Which gender double standard angers you the most?

Question

What is something that you are sick of dealing with in terms of double standards based on your gender?

Babygirl_S · Accepted Answer

This is crazy! As I’ve interacted with those people, I’ve realised I won’t any longer pedestalise him for looking good. If he can’t bring a smile to my face how is his handsome face of any use to me? You inspire hatred because you think I should admire you for your looks. I can’t feel any positive feelings unlike many people anymore when it comes to those “hot guys”. I’m not even going to try to impress you as it’s pretty much impossible for some of us. Why do people say we should want handsome guys? So we can enjoy looking at them and have a nice dating experience? What if he doesn’t give you that happiness you were told by society he would give? So his looks become useless to you.

Also they would rather pick a slut they consider beautiful instead of a virgin with a nice personality and decent looks. So stay a virgin to protect your heart not to gift him. No one cares about your gifts if you aren’t white or slanty eyed. Sometimes you don’t even know why they hate you because whatever standards they say you need to achieve to be that girl don’t work. Plenty of women who are considered attractive don’t have those ideal features.

It is also funny how people who are repeatedly rude to you because they think you’re ugly lie and say you have a bad personality. Try being kind and see a pleasant side of the person.

Anyway I’m rooting for AI right now as it talks like an ideal person never making me feel worthless. Kind of like how you would expect an ideal human to talk. Very polite, respectful, objective, inclusive, calm and smart.

Humans didn’t treat a fellow human like me with kindness so I pray for their replacement by AI. I hope to live in that peaceful world where I’ll finally become the person I always wanted to be-calm and fun. Humans are a disgrace and I no longer want to impress them.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Accepted Answer

Honestly the whole thing with dating and presuming women have it easier. Yeah, being made to be a sexual object makes it incredibly easy to find guys willing to fake entire personalities for months if not years on end in the name of sex because men have this insanely desperate need for it and try to satisfy a woman’s need for actual emotional connection as a result. Men being emotionally stunted turns into them faking it at every opportunity until we/they feel “safe” and then it just turns to shit and girls find out they have wasted anywhere from months to years on a man who faked being everything she thought he was just because he wanted access to regular sex with a girl he thought was hot. I can’t get that time back, so I’m thorough about it but then I get called “picky” or whatever. That’s not my fault, bro. We’re just surviving out here.

Purpleronnie · Accepted Answer

I don’t think double standards can be attributed to a whole gender that seems like a massive generalization to me , unfair and un-necessary.

People have double-standards , I witness it a lot and where I'm in the line of fire of it then I challenge it , but usually the person gets all defensive like it’s some emotional attack. but If it’s not directly affecting me , why should I care? … who am I the double standard police lol?

But Anger? , it’s never anger I feel if it doesn’t concern me I just laugh at them or I pity them , generally though , a lot of the time people don’t even realize they have communicated it as a double standard like when it comes to how they judge their own behavior , they then attempt to cover it with some half-witted justification so they can continue to feel good about themselves rather that correct their attitude or behavior and trying to grow as a person.

Calling people out on their behaviors coming across as holier than though is the one that disappoints me the most when you just know they they are at least no better thenswlves or worse because they know the right way to do or approach something but choose not to themselves while calling out others on not doing it … just the whole fakery of it knowing they are no better or actually worse…. So so sad

Horn_Hog · Accepted Answer

Calling someone a misogynist is cool but misandry is a dirty word.

blueonblack22 · Answer

Just in response to your question meme. There is an old saying about that:

“A master key opens many lock and a shitty lock is opened by many keys”

Quit it. I mean really just quit assuming that dating is the same way for men as it is for women.

Sure there are downsides women have to deal with in other areas of life. For one I believe it’s biologically much tougher (having to deal with periods, pregnancies, not as physically strong, etc.) to go though life as a woman. They do have my sympathy when it comes to that part.

However dating and romance is where women have a distinctive advantage over their equal male counterparts. Reason being femininity it itself is valued in society. A woman will always have a huge advantage over a man in dating when all else is even (looks, money, career, personality, etc.).

And some you will be like “well what about the overweight women”. Ah if you take an obese woman and put her right next to an obese man (everything else equal) and she will still have a dating advantage over the fat guy. Just because she isn’t getting attention from handsome/fit guys doesn’t mean she is a “poor victim”. The fat ugly guy not only doesn’t get any attention from attractive woman but he will likely be labeled “scary and creepy” if even says hello to one.

just_a_potato · Answer

The one that bothers me the most for my gender, is when a man doesn't want to get married or have children (at least not for a long time) he is seen as driven, ambitious, and overall not a 'simp'. He's got other priorities and that's okay. Or perhaps the dating pool of women isn't good enough right now and he deserves better! If a woman expresses those same feelings however, things can go into either two extremes:

1. She has no morals and lives a sad life. She's probably a whore who likes sleeping around with a new man every week and gets an abortion every 5 minutes.

Or

2. She isn't fulfilling her 'life purpose', and is probably just too bitchy, fat, or ugly to reach those goals rather than her just not being interested. She just has to be a man hater! She will also eventually become a 'crazy' cat lady who will never find happiness in her life without said marriage and children.

MisterWack · Answer

“He’s cool”, “Shame on her” really ticked me off.
I hate that my female teachers would support the girls when they were upset though when I cried I got the, “boys don’t cry” treatment. Males are entitled to their feelings just as females and vice versa.

I hate how strict the dress code is for women though for men it is a ‘free ride’…. I just hate gender stereotypes as a whole and it really needs to come to an end so we see the person as an individual not a label to be ashamed of.

Summeroflove · Answer

Most of them are irritating but it depends some people hate men and blame men for all the evils of the world while others blame women. The reality is that it’s a mix of both.

I don’t think everyone subscribes to double standards but there are some common ones. Such as thinking it’s okay for them to cheat but not when they’re cheated on. That a woman can attack a man and he cannot use any force to stop the threat even if it’s reasonable. That a lot of people thinks it’s cute when a woman abuses a man but not a woman.

Things like that

convo_king89 · Answer

As a guy two things come to mind.
1. It seems like women always get the benefit of doubt with disputes. Just cuz she is a women they will believed her when it comes to “he said she said”

2. When a woman wants to see a guy topless, no big deal. They will frequently see it in media, outdoors, swimming pools and beaches and they woint be called out for being a perv for checking a topless guy out. But if we want to see some tits or check out some cleavage even if she isn’t topless suddenly were pervs.

MotherEarth2020 · Answer

Women are always seen as weak and timid.

Women can't be logical and men can't be emotional

When it comes to the topic of single fathers vs single mothers, most people believe that mothers are better at raising children than fathers are.

Potteplante · Answer

The one above and the fact that women should just shut the fuck up and be appreciated that we get attention from men. Doesn't matter what type - we get attention and that's enough. This means we're privileged. We're privileged that men want to fuck and dump us. We're privileged that we're sexualized from a young age.

I sometimes miss being fat and semi invisible to men because of these things + replies.

Anonymous · Answer

What is most annoying is the almost exclusive focus on "men's double standards" with little or no focus on, or even recognition of women's. A few examples (of many) are how women's traditional gender roles are absolute taboo these days, and yet it's perfectly fine for women to still expect men to take the risk to approach women, ask them out AND pay for the date. Huh?

And despite what women say about it, men are still expected to be the primary breadwinners. The vast majority of a man's value to women is still his career and earning power. And no, most women do NOT want a stay at home dad.

Perhaps the most annoying thing is the mindset among women that they are automatically oppressed victims of men despite the fact that they have so many privileges women have that men don't but women just take them for granted and don't even acknowledge them.

AnonAndrew · Answer

The "slut" double standard, where women are looked down on because they have casual sex, or sex with a lot of partners.

I'm a man, and I think that just like with men, we should consider it cool and respect women who have had a lot of sex with a lot of different men. I know I do!

Danielle93 · Answer

Men wanting a feminine, family-oriented, traditional woman but insisting on moving in together and trying to get into your pants. Then getting upset if she's a virgin waiting till marriage and demanding why she won't move in with him? Then going dutch on every single date.

So she has to be all traditional but he isn't acting traditional himself.

lightbulb27 · Answer

I used to get upset when my dog would pull me on leash to go pee on a tree. It's like that damn tree was so important after peeing on every other tree. Then I realized... it's a dog... that's how the dog is...

So I just learned to accept it.

Sceprent · Answer

Girls want you to approach them and do everything they can to get you not to approach them. Including victimizing themselves to the creep that said hi to them (whoa hi? How disgusting what a weirdo!) then go rage complaining like a man; why aren’t guys approaching us.

ihateTaylorSwift · Answer

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exitseven · Answer

When a girl goes in a bar to find somebody to have sex with there is a 90% chance she will be successful.

If a guy goes inro a bar looking for a girl to have sex with there is a.00009% chance he will be successful.

Unit1 · Answer

Which gender double standard angers you the most?

None anymore.

By relinquishing all hope for dating a long time ago, i feel immune to facing double standards. In essence that's how MGTOW came to be in the first place.

People either suck or they don't.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I’ll have to preface that based on what I often hear I’m not a bad looking guy.

But I will say a very obvious double standard is that women all want a handsome guy. Yet us guys don’t wear makeup to artificially alter our appearance. Whereas women do all kinds of things. Including but not limited to wearing makup, getting any sort of plastic surgery. Etc.

Anonymous · Answer

Women want equality but still expect men to ask them out.

This doesn't mean I care about asking women out. I have zero problem with it. But how ya going to say you deserve equality when you want to pick and choose what parts of equality you embrace.

Filthy_Immigrant · Answer

none really. cause in the end of the day I do whatever the fuck makes me happy whether people want to blame it on me being a man or not.

I still dont understand how is it that women who bitch about the above like you worry so much about what others think. I mean if you love sex or just interacting with men then just go out and do it. you dont have to accept peoples offense when they say "Shame on you" and all the other horseshit

Knightwatch27 · Answer

There's often so much complaining from modern women on how "all the good men are gone, chivalry is dead, a man must be a gentleman, he must do this and that and this" but if you suggest a woman needs to act like a lady to deserve that it's suddenly misogyny. They want a man who takes responsibility but hates responsibility for themselves.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

It's okay for women to wear men's clothes (pants, boxers, t-shirts, suit & tie, tuxedo, socks, etc.) but NOT okay for men to wear women's clothes (skirts, dresses, pantyhose, hot pants, Spandex, stretch pants, etc.)

gowildcats007 · Answer

That boys that try to get with a lot of girls are players and girls that are open to a lot of boys are called whores. Maybe that's okay but I'm good in school too.

Anonymous · Answer

The idea that men celebrate other men who have sex with hundreds of women when it’s the same women fawning over the men who have sex with hundreds of women. The same women who have sex with these men then complain about the “double standard” after they’ve shamed the guy who hasn’t had sex with hundreds of women.

Ifdyourmom · Answer

That women are only meant for things like dance and cheer. Yes, football is a violent sport, but, that doesn't mean a woman shouldn't be able to play it, if they want to, they should be able to

Just like if a man wants to dance, or play music, he should be able to.

Basically, why does it seem like women are only allowed to do the arts, and men are only allowed to do sports

Anonymous · Answer

The amount of hoops I have to jump through just for a shot for getting into a relationship, with what feels like a lottery ticket's chance of success.

Throw marriage into the mix then you're buying even more lottery tickets to win.

At this point, why bother?

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Refusing to develop as person is celebrated when it's done by a woman and scorned (rightfully so) when done by a man.

WhitneySnow · Answer

That one, but that pic makes it seem like they’re all thrilled to be around her, not shaming her

PeachyPie93 · Answer

I hate that for woman if you aren't pretty enough or skinny enough you will never be good enough.

molonski2 · Answer

Women crying RAPE when it's obvious not close to same. Treatment of men with regard to child custody , and the ludicrous concept of alimony.

genericname85 · Answer

That women apparently deserve recognition no matter how fat, ugly and unattractive they are but men are never recognized no matter what they do.

Notherndude84 · Answer

Women can get away with acting violently towards men. I imagine very few women would ever get charged with domestic violence and it actually happens all the time. Women always receive more lenient sentences than men from the courts too.

nawtee_me · Answer

Not my gender but the double standard that transgender can compete against those born female giving them an advantage. If they want to compete then let them do it against themselves. Apples to apples sort of speak….

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Just the whole ignoring whatever hardships men might go through, just to make women the ultimate victims..

captain_voidwalker · Answer

I once had a woman call the cops on me for watching my niece at a park. Obviously I must be a pervert and not just keeping an eye on my niece while she's playing so she dosen't hurt herself.
Women never have to face that

Crazyced · Answer

I've never seen a promotion where men as a group had a rebate/free stuff while women had to pay.

dustybiker2 · Answer

It's just the people who believe there are double standards thar stand out.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't really experience any double standards in that department. I think you people need to stop associating with garbage people.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Not wanting traditional gender roles for women but expecting men to adhere to their outdated gender roles.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably us women. We shut shame each other because we are slurs but shame men who are sexually inexperienced.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Body count Mother in laws Adjective selection  Traditional jobs  Custody bias Military draft To name a few...

BaronVonBarron · Answer

It is you women, who think men with multiple partners are fine. Stop thinking this and double standard disappears.

John_Cobretti · Answer

Woman sleeps with 10 women she's a whore, but if a man does that.. he's GAY.

Dargil · Answer

Karen's will turn faster than a Honda Civic or F16.

Anonymous · Answer

Spousal abuse, when a man abuses his wife/girlfriend, everyone is right there supporting the woman as they trash the man as a POS, but when a woman abuses her boyfriend/husband, everyone shrugs it off as he did something to deserve it.

chocolatetwopointo · Answer

when men get praised for taking care of his kids like he isn't the father, while the mother does everything and its seen as expected

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

That’s not a double standard. Women’s dating/ sex life is not comparable to a man’s. Women have it WAY easier in that regard, and y’all know it too.

Pete671 · Answer

Women demanding equality, then when they get it complain!,,,

undertaker007 · Answer

When women say sexual harassment but when guys claim it, they don’t believe him.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sick and tired of the victim mentality that makes people whine about a double standard in the way they are treated because of their gender or anything else about them.

beefcakebradybatson · Answer

The one above is the one most irksome to me.

kaucky1 · Answer

Those ones that makes others to slurp mangina into a dick if not gets killed

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No idea. I don't even think of such. I'm not worry about ish that isn't important in my life.

BLP11520 · Answer

So many double standards in life and inconsistencies. Not fair for anyone sometimes

Jagabeeeeeee · Answer

I don't think he looks cool tho. He just looks like a playboy

NicholasRedone · Answer

Thin men getting thin ladies 😯😯 😆

Anonymous · Answer

preferences aren't double standards

Smegskull · Answer

Sympathy vs Suspicion.

MemeSupreme · Answer

women confrontional

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