Do you find it worrying that 53 percent of American women from 29 to 39 are childless and unmarried?

Question

For the first time in America history has it been that low. I think modern feminism and the sexual revolution caused this. Do you think it's a problem? And why?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I mean not enough children being born and an ageing population does create huge problems, we can see that in other countries like for example China, Korea and Japan. They’re desperate for people to have more kids but turns out it’s not an easy trend to reverse so the sociatal and economic issues will only continue to grow.

For the individual it could be very upsetting and a huge lifelong sorrow as well if they actually want children but for example can’t afford it, can’t find a partner they want a family with, can’t because of fertility issues or whatever the problem may be. But a lot of people these days sinoly don’t want kids. They want to ”focus ob their career” or dedicate their lives to pets or travel. It’s ok to not want kids, but in general I think sociaty has moved towards a more individualistic mindset and a lot of people lack family values nowadays. Why is another question compeltely, but personally I think things like people who are younger adults today grew up in daycare and didn’t see their family much. Both parents worked, still struggled financially and were exhausted and that’s the impression these now adult kids have of parenthood - that it’s hard, requires you to work all the time and still only afford the basic stuff because everything is so expensive, you don’t see your kids much because work/daycare/school anyway and it just appears very tiring and like it causes lots of stress and problems to be a parent. It’s not weird that lots of people then decide that no, I don’t want that kind of life I’d rather just skip out on kids and have a more calm, peaceful life filled with travel or whatever they may like. They’ve also always been told to not get pregnant/get someone pregnant or your life is over, don’t have kids until you’re older and experienced what you want to experience and so on. Those who do have kids get told not to have more than two, don’t have them too close in age and yada yada yada. People who have more than two kids or close in age get judged and told, with a horrified or judgmental tone, things like ”but now you’re for sure done having kids”, like it’s someone elses business or thing to decide.

cosmicallyinclined · Accepted Answer

i don’t know if you were expecting for people to agree with you and say women should stay devoting their lives to getting married and having children again but i see a good chunk of people just don’t care cause it’s not their life. maybe you should do the same cause it doesn’t concern you unless you’re actively looking for 29-39 year old women to marry and impregnant.. but even then they still exist so i don’t personally see a problem at all. in fact i’m for glad for them, pregnancy is no easy journey (i’ve heard all my life).

BCA6010 · Accepted Answer

This would involve a really deep dive into modern cultural trends, but the factors you listed are contributors. The biggest although vague contributor could be summed up with "hookup culture." It has completely devalued not even just marriage, but even long term and committed relationships as a whole. Modern feminist movements encourage cheating, divorce and abortion among other things, but that is definitely secondary. Of the people cited in your survey data, how many of them dated, or were even previously married in their teens and twenties? I'm willing to bet it's quite high, and I'm willing to bet that a lot of them have stopped looking because of multiple bad experiences that have led to "all men are pigs/all women are sluts/gold-diggers" mentalities. Much of that is because those same people keep chasing the same types and can't understand why it never works out. I can't think of any of my married and stable friends off the top of my head who didn't meet their best match by going a bit outside of what they thought their comfort zones were, and coming to realize that they previously didn't understand what really mattered in a partner.

zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I'm worried and will continue to be until 99% of people are childless, for a period over 100 years. That would decrease the world population of humans down to a more reasonable number, then I could stop worrying about the impact of this species on the environment.

Aside from that, I'm not really worried about people being single, that's great for them if that's what they are choosing, and obviously they are, since if they wanted to be in relationships, they would find other people who also wanted the same thing, and do so. It's simple. Unmarried? Nbd to me, marriage is a ceremony and a contract. Like a bat mitzvah or a merger of two companies. I don't really care what ceremonies or contracts people are or aren't engaging in; again, if they want to, they will, if they don't want to, they won't. Doesn't bother me either way. Check out this article on why marriage is overrated.

Anonymous · Answer

There are an awful lot of problems with what you said.

Firstly, where is the supporting data.

Secondly, it is not clear exactly is meant by 'childless and unmarried' is it both of these things or either / or?

Unmarried does not mean 'not in a serious and committed relationship.'

Single parent does not mean bad parent.

So even if the data set is accurate and in fact is measuring what you are trying to promote which i will define as something like '53% of women in the age range raise children in a positive way' that still incorrectly assumes that these women are not having children at any point during their 30's. Many who haven't had children at 29 may well have had children by 39.

Many couples are able to have perfectly healthy children in their late 30's and even 40's and perhaps beyond, Im not sure what the data on that is exactly but as far as I am aware that is not a particularly serious problem though presumably there is an increased risk of problems which scales with age.

The long and the short of it is 'Garbage in, garbage out'.

Your (non existant) data set is ill suited to informing opinion.

RightInTheGokHo · Answer

I can see both sides of the argument. It is ultimately a woman's decision if she wants to have children or not. Additionally, having children is an expensive life changing decision that cannot be undone. When a (responsible) parent decides to raise a child, they will most likely have to sacrifice their own personal, financial and career goals. Not everyone is willing or even capable of doing this.

At the same time, children are the future and marriage is the glue that keeps our society in place. The obvious problem is that no children means a decrease in the labor force. However, another not so blatant issue is that having too many single men will destabilize society. Violence and crime will increase because too many young men will have nothing to lose. Why should they care if they don't have a spouse or children to look after?

From a liberal/feminist perspective, it is not worrying as it symbolizes female empowerment and independence. (which is not inherently wrong).
On the other hand, the lack of children and surplus of single men will likely lead to a much more destabilized society. That is extremely worrisome.

StillWatersRunDeep · Answer

Yes. This is problematic if you look at the issue from a statistical POV AND if you care about America remaining to be the country we know. We are not a perfect Nation by any stretch of the imagination. However, we should be grateful we have come as far as we have in such a short period of time. We still have a lot of work to do, but its possible.

America is the great melting pot, a beacon for freedom, and a safe haven for those seeking a better life. That being said, many of the cultures that are moving here have many more children than Anericans -of all races. Statistics don't lie. Last I checked we need to have a birth rate of 2.5 ( yes, 2 and a half) children per family to avoid being slowly pushed out of existence simply because many of our immigrant families, Muslims for example, have something like 6 to 8 children per household. You do the math over time, and that is how we as American born citizens end up a minority in our own country, and then slowly dissappear.

Disclaimer: Please don't take what I have said as a racist statement. It's just what I learned while studying Analytical Geography. My partner and I are childless by choice, if that tells you anything.

Emiliamazing · Answer

Without touching on overpopulation and other ideas that fall in line with that thought process, I would say it’s only a concern for those who wish to be married and have children. My husband and I had children later in life because we chose to get established as a household with an income that could support children and our retirement goals.
there is definitely a focus establishing a comfortable household with an income that allows you to save some money, and it’s not just men that have that goal. I think we all could also take note that finding a partner is more challenging now. Mentalities have changed from those of our parents. The commitment to be a parent is huge, and expensive. You definitely give up some of your freedoms in order to spend time with your kids. We find it rewarding, not all who are parents do.

oliversamuel · Answer

Nope. Not at all. Nuh-uh. Nada. Nor. Never. Not at all. Negative.
It's COMPLETELY their choice. There may be some that argue that humankind could go extinct, but to that I laugh - there are so many kids in foster just waiting to be adopted, we don't need more births. I have never felt the pain of childbirth because I am a man, but I do know it is over 100 times the pain of getting hit in the junk by a baseball. It is the woman's right to choose whether they want to bring a baby into this world or continue living their life, or get married to some stupid man (i'm not saying all of us men are stupid, i'm just saying that a lot are).

TonyV · Answer

Qell I mean that statistic dosent mean much, the can still have kids if they want, not that I'm worried about it cause we are already over populated. And unmarried dosent mean they are single, so how many percent of the 53 percent are either currently dating someone or looking for someone?

I Mena if 53 percent are just choosing to be alone that sucks for men cause they'd be forced to be alone, or maybe all the guys in their age group are chasing the girls in the young 20s and forcing them to be alone.
If they want to be alone they can it's their chose, sucks for guys but you can't force them to date guys. And that may not even be what's happening, you didn't tell us why they are unmarried and again maybe they are in a relationship just not married.

This is a nothing burger of a problem, we need more details.

Oigit · Answer

I don't feel worried about it. What worries me is that we have a lot of people, both men and women, that are not prepared for all the heralds that come with adulthood. So they end up playing catch up from the age 30 onward because they never really prepared to be a adult from their late teens and 20's. So when life throws then a curve ball at some point their life pretty much blows up. Things budgeting, living on a budget and having at least two months of living expenses tucked away in a saving account seem to be lost arts. So we end up with men and women that are paying off a credit card with another credit card.

Lionman95 · Answer

I think it's at best a problem of society. It's true that we don't live in a time where at least in the west family isn't of value anymore.
If women want to work let them I don't see much of a problem in that.
If we had a culture in which motherhood would be accepted and it would work out well for both partners I think more women would see it as a valid option.
But because many guys are not ready to take the whole responsibility and are not sure what they want from a woman or how to handle life and money more and more women believe they are better on their own.
I think it is a problem but it's way deeper than many people think

Kaamraj · Answer

It's excellent, it means that MGTOW and RedPill ideology is working. Men are no longer committing to a marriage where the laws are so stacked against them that the best way to win is not to play. Over half of the marriages end in divorce, with women filing 70-80% of divorces, with men paying alimony 90 % of the times, and losing vast majority of the child custody cases.

Women, biologically have a narrow window for childbirth and still narrower for low risk pregnancy and carrying the child fully to term. So this is a more concerning matter for women as compared to men.

uwu_princess · Answer

No. It's not worrying. It's not our business that people have unmarried kids. If they like it - it's okay. Let's care about our life :)

RealMarek · Answer

This is one symptom of a declining culture, and the West is in terminal decline. It is a problem because life will become more difficult for each successive generation, who will see their wealth stripped via taxation in an attempt to support a huge elderly population. Elderly people will be more apt to die alone with substandard or no medical care due to lack of family and workers to care for them. If immigration is used to solve the problem, those of Western descent will end up as aliens in their own land, and possibly persecuted.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I think sometimes it's just lack of opportunity. Like in my case I couldn't find a guy who wanted to stay committed to me long enough to marry me. If I would have I most likely would have wanted to started a family. After too many rejections I just gave up and decided to I didn't need to keep experiencing heartbreak just to not get anywhere in life and I decided go at life alone but I don't consider myself a feminist.

AvaOneLasTime · Answer

After reading that, i do. But in the end of the day, the brought that upon themselves, didn't they? It is not like that here, in Bulgaria.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Probably because it costs over $300,000 to raise a son/daughter from a baby to age 18. Not cheap. Multiply that times 3 kids and you would need a $million smackers. The illegals have big families because they get birth expenses paid for by the government on our dimes, plus free health care. That is why they usually have bigger families.

shaysh87 · Answer

Have you ever thought of the fact that some women simply don’t want kids?
if a woman wanted kids , she can have kids. She can easily go to the sperm bank or even sleep around or find a coparent.
women don’t need a husband to have kids. But men need wives to have kids

Jacadia · Answer

No surprise. They never had stable work, income. They is propoganda taught at schools. If they did go to college they may owe thousands of dollars. Same thing happened to me but I am older now. If you have to move all over your country for work and support yourself you will understand.

Guy13 · Answer

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Apple1996 · Answer

Maybe a issue for population but other than that is just sad that these women aren't getting the full experience out of life.
Like I'd say to live a full life and experience the most love and happiness possible you have to have a child to do that. There is loving your friends, family, spouse but there is nothing on this earth that can ever come close to a mother/baby bond and the amazing love that comes from that.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Why would I be worried?

It is quite obvious that American society is refusing to evolve. We have definite issues. And we cannot tackle them without talking about them openly and honestly.

We used to be a society where all a man had to do was get a basic education, a job, and he could take care of an entire family.

And when we started to destroy his ability to do that, we started to destroy the nuclear family.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

Why it is a problem? Pregnancy is literally a torture and traumatize your body. You can loose all your teeth, hair, etc. Will you donate your teeth, etc? Will you emotionally, financially etc help these women? No, then it is not of your business. Women ain't baby machines

wheresmrcunnunglis · Answer

Nope doesn't make me sad in the slightest. It makes me thrilled to see this statistic as it shows that more and more women are understanding there is more to life than marriage and we don't have to have kids if we don't want to. Kind of, makes sense why some states are going hard about making abortion and access to birth control harder every now and again.

hahahmm · Answer

Excellent news. Too many single moms were raising kids and a mom can't raise a boy into being a man by herself. He needs a good male role model in his life. Having an endless train of casual male sex partners isn't it. Also a girl needs to see healthy male-female relations growing up. The single parent life isn't the way.

normalice · Answer

No, it makes sense. The cost of living has been too high for decades. Having fewer workers in the future is how we force wages to rise. Supply and demand. When people are paid well and don't have to worry about politics or the environment, they make babies. This increases the supply of workers, this reducing their demand which leads to less pay, more environmental damage, and more politics which reduces the number of babies made, reducing supply of workers, and so on..

FictionalCharacter · Answer

If it is through “modern feminism ”, why is it letting it get through men?

If anything, I’ve been rejected and confronted by guys on dating apps. That I wasn’t “feminism” enough. In other words, I wasn’t independent enough. (Even though I live in a apartment). I don’t have enough job income. I don’t have a school degree. These were criticisms and judgement I received from men.

TransAm85 · Answer

I've been married 9 years, but I chose to not have children b/c of the way America is! Kids today don't even play outside, have hobbies, or do much. They live on their phones, social media, TV, and video games.

Anonymous · Answer

You can't say to a woman today that at 29 even if you meet a guy today and it takes you a year to get engaged and 1 year to plan the wedding and it takes you at least one year to get pregnant and you wanna have at least to kids and you want them to be at least two years apart and you want to to do all this before you turn 40 because man after that your really playing with fire with a whole host of fertility problems. Then I'd say you really don't have a lot of time to meet this perfect mystery man.

Wester1967 · Answer

Nope. I could care less. It's their choice. Tons of US girls could have picked me. They chose nuclear rejection and chad chasing. So many late 50s single women. Single mothers. The ones who are married are married to drunks or on-point simps. Misery. Nobody's happy. Anti depressants off the charts. Obese food cope off the charts. Sorry. I'm in South America writing books and not tripping for 2 seconds about US women just as they are not tripping about me. Don't call me, I will call you.

Eroache69 · Answer

Fuck nooo if a woman doesn't want to bare children she has every right not to. Her body her choice. Same goes for the marriage thing. I don't plan to ever get married, it's just a label that you pay to put there and pay even more to remove. Couples shouldn't have to pay to prove their love for eachother and to prove their love to the world. It's really just the government keeping tabs on you and charging you to do so 😆 as long as a woman is happy, that's all that should matter 😊

anon1903 · Answer

Marriage and kids do not necessarily define womanhood or happiness for everyone. Why are you concerned?

MuddyMole · Answer

It will be, once they all reach old age, and there's no younger generation working to support them. It's the same as you see in all Western countries though. China will face a similar problem as a result of their 1 child policy, but more severe and impacting sooner.
You'd better hope Americans get over their fear of immigrants...

MrNameless · Answer

I mean, that's their choice.

Although I'll say that its typically women that are extremely career business driven women that will face this.. Many do want kids, but if you put that first while your biological clock is ticking, its just going to lower your chances of being able to have kids.. Especially in your 30s.

NamerOfStars · Answer

Not really. The US and New Zealand (well, in pre-Covid restriction times, anyway) managed to keep their population either stable or growing, despite breeding below replacement level, with immigration. They're pretty much the only First World nations that have, but they have.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

WELL? WHERE THE FUCK ARE THEY? Could it POSSIBLY be THEIR OWN FUCKING FAULT? They get approached by guys ALL THE TIME and, most often, they shoot them down before they even give them half a fucking chance to prove they just MIGHT be the kind of guy they're looking for!!

HighValue · Answer

It is not surprising that women past 30 are unmarried. I am surprised that so many are childless though since so many people do lots of hook ups.
I guess that is only because they use abortion as a convenient birth control. Over 600,000 abortions are performed in the USA every year. That is a lot of people.

Anonymous · Answer

I question the accuracy of this without a source.
Less in this case is more. It doesn’t damage a thing. People haven’t stopped having kids. Just a “percentage”. Which is a good thing when it comes to those kids growing up with resources more limited and a planet far more polluted. Things I worry about.

Anonymous · Answer

50 years of feminism has destroyed society, relationships and humanity itself. Indoctrination of several generations of young people has had immeasurable consequences. Hopefully this generation of leftist feminists will die off and conservative foundations will once again be established.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Liberal America as a whole has completely turned its back on the importance of family and community; the declining birthrate is just a symptom of this shift in values. If an American man wants to find a wife to start a family with, he'd be far better off meeting a foreign girl who comes from a country that still values family and marriage.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Sounds like good news to me, I don't want kids, or step kids, it sounds like I have way more options than I thought.

Dinklex3 · Answer

We're chosing to not get married and not have children since we have that option.
People find they can still enjoy life without having having kids or getting married to "survive" .
I do not think its a bad thing.

anylolone · Answer

I find it fitting, specially their misery at it.

Learning, even as a society, frequently comes with growing pains.

This is the first time is history where women are so likely to fail at what any animal, including them, want more, which is to breed.

It has been a humbling experience to them as I can see.

Just_call_me_Levi · Answer

I definitely believe modern femism misses the mark, it's no longer about equal rights, but about putting men down.

Having said that, fortunately It's a pretty small portion of the population... So highly doubt that has anything to do with it.

I do believe it's a combination of wokeism and a rise in toxic masculinity, both using the other for their own narrative, that's likely to play a role.

KingofCups · Answer

It's because so many aren't getting married. I'm 24 and don't ever plan to marry. I don't really believe in family. Very dysfunctional. I'm not trying to pass that down that ancestral karma. My family is upset that the lineage will end with me, but I could care less.

Hellraiser1984 · Answer

Either they chose that or they hate men or they have extremely high standards for males like billionaires, body of an Adonis, so they never will be married or have children. But hey as men it's all our fault. Just like everything else in the world. Oh hang on a minute Im being accused of rape again because I gave my opinion about women. Prison for another 4 years.

Anonymous · Answer

Anyone who understands the implications for the future of the US should be worried about it. The naivete and ignorance of most young Americans today is equally concerning. The answers of females here are not surprising.

And yes, you are correct about the cause. Anyone who doesn't believe feminism wants to destroy the nuclear family is blind.

@caitycat211

DermalPunch · Answer

Feminism and the sexual revolution has everything to do with it. Now all of this gender stuff is the death knell.

MCheetah · Answer

This is what Millennial women wanted. No more men "sexually harassing" them by saying Hi to them on the streets or flirting with them They have to live with their consequences and I don't feel sorry for them.

Pyrofox · Answer

I find it more worrysome that they don't know how to keep a man to get pregnant to be able to have children and eventually a family.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

Every woman thinks b8eng un married and Childless is great until they get older and they realize men aren't interested in them any more and the baby rabies kicks in as they approach menopause.
This is how the crazy cat lady is born. Any they find themselves forever trapped in box wine and cat land.

LilBrazyBaby · Answer

No and why should it matter if we're married or not I'm 24 with a 20 year old this year he'll be 21 and I'll be 25 and no we don't have to be married I mean yea it b nice but we still got to do stuff we got to grow at certain ages we all do no matter what some sooner then later

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

I don’t care what others do in their life. I don’t find it worrying in that aspect.  However, t will affect the population and society later down the road, that does worry me.

globetrotter22 · Answer

There have been huge increases in single unmarried men as well. I don’t think most of those guys are voluntarily single either. It’s women who are usually voluntarily single not men.

You can thank radical feminism for most of this bs.

I_want_a_moustache · Answer

I don’t think it has to do with women or men, the real reason is the cost of living in the US, especially in the cities. People can't afford housing let alone child care. In California, if you don’t have more than one income you’ll go without. I can see why people wouldn’t want to work all their lives and take care of a child.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes its feminism. Not modern feminism but all feminism. From the beginning it was a trend leading to this. You can either have women as "property" or you can be in the process of leading to a negative reproduction rate and human extinction. There are no other options.

Anonymous · Answer

We’re in societal decline so it makes sense. The coming population bomb is going to be extremely brutal for millennials and gen z when we get to post retirement age. More health problems than our parents and grandparents, and no children to take care of us. We’ll be thrown into overcrowded assisted living centers if we’re lucky.

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I think this is fine. Perhaps people are seeing that marriage is not some sort of "be all end all"... And having children certainly isn't for everyone.

Anonymous · Answer

Honestly as a guy I don’t really care. All I care about is finding that one girl who shares the same values as I do. I’m not going to sit here worrying about what millions or billions of women do with their life. I believe having a family, finding someone special (a spouse) is very special, but that’s me.

Subarugirl · Answer

No I don't think it is a problem. Children are a life time commitment, they are expensive and a huge responsibility.

Anonymous · Answer

No, i am happy for them if they are happy it is much better than being married and unhappy. It is about their choice not about sexual revolution or feminism. There are many more things in life other than marriage or children.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Doesn’t bother me. Just means less men have to deal with shitty ass selfish women. Being single these days is far better than being in a relationshit

JoyGirl · Answer

It will affect America in the future, if we really think about it… The baby boomers are going to die off, soon.  People aren’t concerned now, but they will be soon enough. 🤷🏾‍♀️

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