Questions for feminists?

[Anonymous]

1 - if you don’t need men , do you think men don’t need you either? Explain Why either way?

2- what are expecting from a man?

3- what should a man be expecting to get from a feminist? and what he should not be expecting to get?

4- Do you think the majority of men are good or bad?

5- do you think women are also capable of hurting men too or is it just men who are hurting women?

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

1. Women do not need men, but we used to. Before the 1970’s women were not allowed to be fully independent and divorce was not only heavily stigmatized but it often meant homelessness for a lot of women as there were places that could refuse to give her a home based solely on the fact that she was a single woman. Now that’s obviously changed, women are happily embracing their independence but men are floundering. For generations men have been taken care of by their wives, now that there’s an expectation of equal standards, a lot of them are realizing that they’re mediocre as men. Not being an abusive husband is no longer a good enough reason to have someone marry you and there are a lot of men that don’t understand why that’s not good enough. This isn’t to say they can’t learn how to take care of themselves but many men are under the belief that having a woman in his life would be better than without it — this would be true, provided he’a not putting his care exclusively in her hands. Men seem to need women much more than women need men.


2. Nothing I would expect from any other human being: common sense, human decency, and the ability to do your job and take care of yourself.


3. I imagine a lot of men expect a combative woman in a feminist. What they should expect isn’t combat, but simply change. She may not have the same standards for her life and yours, and ideally the men she brings into her life make it better than it would be without them.


4. I think a majority of men are neither good nor bad, but just average. You’re a person who does good or bad things, not a good or bad person.


5. Yes, women are just as capable of hurting men as men are of hurting women. Women abusers in DV cases are rarely prosecuted or prosecuted as harshly as they deserve because of gender bias in a court system.

[Asker]

I agree with the first point , but Inthink this could only happen because of the relative peace we are living in. when the war broke off in Ukraine, the men stayed to fight while majority of women fled the country

I find this answer quite cold
It all about materials
It all about what can a man brings into the woman’s life
What about what women need to brings to a man’s life

Majority of men are average too? Majority of women are average too

The way you answered this question
With no emotions , no mention of family or children ; a lot of single moms are struggling to raise their children (not all of them ), no mention of love, growing old with someone , men are mediocre etc

It makes the answer seem that a man should only expect sex from a woman
Because expecting anything else is controlling

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

The way you interpret this is your problem, not mine

[Agape93]

1 - if you don’t need men , do you think men don’t need you either? Explain Why either way?
Correct. And we don't need men, we want men. I personally think it's more meaningful when someone actually wants you in their lives.


2- what are expecting from a man?
Treat me like an equal.


3- what should a man be expecting to get from a feminist? and what he should not be expecting to get?
A partner who will work with you, love you, value you. Don't expect to have control, unless she chooses to give you control.


4- Do you think the majority of men are good or bad?
Good, by far. Most men are good, genuine people.


5- do you think women are also capable of hurting men too or is it just men who are hurting women?
Oh we can and absolutely have hurt people. I know guys who have been raped or molested by women, I've met women who seem awfully fucking proud of smacking their partners around, and I've had to knock a bitch out before for trying to hit my friend after he broke up with her.

[Asker]

I like your answers
Except no 1

I think men and women need each other

Yes they can live without each other but
Life quality will be significantly significantly less

[Agape93]

Agree to disagree. But that's OK, were all different

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

You are talking about radical feminism when you say we don't need men on the whole. Feminism just looks for equality between men and women.

All I'm looking for in men is to treat us like equals. Enough of this garbage about how society would collapse without men or downgrading women as second class citizens who offer nothing to this world other than an uterus.

He should be expecting equality back from women.

I can't vouch for a majority of men. I know a lot of them have hurt women whether it be physical violence like abuse or rape. Even more have made unwanted sexual advances or comments that make us feel uncomfortable. There are also the ones who mentally abuse us with fear of retaliation when rejected. It puts us on edge when dealing with men. I will say it's not all guys, but even when it's a small percentage, it still reflects poorly on the sex as a whole.

Finally, both sexes can hurt each other in different ways. Although less common than their counterparts, physical abuse is possible and does happen. So does emotional manipulation.