Do you have high standards?

[jennifer_bloom]

I realize my standards have gotten higher over the years, guys I used to be deeply attracted to would not even get a morning coffee with me now. My standards for friends isn’t that high, 600 pound people are welcome as friends, when it comes to who I might marry, I’m more selfish about who I choose to include in my life.

[worldscolide]

No, but thats because im married. I dont need to worry about things like that. Prior to marriage though my standards did get quite high, but thats because i was sick of the women i was choosing, they tended to be abusive, or have severe mental baggage or worse were secretly drug addicts. I resolved to do better, and i met my wife.

[coachTanthony]

Yes almost detrimental to what I want.

[TommyWiseau69]

As time goes on I'm becoming more open to lowering my standards. I've been attracted to skinny women for a long time but i've noticed a lot of times that most of them are complete slutty bitches with nasty personalities with a massive ego. I've noticed that the nicest women are usually like fat/thick women i don't know why it just is. Might because of beauty standard bullshit, but the minute an attractive skinny woman shows a shitty personality my attraction goes away immediately. The minute a fat/thick girl shows a good caring personality my attraction immediately begins and i'm not normally attracted to heavier girls. Often I find that the attractive people tend to be the worst people. Average/below average people tend to be better because they know they don't have all the traits to be the most attractive especially from a physical standpoint and don't develop an ego.

[ChiTown33]

I wouldn't say high. I'd say my standards are "more focused" now. I can converse with just about anyone. I have a million acquaintances. I have a handful of true friends. And to have a "relationship" there has to be substance there, or why pursue that? ALL HEALTHY relationships require work on BOTH people's part. True if you're with the right person it'll be less work and flow more naturally. But if they're not willing to work a bit why would I waste either of our time and efforts.

[Gibbons44]

Not star high, but standards, yes.

The difficulty is more in being with someone who is good enough/sexy enough etc - and not precluding the arrival of the 'right one' into my life - nor causing nor going through any suffering about any of it (not because of the missed chances nor because of say being with someone who is that 'good enough').

Some girls can handle that well, graciously, some get guided to be greedy/selfish and turn it into a pain/end up casing suffering.

Boys are probably the same, I might be one of the exceptions that I am good looking but cause no drama/do not like to argue and am a total stranger to being coercive.

[es20490446e]

Curiously this happened to me recently.

I just visited the social media profiles of two girls I used to like (I very rarely visit social media, but I guess Christmas).

Both got single. I was thinking that, maybe, I should contact them.

Then I realized I want something better, so I didn't.

[Anonymous]

Yes and no. My standards have raised in the quality of the man’s character and lowered in terms of beauty. There are things I won’t compromise on, but I don’t mind if a man is ordinary looking with a gut. As long as he’s not ugly and fits my personality requirements.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I have no idea. I want someone that's loyal, funny, smart, has similar interests and makes the first move. I'd like someone that's attractive to me, but I have no preference in height, race, body build, etc as long as she's not grossly overweight. I'm rather thin besides a bit of a stomach as i can't get rid of it unless I starve myself.

[RockyHammock]

People's standards raise as they get older and there's nothing wrong with that.

I. e. Immediately after high-school I would have been attracted to any girl with a pulse. Nowadays it's quite different and that's a good thing.

[Random_g]

I don't know about "high standards" ..

But I do have standards in choosing my life partner

[PatriceONeal]

Yeah thats called being a privileged modern woman. You're all spoiled for choice but the men in your choices swiped right for sex and not love. And that's where you all get lost thinking you'll land a chad when you won't. 🥸

[humanearth]

Nope, she must be a Tomboy, tough as nails and can fight like a dude and not be a drunk

Everything else, I'm cool with

[WhitneySnow]

I do have high standards but I focus more on personality and chemistry than looks

[LiamJHayden]

My standards are not obese and not a drama queen. In Modern Day USA those often seem like high standards.

[TheMoreMiffed]

yes i want to marry a handsome rich black man i want to have four kids but that is impossible i think i will die a virgin

[Anonymous]

I don’t but I wasn’t aware that people take things for granted when given “ easily “

[LovingJo]

Yes, but nowhere near as high as they used to be.

[Anonymous]

I've been told I have

[Agape93]

Yeap

[Mamasanma]

I try to