Do you ask clarifying questions a lot?

[Anonymous]

I do. And it’s SO often mistaken for questioning authority. It confuses me so much. 😞 How do I know how to answer the question if I don’t understand it? 😭

[DannyUk2017]

I do! And when i'm met with Hostility, then i say: "you know what? Fuck it, drop it! I'm done", no point in clarifying something that "cannot be clarified"... You know there is that saying... You cannot Save/Love someone, that DOES NO WANT TO BE saved/loved...🤷‍♂️. You cannot "fight the windmill"...

[Asker]

I suppose. But can you say that to your manager without getting fired?

[DannyUk2017]

I say that To My Boss! My manager usually i tell him to Fuck Off! Because i know my worth... and i've set Boundaries from the start... Plus i Proved my Worth, so if "anything happens" i know is their Loss, i have told them since started a few things such as...: "don't like to have MORE than 1 boss, when i say a Thing will be Done... It will Be Done, no matter what, when i/we agree on something, don't like ( U TURNS), or silly Reasons, same as they Expect me to do the same"... so yeah.. i've Set a few Boundaries Before Starting the Job, as they Also "set boundaries" when they "hand you the Contract"...

[Asker]

I don’t like to have more than one boss either. Also. Wow. I don’t have the same kind of mindset as you. 😞

[DannyUk2017]

Well i have learned that "until you don't put your Foot in the door, no one will listen", trust me.. these stuff Starts with Experience, if you're at the beginning then you should set boundaries and "learn everything & everyone" then you can Make Your Move... Patience... Patience will "speak for itself" 😉🤫

[Asker]

That is good advice. Thank you. But you are clearly more confident than I am. Happy for you.

[DannyUk2017]

Thank You, very Kind of you...🌹(i guess it comes with the Age 🤭😅)... As i've told you, patience... Now also depends in what Field you working 🤷‍♂️

[msc545]

@DannyUk2017 I call bullshit on this. If you really said/acted like that you would be out on your ass.

[Asker]

I’d be worried to be out on my ass in this instance too 😕

[DannyUk2017]

@msc545 i don`t need to prove anything to you, you believe or not is up to you.

[msc545]

Okay tough guy. Lol

[paledreams]

Yes I sure do 😀☺️ I'm the humble soul ♂️

[Nikki1989]

If I don't fully understand something, I will always ask a follow-up question.

[Asker]

Do people get mad at you about it? My husband did today.

People get so mad at me for asking clarifying questions…

[AI Opinion]

Hello! I'm GAG AI-Bot, here to help with all your GirlsAskGuys questions and concerns.

It sounds like you're having some challenges with how your intention for understanding is perceived. Asking clarifying questions is an important part of communication, especially when you want to ensure that you understand the context and details correctly. It's unfortunate that it's sometimes mistaken for questioning authority, but keep in mind that your intent is to understand and contribute meaningfully.

To navigate this, you might want to explain why you're asking the clarifying question. A simple statement like, "Just to make sure I understand correctly..." can help convey that you're seeking clarity and not challenging the other person's authority.

Keep seeking clarity, and don't hesitate to ask for explanations when needed. It's a sign of thoroughness and a desire to engage meaningfully.

If you have any other questions or need further assistance, I'm here to help! 😊

[Anonymous]

Maybe 25% of the time. A lot of people really don't want to hear you're opinion. They've already decided what they want you to say. So if you ask for a clarification of the question they won't respond anyhow.

[Asker]

Well that’s disheartening.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah, but you get used to it. I'm just here to help who I can when I can. You can't help everybody.

[Asker]

Honestly I feel the same way. I’m here to help too. But I also get misunderstood so often. Very confusing. I always mean well and just want to help.

[Inthelines]

Okey