Is my married boss leading me on?

[heavenly_28]

Recently I went back to a job I used to work at just for the summer. The other night my boss invited me to come have a drink with him, we ended up drinking to much and talking about some pretty intense sex topics. He seems happily married but since this night we have been testing back and forth non stop and they normally get pretty explicate about the things he wants to do to me sexually. I have had a thing for him for years now but never did anything because he is married. The problem is he had not invited me to his place or suggested that we hook up, been over a week now and starting to think he just likes testing, I on the other hand want this to go somewhere or end. Like I said he talks about his wife all the time when we are at work but still texts me every night for hours . What should I do? Is he just using me to play out his fantasies or does he want something more?

[Annamanna]

Don't do it. Don't try to make it go farther. Your saying he gets very explicit about what he wants to do with you? Does he say anything about love, the future or positive personality characteristics? If the answer is no then you know he is ultimately interested in cheating on his wife with you or possibly trying to bring the "chase" or "excitement" into his life. Also - most cheaters never change their ways, if something were to happen and you ceased to be a challenge because you were already his, you may not be the only one on his mind.

The problem is that you've never been asked to hook up with him? Without a shred of emotional attachment? The problem is that you see this as an emotional attraction and he most likely sees it as "gettin it in".

[ALWAYSclassy]

How is he leading you on? You're the one being a fool by entertaining advances from a married man and thinking it means something. He's trying to cheat and you're being delusional. Either way stop acting like you're some victim who's being led on and realize that this is a MARRIED man you're talking about. Obviously he's not trying to play Scrabble with you, he wants to f***. This is completely inappropriate as he is your boss and in a position of power over you. I suggest you get a black composition book, start keeping times and dates and LEAVE THIS MAN ALONE. don't talk to him unless it's about work and let him know that you can't fraternize with him anymore.

[calialltheway1993]

he's no good. He's bored and wants nothing but too have a bit fun. How would you feel if your husband did this with his coworker? Now imagine how the wife would feel...

[heavenly_28]

I think about her I do since I have met her a few times at work, I am single and he is the married one, just something exciting about it, not expecting him to leave his wife for me (not that dumb) just really like him is all

[calialltheway1993]

there's nothing wrong liking a married man because its the way you feel and you can't change what you feel inside. You can pretend that you don't like him but youd be fooling yourself. But he's the bad person in this situation because one he's basically cheating and two he's playing you. You have to move on to someone single and whose willing to do anything for the both of you, not just his pleasure.

[Taltos]

Do you know what ''leading someone on'' even means? Obviously not. He's not leading you on, he's having a bit of (in his eyes) innocent fun. Maybe he's a bit bored at home. But if he's even half a man he will never hook up with you. And if you were a conscientious person you'd never even think about hooking up with someone who's already married and possibly has children.

I'd say get a life of your own and don't meddle in other people's because you'll definitely regret it sooner or later.

[heavenly_28]

ouch, I never text him and I tried to talk to him and tell him he was married, but he says it is all in fun. I am a good person and have a good life, but there is something exelerating about being chased by a man I have wanted for years. Hard to stay strong all the time

[goodfeeling]

He is playing you, strictly for his own sexual desires, whatever they may be. Don't expcect a relationship, if that is what you are interested in.