Do YOU have the courage to be disliked?

Question

This book by Japanese author Ichiro Kishimi lays out this important life advice for us all. https://www.amazon.com/The-Courage-to-be-Disliked/dp/1760630497/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=1701209154&sr=8-1

It encourages readers to embrace their individuality, break free from the need for approval, and pursue a more fulfilling life. Recommended.

anyways do you have this courage?

wolfcat87 · Accepted Answer

Yes, I've always been this way.

In daycare I requested to go to a different age group to care for the babies even when I was only 4. None of the other kids ever wanted to go to the younger room, but I wanted to bottle feed babies and change diapers instead of color and sing songs.

I remember reading the bible in church when I was 6-7 and seeing that there was a long list of moral issues from lying to abusing kids to killing and questioning it. My family was furious and decided I was possessed by the devil for years. I never backed down though, because wrong was wrong. If everyone believes these things are wrong, then why do they want me in a religion that allows them?

Hanging out with babies or much older people always appealed to me. Kids my age never made sense, and I never felt any need to conform to their immature and foolish requirements just to fit in. They thought I was weird and didn't like them because I never went along. I didn't care. Just give me a book and a quiet space and I was happy.

I have always worn what I wanted and talked how I want. I'm not "hip with it". I borrow styles and phrases from any era I want to and just have fun with it even if people think I'm crazy. If I want to wear a wedding dress to a gas station in July just to have fun and play dress up, then I'm going to. I don't need anywhere to go to be elegant. And, if I want to dress grungy for a hot date, then I'm going to. I never needed approval or permission. It drove girls nuts when I was in school, and they kept wanting to give me makeovers saying my looks were being wasted and why can't I just cooperate and fit in more.

Going with the crowd just gets you what the crowd gets. MEDIOCRITY. That's never been my goal in life. Being average and mediocre would suck. My teachers all supported me, they said good job not conforming. That's why you're a leader and nor a follower. You're going places. And, they weren't wrong.

IslaTheWitch · Accepted Answer

I didn't read the book.

But I think it could mean a slightly different thing to each of us.

I'm not afraid to voice my opinion, even though I know it's not popular.
I'm not afraid of expressing myself in the way I feel fits me the best.
I'm not afraid to address whatever issue I feel should be addressed here and now.

But still, I try to be considerate and not to hurt other people's feelings.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Yes, I do!

aceleon · Answer

since i was a little kid i was a the black sheep of the both sides ofmy family

i was neither emphatic people pleasers like my mother side

or was success obssessed like my father side

most of the time i am an asshole, a total dick, selfish, greedy, uncaring and hot tempered reckless.

not successfull either, college drop out (education didn't do it for me studying wasnever my forthe) and unemployed (by my choice) gets money from (semi-) questionable means

also probably what you would call a man-whore.

ideal life for me would be having multiple bisexual wives who works and brings money to home (me doing the same is optional) having big cats as pets (preferably male lions (females tends to get too bitchy when they are pregnant and males gets too possesive over them at those periods) having my own fight club that i partake here and there.

if i am not the thing you would call a menace, i really don't know what i am.

Sour-rose · Answer

Welll you see my name yes? ;D I mean, to be liked by everyone... everyone  in this world is impossible... and doesn't give me a sweet taste of sourness of someone actually spitting acid at me. Having such a taste from simple dislike feelings gives me such... savory sourness. 🖤

mandyfire98 · Answer

I'm perfectly ok if strangers don't like me. It doesn't affect me really. I have a hard time with close friends and family disliking me. That would really upset me.

goaded · Answer

It's good advice. There's no need to be an asshole or intolerant, but you should say what you think. You should also be willing to change your mind as you get older.

Trying to please other people just trains them that they don't have to bother pleasing you.

Fireguy17 · Answer

Sure, with my position at the firehouse sometimes people don't like how I run a scene, or decisions I make, but I make them in their best interest.

Everyone goes home.

That is my jobs, kind of like a parent.

Their safety is paramount.

Unit1 · Answer

I grew up as a social outsider and outcast from the get go. It's natural to say I must have grown up to be disliked (AKA being myself).

Besides, what am i missing? Degeneracy? Alcoholism? Vaping? Dumb memes?

On the other hand I had cool friendships too, so there's going to the beach as a group, going to a house party, getting involved with girls and so on.

menina · Answer

I'm pretty used to be disliked, I've been disliked since I was born. So yes, I guess I can say that I have the courage to be disliked. But I'm going to look for the book. It seems interesting.

Hulk_kitty · Answer

Yes I don't care if someone dislikes me, at the end of day, its a impossible to make everyone like you, that's just reality.

“Care about what other people think and you will always be their prisoner.” - Lao Tzu.

Altheavas · Answer

I don’t give a Danm! Lol 😂 please express your emotions as you see fit. None of my of my business.

molonski2 · Answer

Not a remote concern , I always wish to be real.

Joshydavid25 · Answer

I like to be liked honestly.. And if I can avoid conflict I will.. But, I do believe I have some courage to be disliked.. As hard as that is.

Shiningtempest · Answer

I don't have the courage to be disliked because that's who I am. :)

Sparkie460 · Answer

I'm perfectly fine if someone doesn't like me

Apple1996 · Answer

Yep I love the haters 💕 they feed my soul

DizzyDesii · Answer

I hate being hated but I’m used to it

jahaims · Answer

Idc what others think about me

ThrillSeeker01 · Answer

You need to be.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Yes!

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