What are your best tips to help me adapt to my new life as a woman?

[Anonymous]

IT'S NOT ME IN THIS PICTURE

[laly520]

focus on loving urself, build ur confidence

during ur free time try to do some simple feminine activities

[Asker]

I said I was a transgender woman to avoid military service, but they wanted proof, so I had to become a woman because of my lie.

(I'm neither American nor European.)

[laly520]

r u russian?

[Asker]

No, I'm Turkish

[laly520]

damn must be hard to do that in there

[Asker]

Yes, to be honest with you, if I'd known the consequences of my lie, I wouldn't have said that.

But originally it was a good idea to make them believe that I felt like a woman, because it meant I could avoid military service.

But unfortunately for me, they wanted me to really start the process and today I'm a woman.

[laly520]

maybe cross dress?

[Asker]

No, it's not enough for them. I take hormones and so on. It's not easy to live with, but I have no choice.

In fact, some people have told me that my government certainly knew I didn't feel like a woman, but to "punish" me for my lie, they left me no choice but to really become one.

[laly520]

yes seems like punishment to me
why not try to leave country?

[Asker]

Well, I don't have enough money for that. In fact, in Turkey we have great economic difficulties.

Yes, I think they're punishing me too.

[laly520]

is there a way to tell em u lied? seems like going to military is less worse

[Asker]

Now with the recul I tell myself that I should have accepted the army but if I tell them that I lied I surely risk prison because of that. And like we said, they probably know I lied, but they're condemning me to becoming a woman. 😔

[laly520]

this is so messed up, can't u contact human rights organisations

[Asker]

I don't think so. In any case, I've learned to put on makeup, walk in heels and so on.

[laly520]

r u enjoying it?

[Asker]

Well, not really. But I don't have a choice. And honestly, I'm trying to move on with my life now and not stay focused on what I should have done before.

[laly520]

yes better move on with life

[Asker]

Yes, even though I miss my life as a man, and that makes me cry. I don't have a choice. So honestly, is it going to change anything that I keep thinking about my man life? Of course not! Can I change this situation? Unfortunately not! So either I stay unhappy for the rest of my life, or I decide to move on and try to be happy.

[laly520]

best of luck with it buddy

[Asker]

Thank you very much for your kindness. If you have any advice to give me, shoes, makeup etc. it will help me a lot.

[laly520]

yes, start with some simple feminine clothes, no need to go extra on everything, stick to comfy shoes as well, natural soft makeup n such

[Asker]

All right, thanks for the advice. 😊

[Agagagagaga]

@baronreagan How do you live with the shame?

[Dr_CEI]

Do whatever makes you feel happy and own it

[NathanDavis]

drink lots of water

[FunkyMonkee]

Just be yourself.