of BMI. I will like my weight even more then. . but I'm not fussing.

One woman's trash is another woman's gold.

KlinkyCoder · Answer

- Are you tall? Not "tall" by these standards, I am 5'7" and perhaps sometimes look like 5'8"
- Are you considered 'good looking face' in the face according to most people? Either average-looking or on the higher-end of average-looking.
- Are you considered 'sexy' body-wise, according to most people? Not "sexy" I heard, but in decent shape.
- Are you in your prime age? 20 to 28 for young men, 36 to 48 for mature men, 18 to 30 for women. I am 30 years.
- Are you well-endowed? A penis seven inches or larger, or breasts DD or larger.
Decline to comment.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Not a fan of societal standards, but technically yes I do meet expectations. I'm tall (5'11), slim and semi toned. I'm 25. F cup breasts, etc.

Msputiton · Answer

Doesn't matter to me.
I am perfect for me, because this is how i was created, and that's good enough for me. I'm 5'5 been told I'm too skinny. Very small breasts, but i love all of me because this is how i was meant to be.

Same goes for you, you're perfect because you are meant to be that way, small dick overweight, it's who you were meant to be. Be proud of yourself. And more to you then what is outside

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Well going by this then I am yes for 3/5 on these ones, but I believe that this is a little extreme as well from a societal standpoint. Subjective views are what should be driving desire at the end of the day.

No disrespect to you or your views with what I am about to say here my guy, but I feel a lot of these standards are something you would find on forums or blogs from angry and jaded men. Not something to go by in my eyes unless you want to feel down about yourself.

England4eva · Answer

Sorry I’m too lazy to read more than the headline. I am average at best I’m not hideous but I definitely know I’m below the attractive look. But I’m honestly ok with it. I get attention when I’m friendly and I do not cry at my reflection. I feel like the pressure to look a certain way has just got crazy. We are supposed to look different to each other. Imagine twinning with every person in this entire world... you would be desperate to stand out differently.

Anpu23 · Answer

I am 6 foot tall not 6'1"... No
I am good looking in the face
I have many many scars, currently overweight, but have other traits you mentioned
Im 52 a little old
I acted in porn in my youth... So um, yah...

I also have positions of power and authority (currently CEO of one company, site leadership member of another and sit on a board of directors for a third), as well as a land owner near a metropolitan area. All of which are desirable traits as well.

PeachJuice · Answer

Haha, I definitely do not lmao.

Height: 5'3
Face: Have been called average on several occasions.
Body: I'm not skinny, but not fat, pretty curvy, cup size is a 38C.

Pretty sure I'm mega ugly by society standards.

RainInOsaka · Answer

I am a 3 out of 5. Im 6 foot as a woman, well endowed and in my prime years. But i think im a 6/10 and body wise not athletic anymore.

sammy_sammy · Answer

I dunno I'm 5'9, slim and lanky so I feel like I don't really fit beauty standards bc I don't have big boobs or wide hips.

diamonddreams · Answer

Aren't these standards a bit subjective and changeable from place to place and culture to culture?
Are you sure these aren't just your individual preferences?
I've seen questions on Gag and other forums about breast size and most men seem to prefer small or medium sized breasts

DizzyDesii · Answer

Well i got the age and the boobs. But i dont really care about the rest as long as my man likes it

TrueConfection · Answer

Nope, I don't meet those standards. Someone found me attractive enough to marry me though and he's still attracted to me.

Anonymous · Answer

I literally am so close to fitting all of those. And I don't care less. F*ck society. You superficial motherf*ckers can kiss my ***.

Society: But I'm not superficial... lol
Me: Then why are you wearing makeup today... foh

Enigma42 · Answer

I'm a total no-no in society I'm a vagabond. I'm not tall 6 inches I'm a dwarf. My face is like a potato I'm quite chubby Yes I'm in a prime age my twenties Last criteria I will ask What ails you?

Not_Average · Answer

I meet those standards although I like to look at myself as carrying more value than the shallow parts of my genetic makeup.

pleasestopthis · Answer

I'm at the right age, but I don't fit into the "hottie" category. I'm pretty normal looking, nothing too great

XXblack88 · Answer

I don't think so. Society' approval and expectations are pretty high

Slartybartfast · Answer

Sure , I'm six two 200 pounds of lean muscle.  Not that I care, I don't even date anymore.

Fuentes · Answer

Yeah but its all about money in the end

Leonharted · Answer

I have answered yes to at least one of these.

Mangospacho · Answer

I was so close. Just one inch away.

Prettygurl12 · Answer

I am... acceptable.

disgustingweebtrash · Answer

Nope it's over

Sorue · Answer

I'm going with no.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

No and I don’t care

Exterminatore · Answer

Yes.

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