Why is it so bad to be nice? Why do people respect kind people that are not nice, then people that are too nice?

[Anonymous]

I mean some people can be the sweetest people but they hide it with sarcasm, snarky comments and they aren’t so nice.
my friend (let’s call him Jonathan) he’s sarcastic, snarky and may come off as rude and a jerk to some, but he is actually one of the sweetest people you ever meet. He just chooses to be sarcastic and hates mushy feelings.

My older siblings told me something you have to be “mean” to protect myself and stop letting people push me around and I have always been a follower. My brother said I worry too much what others thing, I’m way too damn polite, saying thank you too much and apologizing too much. They told me I need to be kind, but NOT NICE because people don’t respect nice people. My peers even said I’m too nice and it’s uncomfortable. My siblings are kind but they’re NOT nice at all. They aren’t so nice and can come off as rude, but are helpful and always there for you. I’m nice, sweet and people don’t respect me that much.

[Anonymous]

That's because everyone has some level of toxic behavior. When you suppress it all the time in front of everyone, it mostly hurts you the most. You start feeling more insecure.

You never tell people what's really on your mind, and the people who do that usually tend to be boring to talk to. You come to the point of disagreement, and then the person trying to project a nice image to you backs off and claims they were joking and don't believe that. The person trying to project the image of being a nice person always laughs when you try to debate them. They don't believe anything at all. Everything they tell you is in joking form and not genuine. They never own their position and always act agreeable. They are always passive. Rather than accept that everyone will not like everything about them and just be themselves, they pretend.

You lose respect for the person because they don't believe in anything; just giggle and be agreeable. And the person they are talking to has to sit their and deal with boring conversation where the other person has no beliefs of opinions. So they get impatient and either redirect the conversation or just leave.

Why should someone have to put up with a boring conversation with you when you're not going to engage in it?

[bededazzle]

there’s nothing wrong with being nice. but it’s also important to be assertive. if you don’t feel respected, a good place to start is to make sure you respect yourself. if you do this, you don’t really need respect from others. stay sweet :)

[glennos89]

Don't let anyone Change who You are as a person because you are Beautiful The Way You are ❤️

[Twalli]

Nice people can be sen as doormats. They appear as the person you can just walk all over with no regard. Kind people are those that won't let you, but don't act to cause harm and can be relied upon.

[Anonymous]

The assumption is that when you're overly nice it's either 1. An act designed to lull someone into a false sense of security or 2. You're just a chump.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I don't know. People are damaged nowadays.

[ThrillSeeker01]

How can anyone not like a kind person?