What to do about someone who's always directing you to ways to heal trauma while simultaneously causing more trauma?

[virtualwasp]

I'm sure you can tell that talking to someone who has such a lack of awareness will not produce results and has been tried before, im unable to detach myself from them. Not for the lack of trying but i have no control of them being around me and i have made it clear i do not want them around me but like any crazy person they ignore and continue.

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Maybe its narcisism, and their views, opinions and needs are greater than anyone else as they need to be the center of the everyones world. I dont know, i guess it doesn't help trying to make sense when all they want it attention 24/7.

[lightbulb27]

Well... we don't see our own issues well, sometimes others do. It's a frustrating thing honestly. As well, we tend to project onto others, so maybe... they are wrong or don't know how to guide.

Ultimately, you have to be the guide of your own health... take in what you can to learn and grow, boundaries to protect yourself.

Some people mean well, but don't fully relate to how you feel. May never know what 'it is like' until experience it themselves. And then, it's different depending upon how sensitive we are.

good luck!

[RageBabe]

If you are not living together, simply cut ties with them; if you are, begin accumulating money and looking at apartments to rent. Good luck.