Do you think my coworkers are right reporting me as a result of me almost getting fired?

[Anonymous]

I work as an admin assitant and Im very introvert I only talk when its work related. I dont interact with them cuz I felt like they were kinda mean to me so I avoid them and just treat them as coworkers and here's the story why I avoid some of them I was victim of their bullying. One time Louise had wardrobe malfunction and one of my coworkers said her panties are showing and she said "I have an idol in office " in loud voice and Mika replied "I know her she has yellow underwear!" And they grinned like mean girls I thought its me because one time my yellow cycling showed and my coworker noticed it and it prolly became a gossip in our office that my underwear is showing. Also one time I was fixing my table connected to Mikas table like Im so OCD organizing things and Louise said to Mika "You should be careful you should not exceed the line in Sarahs (me) table" because our office table is very close and her chair is very near to me and Mika replied " She should be the one who should be scared of me!"in loud and angry tone and Louise replied " "You got period?"I thought its rude both of them since I didn't do anything of them. Also one time I heard Mika said " I know someone who just ate and still absent minded" like I thought its me and yesterday I was called in my superiors office that I got reported that Im not that interacting with coworkers they said they felt like I dont like them cuz I dont talk I told my superior I just can't relate to what they are talking about (this hurts me because they bullied me and I still got reported) my superior said she doesn't see what I do she just asked their opinion for my assessment amd they told her that. And then my coworkers also said that Im too slow to talk to one watcher like one watcher it took me long time to talk to them. I never had any problem with any watchers even if Im slow to talk to them I actually last almost 6 months in this job. And then my coworkers snitched me like that.

[Anonymous]

Short version: Learn to see people for their best even when they are maybe reflecting their worst.

So, what you described, its not bullying. Its called teasing and its an interaction which usually calls for a good natured self humor and appropriate teasing back in a way that everyone can enjoy.

My honest assessment is you have over sensitivity. Sometimes, even good people who care will step on our toes and part of being grown up is to try to take the majority of things in good spirit, even if they where delivered in somewhat malice. Understanding that ever time a person responds, and they are emotional they may less consider or even feel like being deliberately hurtful. Disarming this allows them to save face, but pointing it out causes them to turn from doing that, slightly involuentarily to feeling the target or problem is the person.

My advice to you is, to join in. Banter with them. If your not the type of person to banter, smile and laugh with their attempts to "bully" you; It's the right reaction either way...

If they genuinely are attempting to bully you, the fact your laughing and finding humorous their attacks defeats their attempts to bully you (though do be careful, if there is a theme of the same kind of disparaging, laugh the first couple of times but the third and last time, still laugh but more coldly and then state 'that's enough guys, its becomming personal and I don't like being treated like ; then go brighter and say, but I do enjoy having a laugh too just don't keep on about < think their keeping on about>"). If they aren't really bullying you but trying to have a tension breaking jest. They will aprechiate you 'finding the humor' and be more inclined to do things which will make you like them. So. relax. laugh at yourself too. When you can't politely excuse yourself with some work task, give a smile as you go and deal with it privately before returning to work (aka. Just slip the bathroom, have a little cry.. feel better and then try to see the funny side).

[dreamstar72]

Someone wants your job

[DrPepper12]

Toxic. Get a new job