Is it possible to oppose a feminist statement without being labeled as a pick me?

[marish01]

Whenever I express disagreement or I address a male issue I get called a pick me.

How is it impossible to disagree with a feminist while still not doing it for male attention? Lol

[abc3643]

Listen:

Stop caring about what other people think.

Most people are idiots with too much confidence, too much "know-it-all-ness", but lack the experience, maturity, and mental discipline to formulate cogent thoughts and arguments.

In the summer of 1986, I knew a guy named Steve for 3 weeks. He was rather cynical apparently having had a not-so-good life at the ripe of age of 20. He said to me "If it doesn't feed me, fuck me, or get me high, I don't care about it."

That's sad, but he has a point in a way: Only care about the opinions of people who can affect your life, so as your spouse, your kids, your parents (if you are not yet independent), or your bosses (potential bosses). Everyone else is irrelevant and you shouldn't let their "judgments" affect you.

That said, always keep an open mind and be willing to listen. You don't want to be an idiot like I described above, so always be willing to admit that you could be in error about something unless you are 100% sure.

As for people saying you are a "pick me", well... they're idiots like I described above. Their opinions should hurt you as much as a kindergarten teacher is hurt when a grumpy 5-year-old calls her a "poopyhead" because it's nap time.

[marish01]

It's not about being offended. I just wonder where is the line where disagreeing with a feminist statement is fine.

[abc3643]

You don't understand what I wrote.

This that you just wrote:
"where is the line where disagreeing with a feminist statement is fine."

The answer is that: It doesn't matter.

You are concerned about a "line".

Who created this "line"?
Who has ownership of this "line"?
When was this "line" created?
Where is this "line" documented?

It's all bullshit. YOU didn't create this "line" and, since you are asking about it, you definitely don't know anything about it. Why? Because it is bullshit.
>>> It does not matter.

Learn this or you will make yourself a prisoner of other peoples' "judgments" all your life and will live in misery being a slave to their opinions.

[marish01]

If all you have to say is "don't mind them, don't care about them" then you have nothing to say

[abc3643]

I feel a bit sorry for you.
You have failed to learn the lesson I am teaching to protect you.
You will either learn this lesson from The School of Hard Knocks or you will suffer from constantly worrying about others' opinions.

Since you won't listen to me, perhaps read the Aesop Fable teaching the same lesson.

In this version, it is titled "The Miller, His Son, and the Ass" but it is also known as "The Man, The Boy, and the Donkey".

https://read.gov/aesop/136.html

The moral of the story:
If you try to please all, you please none.

[love_conquers_lust]

My mother and sister do it. I believe they do it to secure themselves. The stronger the men are and the more endeared they are to them, the more protected my sister and Mom feel.

They also both work. It's not one size fits all when choosing lifestyle.

You live and let live. You're technically exercising your right and freedom to choose, which falls under feminism.

[Thestupidusername]

Lol an actual "pick me" is someone who tries to bring other women down in her presense to make herself look good. You simply disagreeing with someones feministic point doesn't make you a pick me. But when they dont have arguments they go to drama:)

[MzAsh]

Try focusing on how your ideas benefit women too, and not just men. Pick-mes serve up all these ideas that only seem to cater to men.

[marish01]

I judge bad behaviors of both genders and praise good behaviors of both genders.

[MzAsh]

Your judgments are often really jarring and catty. A quick scan and I see you continuously calling people trash, slut, whore, fat, loser, and on and on and on like this. And you’re here complaining about being called a pick-me?

[marish01]

Show me the posts where I called people those names.
And did I call thin people fat and monogamous people sluts and whores?

[MzAsh]

Call people names if that’s what makes you happy. Just don’t be surprised when you get the same type of energy back.

[deus_ex_sisyphus]

Yeah, its a bit of a double standard. When guys do it they get called white knights or simps. Honestly though, agreeing to disagree should reconcile the argument - I think you could get away from the 'pick-me' name calling if you were to reach common ground on an issue. I. e. hatred of unsolicited dick pics

[normalice]

You need a man to speak on your behalf.

Or, just avoid online feminism as most of it is actually just right wing trolls trying to make feminism look unreasonable.

[marish01]

Left wing extreminists make feminism look irrational

[normalice]

Probably 99% of left wing extremists are right wing trolls trying make the left look extreme to generate some bothsidesism.

[marish01]

It would be more accurate if you said 99% of all leftists are extremists lol

[normalice]

No it wouldn't lol. Extremism is not a hobby it's a full time job in need of funding or the extremist must eventually quit and get a normal job. And the only people willing to pay people to be extremists are right wing billionaires. No rich man is going to pay extremists to advocate for taking power from the rich in any way that might actually prove effective, lol.

[NathanDavis]

I am myself... regardless

all of these labels... I do not bother with

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Because you for years just say things against your own gender to get attention from men on here.

Same ish some women do on social media like Tik Tok and YouTube but only difference they get paid acting like they care about men and you don't.

[marish01]

Against my own gender?
I judged behaviors I find immoral and stupid

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

That's fine but you only seem to attack women for their bs and not men for it which just comes off as fake and looking for male attention.

[marish01]

I judged bad behaviors from both gender

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

In your time here 95% is just bashing women with your questions.

[marish01]

How did you calculate that percentage?

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Just a educated guess. Most of your questions is just bashing women.

[marish01]

Most?
Then read my last 10 questions and tell me which one bash women and which one bash men. Let's see if most my questions bash women.

[Guanfei]

You can't, they have no argument, so they'll just resort to name calling.
Don't worry about it, it's even a compliment.

[SixFootSexy]

Candice Owens does this all the time. She's married though, so that's your missing piece. Get a husband before all your eggs are gone. =P

[Joshydavid25]

It doesn't matter.. It's not a legit criticism of you.. It's just an ad hominem.. I mean at one point we all wanna get picked, so yeah..

[NamerOfStars]

Not by a Feminist. Insults are what people resort to when they don't have an actual argument.

[Billlewis]

I think so. The unwritten rules tend to be stricter for guys than they are for women.

[KrakenAttackin]

Of course. The feminist come for you whenever you dare to question their narrative. Don't worry about being called a "pick me", as pick me girls ACTUALLY GET PICKED.

[Miristheiss]

Do not worry about it. It is just a shaming tactic.

[AviatorTom]

Why do you care? Just stand by your own beliefs.

[_no_one_]

I mean try doing that from a male account. You might get called a misogynist or something lol but if that helps.

[Anonymous]

I don't see how these two things are antithetical to each other.

I'm not sure we have the same definition of "pick me" girl.

[Anonymous]

"Pick me" is just a cop out term feminists use when they have no valid response.

[Opinion Owner]

OMG, I just read the response from @MzAsh. What a world class hypocrite she is, lmao!!!

[marish01]

She is bitter lol

[Opinion Owner]

Yup. Most of what she writes here is thinly veiled misandry. She obviously has some deep seated bitterness toward men.

[marish01]

She said I call people sluts, whores and fat.
This tell me that she has a high body count and low level of hotness.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you seen any of her videos? She looks like a rodent.

I have read many of your posts here and don't recall ever seeing you call anyone a sluts, whore or fat. But I have seen her write a lot of truly horrible things. Like I said, she's a world class hypocrite.

[marish01]

No, link a video.
I expressed negative opinion on promiscuity. I used the word slut but I don't recall calling someone a slut. If I did then they deserved it.

[Opinion Owner]

I would surely be banned if I posted a video of her, or her real name. She is an online personality and a "dating coach", which is scary as fuck considering her many misandrist rantings. Not what the world needs. She is essentially a female version of Andrew Tate.

She's been a member here for many years, and in the past she was an unabashed man hater who was prolific with her misandrist writings. In recent years she has toned it back because she knows it could impact what is now her livelihood, but her misandry still shines though, albeit in a more veiled fashion. If GAG had a reasonable search function I could easily find many examples of her bitter hatred for men. But alas, GAG's search functionality is virtually useless.

[marish01]

You can dm me

[loveslongnails]

I agree with ABC... who cares?

[RedInnocent68]

No. It is what it is. #polarization

[boobliker]

you can't win with them

[Christoff92]

Just ignore and support the male audience

[Anonymous]

No not in liberal society at least

[gorydetails]

It's gaslighting.