Why do toxic people never think they are toxic?

[Anonymous]

Why do most toxic people (as in, people who behave toxically on a regular or consistent basis) never think they are mean or toxic? But they think everyone else is? Why do they usually blame other people when called out or held responsible for their behaviour?

[Biancam13]

I believe it's because most toxic behaviour comes from selfishness and an inability to look outside of themselves. Most toxic people also have big egos which are easily bruised. So they don't want to admit they wronged someone because that would cause them shame and hurt their ego. Selfish people put themselves first because they believe there isn't enough to go around, so they would rather someone else take the fall for their behaviour so they don't have to face the consequences.

[desidoll]

Because they are not aware of it since they are the ones who hurt us. You won’t notice anything wrong about yourself until someone treats you the way you treat others. I know someone like this and I cut the ties immediately. Instead of apologising, she continues the abuse by giving me silent treatment just to manipulate me to come back. I am not backing off because people like this won’t change for any better.

[Jackandthebeanstalk]

Because they lack introspection!!! Introspection is the examination of one's own conscious thoughts and feelings. In psychology, the process of introspection relies on the observation of one's mental state, while in a spiritual context it may refer to the examination of one's soul.

[jshm2]

Because they have personality disorders that prevent them from it.

[Takengirl1234]

They are not very self aware. Projecting their own faults onto others makes them feel better about themselves. I actually believe they start to believe these projections are real.

[tabitha82223]

Because toxic people don't care about anyone but themselves, hence the toxic behaviour.

[hugo135]

They are selfish and don't care about self-reflecting

[Sofi-a1997]

Because they are very basic & insecure people that project their own deficiencies onto others to negate their own guilt & shame.

[Alex8736]

in their warped mind they feel everyone is to blame but themselves which is a textbook example of Narcissistic Personality Disorder

[Hugo8990]

Projection.

[Hugo8990]

People project because it's easier than admitting fault