Why do people wanna have babies these days?

[Anonymous]

We all have been struggling in our lives and we know how difficult life is these days for most people…. So why do people wanna bring a new person to the world for them to suffer too….. i think it’s too selfish to bring a child to the world if tou cannot make sure he/she won’t have to struggle

i know people will not agree with this thought… but still i believe we should not have babies unless we’ve made sure that we’ve made a fortune and the child would not have to face all that kinda struggle

[Apple1996]

Because life is beautiful even with the struggles. And sorry but money is barely important when it comes to raising kids. Being able to care and give them love is what's important. Being a mom is the most selfless thing I've ever done so I'm not sure where you get this selfish idea from. It seems you are ungrateful for the life you have been given and have a negative mindset about it.

[Asker]

Why did you want kinds in the first place? Because you wanted it right? The kid didn’t ask for it…. I know parents love is unconditional but there are parts of life from which even parents can’t save you from….
And maybe yes i have this negative mindset because of all that i’ve been facing throughout my life and the inly reason i could not give up my life is my family who lives me so much… otherwise i literally do not see any reason to be alive….
But why i had to bear so much pain is because my parents wanted a child….
I love them no doubt about it and I respect them and i know the’ve sacrificed their lives for me…. But what was my mistake that i have to bear all that….
I know people won’t be able to understand me unless they step in my shoes…

[Apple1996]

Most of my kids are accidents so I wouldn't say I wanted them 🤣

[Apple1996]

Sorry you feel like your suffering. Maybe try finding the positive things to live for and focus on that instead of the negatives

[Asker]

I am rlly trying to hard…

[exitseven]

I had 3 kids. I was not rich and struggled most of my life to make ends meet. My kids were not spoiled but they got everything that they needed to be successful adults. Their lives were not as challenging as mine was but I think that they saw my struggles and appreciated how hard that I worked. I imagine that they all were glad that they got a chance to have a life.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[DrPepper12]

Isn't the challenge of living the entire point of not just existing but thriving?

You need Buddha in your life. Life IS suffering! The Four Noble Truths can guide you to the Eightfold Path and then to nirvana.

[Asker]

I get your point… thnx for sharing this

[Anonymous]

Bringing a life into this world is a magical experience not every person in life gets to enjoy. I can only hope to experience the miracle of life one day.

[Asker]

But that’s for your happiness…. What about the child… isn’t it selfish

[Opinion Owner]

Who is to say the child will not be happy. I am a loving person who will care for and protect my family in times of hardship.

[Asker]

You never faced any challenges in life? No sorrows, no difficulties?

[Opinion Owner]

Everybody faces challenges in life, but those challenges have nothing to do with whether a person should have a baby or not. I will be strong for my family and not let my personal struggles interfere with their happiness and wellbeing.

[jshm2]

Because they are more informed than incels like you

[Asker]

you dumb or what... where did that come from... what does more informed mean here... can more informed people make sure their children won't have to struggle in their lives... did you even understand my question or just wanna degrade others for nothing... people like u are nothing more but a big time loserss

[Anonymous]

why must the new person suffer? why not be the positive change in the world you wish to see?

[Asker]

The struggle to earn a living is inevitable… how can we change it? Not everyone is born with much skills… there are below average people in life who struggle to earn well

[seeyounexttuesday]

People have been having babies with a lot less than you have now.

[Asker]

Yes i know that... and that also made their kids struggling in their lives

[seeyounexttuesday]

You know it's ok to struggle. It's actually good for you

[Asker]

Up to what extent? I mean some people have to struggle way too much and maybe their life ends just struggling... sometimes life becomes hell... and the best part is that we didn't even chose to come to this world yet we have to struggle

[seeyounexttuesday]

So do you let struggle beat you or do you find meaning in life?

[Asker]

I am trying to find the meaning honestly but there are some issues that beat me everyday