Do you hold the door open?

[razelove]

Simple question, I've found that outside of church and the supermarket I don't.

I do

I don't

[bolverk]

I'm the same as you, only very specific places, I've been on the receiving of too many feminists rant to care any more. the last time, I was out for the day with friends who both are wheel chair users and the auto opening door opening and closing erratically, so I held the door while they got through, a female walked up and I motioned for her to walk through, she lets go with the typical feminist rant, I just said 'Fine open it yourself' and walked away and the door slammed shut behind me and joined my friends, I could hear her thumping the door trying to open it, went on with a quiet day.

[razelove]

That is why I only do so at places I know are conservative. When you're just trying to be courteous and get some misandrist rant.

[BlackJeep]

This happens way more often than it should.

[FunkyMonkee]

How else am I gonna get through it?

[razelove]

Damn, I missed that chicken and the egg logic when I asked, should have specified for other people. I don't wait inside or outside my house for someone else to get it, that would lead to divorce fast and be weird as hell lol

[LiamJHayden]

Xavier, is that you?

[FunkyMonkee]

@LiamJHayden Xho, me?

[provokeesmokee]

It's Canadian culture.

The goose variant is holding a door open for someone juuuust far away enough that they do that shuffle speed walk to catch it. 😈

[razelove]

Evil, but promoting exercise, I like it.

[Apple1996]

Yess sometimes go out of my way to hold the door even when I have my kiddos on me or when its inconvenient ill still do it anyways or else I feel rude

[razelove]

That can be a tough one with the kiddos, maybe I'll be more proactive about that when they get a year or two older. With two toddlers staying in any doorway is a hassle that needs rope or something.

[dynamicyandere]

Yes, out of habit.


It’s a good habit to have though.


Good manners and etiquette can go a long way.


There’s no harm in being kind to others.

[razelove]

I'm a believer in you get what you get too, is that the only reason?

[dynamicyandere]

What goes around comes around, I agree.

I suppose one of the core reasons is that I aspire to always better myself, to grow into the best man I can be.

And part of that, includes building strong character, and carrying myself in a way that I can feel proud of.

The best version of myself is a version of myself that would have good manners and treat others well.

Opening doors would be an extension of that. 🙂

[Pinay_ako]

Yes 🙌 I do all the time but when people don’t hold the door for me, I’ll remember their faces and I’ll return the same courtesy. 🤣 I’m petty af.

[razelove]

That made me laugh, hold it open with a smile, then slam it shut and go inside lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 yes especially when they’re doing a little half run 😂 and when they get close, boom bitch door closes in your face

[RingOfFire]

100%. Always for women, but I do it even for guys, especially if they have stuff they are carrying or are right behind me and I don't want to close on them right when they are trying to go through it.

[razelove]

You sound like a Southern boy too lol

[Siri137]

Yes, I do. Every time. It's the right, decent thing to do, because the alternative is to slam it in their faces.

[razelove]

I don't know, you could always get into a staring contest if you're both expecting each other to hold the door open but neither will open it.

[tfan1]

I always do without fail. It common courtesy and common decency and common sense. Above all it’s good manners and it’s the way I was raised.

[razelove]

You're from the south or midwest aren't you?

[VadeinVain]

I want to, but I'm physically slow and weak. It takes more time for me to get to get the door propped open and I'm afraid I'm annoying doing it.

[razelove]

I wouldn't worry about being annoying or anything. You can only try to do your best. I do hope for your sake that it's something temporary, like a broken limb, rather than something chronic.

[Spongebobssocks]

I try too but im super weak so usually ill struggle but ill do my best

[razelove]

Is it because sponges don't have muscles? That must be rough :(

[Spongebobssocks]

Yes! Thank you for your understanding! Me and my hubby Spongebob deal with it daily but luckily Patrick helps us!

[goaded]

I do. Usually behind me. Sometimes I mis-time it, and it takes an uncomfortable length of time for the next person to get there!

[razelove]

I only have that happen with the senior citizens with walkers while I'm out with my kids. Like they're approaching at a meter a minute and my kids are getting antsy, but damn they aren't going to be able to open that door on their own lol

[Surely]

I will always hold or even open a door for the elderly. People with cane, walkers and wheelchairs. Also most people with their hands full.
Even younger people that are near by when I go through the door myself.

[Sparkie460]

It's the respectful thing to do so I do hold the door open for people behind me

[KetoJames]

It would also seem respectful if people could thank you for doing it.

[Sparkie460]

You are absolutely right. Sometimes they thank me, other times they don't. That's when I make them look bad and say " you're welcome " very loud so everyone can hear.

[KetoJames]

LOL Nice. A little bit of mental judo.

[Sparkie460]

You know it.

[FunkyMonkee]

@KetoJames Very much so!! Most of them do but, there's been a few instances where they act like it's MY JOB to open the door for them and I'm just a lowly peasant for them to trod on and don't DESERVE to even be spoken to by them!! About 15 years ago, I was walking along the mall and I happened to see some black woman heading for the door of a store she'd been in so, as I was passing the door, I just thought I'd open for her just to be nice! I wasn't even going INTO the store!! She walked out the door, never looked at me, never thanked me, NOTHING!! Of course, I thought, "You uppity bitch!!"

[FunkyMonkee]

I do the same! "You're QUITE welcome, o queen!!"

[KetoJames]

@FunkyMonkee
Women are the worst. I will sometimes just stop and check my phone and make them open their own door.

[FunkyMonkee]

@KetoJames Not all of them, MOST of them thank me.

[KetoJames]

@FunkyMonkee

Most do, but after a while, you can spot the snobs that won't. I let them open the door. But I don't expect the snob to hold the door for me, because they will let it slam in your face.

[FunkyMonkee]

@KetoJames Even worse, wait `til they go into a revolving door and then block it from spinning!

[KetoJames]

@FunkyMonkee

I haven't seen one of those in a long time. lol

[FunkyMonkee]

@KetoJames They're still around... and around, and around.

[KetoJames]

@FunkyMonkee

Just like the wheels on the bus!

[FunkyMonkee]

@KetoJames The wheels on the bus go round and round
round and round
round and round

[DarkLegacy]

All supermarkets in the UK have automatic doors.

[Jadebamboo]

I do it when I feel like it. Just how I was raised and the habit stuck.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

I believe in courtesy.

[razelove]

Do you mean holding the door open, having it held open, or depending on the situation?

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Yes, I ALSO open & hold the door for others.

[Wise4myage]

I always hold doors open for ladies..

[razelove]

So Titanic rules, women and children lol

[Nikki1989]

Yes, it is called manners.

[razelove]

That is an excellent thing to have. I do hope that manners and decency will be more common, and appreciated. Thank you :)

[Jazzy54]

If the person is close enough, yes.

[whereismyjohnny]

I always do.

[razelove]

Does it feel any different if the door is held open for you?

[Simslover92]

Yes of course.

[razelove]

I'm noticing much more of women holding the door open, do you have the door held open for you?

[Simslover92]

Yes I do.

[sirderpsalot123]

Usually

[razelove]

What are the exceptions?

[sirderpsalot123]

When they are too far away, or I'm just zoned out and not thinking, lol.

[razelove]

Fair enough, no one can hold that against you lol

[gothbxtch]

yes, i do!

[razelove]

Your chivalry is appreciated when I'm carrying one kid and have several others behind me lol