Why do nice people always suffer?

[catarecute]

fed up of seeing all nice people miserable, suffering from eating disorder, or being single. whilst complete arse holes are riding around their flashing cars getting their dick sucked by a low iq hot blonde.

[Hulk_kitty]

Girls are not the problem, The nice guys that are complaining cause they can't get any girls, is just cry baby stuff sorry. Been a nice person, is has its benefits, but what are you going to do with that nice personality or good heart.

Been a nice person is not good enough for anyone or anything in this world, its take a lot more than that, to get anything in life.

Its bit like having a nice lambo or ferrari sitting on your drive way, but the nice guy can't drive the lambo, cause has not got a driving license. In that sense he has not got really anything to offer, but a nice personality.

There are plenty of nice and good hearted men out there, who get women or have good looking wife, that's cause they have more to offer than just a nice personality. They have money, they don't give up, they are successful at business, they are fun, they are good in bed. they are wise etc.

These these nice guys, who are complaining about not getting women , are just sitting ducks, and acting like spoilt child who can't their ice cream from a shop.

Doesn't matter about your personality, go out get what you are worth. Women don't owe men anything, just like men don't owe women anything.

Everything that's happens to you, her, him, its all down to the choices you make, its your choice to think negative, its your choice to think positive, its your choice, to sleep round with 100 different people. Its your choice, to kill your boyfriend cause he cheated on you, he didn't make you kill him, its was choice you made out of resentment, and emotional reaction to guy was not the jail time.

But every choice you comes with good and bad consequences.

If anyone wants their live to get better, start by making better choices. And as for your comments about hot blondes sucking off assholes, well those hot blondes are welcome to that asshole. Also that hot blonde is probably just using him for the money and lifestyle, while the asshole using her as his sex toy. So I am not really jealous of a relationship that has no real love, except using each other for benefit.

[Hulk_kitty]

There are some good women out there, and there are some good men out there. But its just a case of finding them. its not easy, but that person will find them.
My brother is an example he had 3 bitchy girlfriends, who treated him like shit, but he keep dating and on his 4th attempt, and now he couldn't be happier, she is a lovely girl, and now they are buying a house together. Just don't give up, just cause you met a few assholes along the way.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Nice people don't always suffer, but it can sometimes seem that way. Life's challenges and hardships are not distributed based on how nice or kind a person is. Many factors influence a person's experiences, including luck, circumstances, and personal choices. It's important to remember that kindness and empathy can also lead to positive and fulfilling relationships and experiences. While nice people may face difficulties, their kindness can also bring them happiness and support from others.

[whirled_up_girl]

Honestly working as a hospital nurse I've met plenty of not very nice people who are suffering from different things as well. I don't know if that makes you feel better or not.

[DaveJord]

I will say yes, nice people do suffer. So, the issue with being nice and kind, is that it inclines you to want to give people the benefit of the doubt. Even when you really shouldn't and some level you know you shouldn't... but you can't help yourself because you honestly just want to think the best everyone, and they say all the right things but then they take actions that cause discontent and frustration.

I as guy, I have found that I am very mistrusting of nice people... because after all the things I have been put through... it honestly hard for me beleive she is just being that nice. But eventually you learn the things you wish you would have known at 20 or 30 years old. And then you start to find better quality people.

[DaBiggestBird]

“Nice” people are frauds, fake news. They put out good only with compensation. Honest work results in honest pay. If you help an old lady walk down the apartment stairs expecting her to pay you $70 and then start crying when she says she don’t got the money, a negative attitude like that isn’t going to attract any blessings.

[catarecute]

some areas of the world have more fake news than others.

[DaBiggestBird]

Yeppers

[Sharkstealth]

A co worker at my job just got schooled in the fact that he is not even near as smart as he thought he was. Just copy what you see but flounder because you were not instructed as you need to be to succeed. Complete scum bag with no honor just woke up.

[catarecute]

i dont get what you are saying but noone was really instructed properly to succeed. myself i was even less than others but i am learning on my own. and my life hasn't been made so easy by the fact i have been stalked this year and it has messed up a lot of my plans. anyway success isn't to do with money its to do with kindness.

[Sharkstealth]

He just copies what everybody else does from a distance but doesn't fully grasp it. He misses the details and gets in trouble by management for violating work place conduct.

[Sharkstealth]

See it works with women to be a scum bag but not in life or on the job. He will only be a failure in other places.

[Sharkstealth]

That's why it's the single parent generation.

[catarecute]

its to do with the herd mentality. if a woman sees another woman date an arse hole she will do the same. And because many women date arseholes and the news only publishes stories of men being arse holes to their wife women copy it. honestly the herd mentality is a dangerous thing.

[BlissfullyCurSed]

sad truth. I have always been invisible to other people around me for no exact reason. At some point, it affects your self-esteem and makes you feel like you'll never be enough for someone.

[catarecute]

nice people need to fight for their right to be nice!

[BlissfullyCurSed]

I would say regular or ordinary people rather than nice, but yeah... I see your point. It is like you need to take everything to an extreme level to be happy. If you are somewhere in the middle you can't be happy lolol😆😆

[Billlewis]

Well for one thing, nice guys generally don't have sex very often, so we suffer because of that.

[Sonorous]

I think that way of thought is too black & white.

[catarecute]

maybe you are right behind every distort observation there is a logical explanation. i just don't see many niced people and when i meet one i get interested and talk to them and they tell me the shit going on in their life. thats the logical explanation. and it could also be that empathy towards nice people is stronger so we care more about what happen to them. it could also be that they are more sensitive so develop more mental health problems.

[Sonorous]

Well everyone suffers. And I think that if anything, the "not nice" people suffer more than the "nice" people. For instance, people don't typically like being around people who aren't largely agreeable or nice. So those people become further outcasts. And it doesn't help even more if a person has other unfortunate reasons for not being nice. For instance, if someone was born short, ugly, prone to being overweight, [insert any other drawbacks], they will have a harder time in life than someone without those drawbacks. Which will cause them to be more likely to be mean since they're not having a good time. And then a negative feedback most likely would occur.

[catarecute]

yea well to me someone who is short and slightly pudgy is really beautiful. i would date a guy who looks like that. i like men who look natural just how god made them and who don't try to change their natural beauty. its not them who are ugly its the world we live in.

[Sonorous]

That doesn't change how majority of people will see them. But your personal preference wasn't my focus. My focus was on how "nice" individuals experience suffering just like everyone else & maybe even to challenge the view.

My true view is that reality is more complex. I prefer to not generalize with certain things because they don't really matter much. Most reasons why people suffer aren't usually because they're "nice." They could simply be "nice" individuals because they suffer.

For instance, I tend to be a more empathetic individual with some things that many aren't because of the ways that I suffer. If someone asks me to stop doing something because it hurts them, I know what that feeling is like (since I have extreme hyperacusis), so I'd be more likely to do it. Which will make them think I am nice. And coping with suffering can bring forth many other considerate social traits. It may make people less selfish because they realize how much they need to rely on others, for instance.

But their perception of me could be a very dependent one. I could then say something they don't agree with & then all of the sudden... I'm not nice... I'm cruel...

[catarecute]

yea maybe that question wasn't accurate tbh most people suffer. as for saying something they don't agree with its called putting your on opinions forward to easily. sometime in life we have to accept that other peoples feeling comfortable is more important than us expressing our opinion.

[Sonorous]

Ofc, I do understand that people can't handle certain truthful perspectives. Especially if they involve their ego/sense of self. But I was talking about if someone interprets anything I say as cruel. They don't really need a rational reason to think so. It was my way of highlighting how subjective considering someone as "nice" can be.

[catarecute]

if someone see someone as cruel its for a reason. the person would have hurt them is some way. i use this site to express my opinion because i dont like doing it in real life as its not my place to change or lecture anyone. my place is to help people feel comfortable and keep my views to myself and too this site. or for people who share similar views.

[Sonorous]

Voicing an opinion doesn't mean that someone is "lecturing" someone. That's another good example of how people can view someone's emotions could mae them view someone as "cruel" or "mean" simply because they disagree with them. The person could be saying something truly constructive but overly sensitive people won't want to hear it. Even though it could help them. And let's assume that's the intention because I don't just go around insulting people with my opinions. I try to be constructive.

[Sonorous]

That's another good example of how someone's emotions could make them view someone as "cruel" or "mean"*

[catarecute]

ok so to put it simply. people dont talk out their arse normally. if you are being called cruel it means you have hurt someone. doesn't matter if you said something true or what the important thing is that the person in question would have not been hurt if you hadn't opened your mouth. please understand that there are six billions people on this planet who only live for up to around 100 years and that your opinion is not significant enough for it be allowed to cause pain to somebody else.

[Sonorous]

Okay that's cringe this is when I head out ✌ you're just too closed minded for me. I prefer healthy & constructive discourse.

[exitseven]

I do not know why. Maybe it had to do with being selfish.

[catarecute]

when did you come in? i just accidently upset sonorous as i came out with some hard truth. someone had to do it tbh.

[Juan_Sheet]

I don't suffer. I'm a nice guy. I have a nice family, nice wife and nice kids.
I have a decent life and am quite happy thanks

[Jdodkfndosn]

Because they set themselves up to be taken advantage

[Juxtapose]

Because this is not a nice world and nice people are an aberration.

[LazerBean]

We seem fine to me.

[Anonymous]

Well, the ball's in your court.

[MasterKS]

Girls love bad boys!

[catarecute]

they do until they actually marry one. then they go crying on YouTube about narcistic abuse.

[MasterKS]

@catarecute bad boys for fuck, good boys for marriage! LOL

[catarecute]

lol some women are dumb enough to marry bad boys trust me

[MasterKS]

@catarecute thats why they are dumb! LOL

[Anonymous]

Im not