Is anyone else the friendship police?

[Anonymous]

I don't know if it's because I am an introvert, whereby I view smalltalk as a chore to be divided equally amongst individuals in the same way people expect everyone to do their share of housework. But for some reason, I always keep score of who initiates the conversation amongst all of my acquaintances. I mean, I guess I think too much about how many people are friendliness when they're older, and that it's only then that they start having regrets about not befriending certain people from their past. I feel as though no one else my age takes things like this as seriously as I do. And ironically, maybe this mindset winds up sabotaging my relationships with people. Anyone else have these issues?

[joeldalton]

My oldest does this. What you are doing is setting your friends up for failure. You're testing them but don't tell them the rules or what the expected score is to pass the test.

[Asker]

I had thought I inherited this behavior from my parent actually. Their high expectations of my social life causes me to want my peers to go through the same micro management. I would have thought that if someone like you were my parent I wouldn't be like this.

[Guy13]

Nice... I get both sides telling me about and sometimes a tertiary source too

[jshm2]

You're basically a narcissist, and control freak.