When you were young were you enjoying your youth or did you grow up fast?

[Jay-_-]

According to many older and "wiser" people you can't experience situations and problems when you are young or experience real life issues and learn from it as a young adult. I'm not talking about kid problems like school or whatever... Long story short when you were young how did you act when you saw problems or ran into problems and issues etc did you learn from it? were you sharp as a young adult or did you just not pay any mind to anything when you were younger.

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8 mo

That period at the end should be a question mark *?

[Crimsyjo]

I enjoyed my youth. I wasn't in a rush to grow up. i liked my cartoons and teddy bears. My sister (one year older) she was in a rush to be an adult. I saw her fussing over hair and make up and running around after boys from like age 12.

My mum had issues but I think I was pretty oblivious. I guess she was good at shielding us from it too maybe? I have a fond memory of us watching something in the dark. Not knowing it was because my mum had no money for the metre to have lights on.

She was left in huge debt by my dad and we moved to a different town to be closer her mother as she thought her mum could help out. But again, she made it a big adventure for us and not about bad things happening.

I still have a very youthful mindset...

[Jay-_-]

Well look at you now, that's what matters most.

[Crimsyjo]

Haha... yeah look at me. Forever Peter Pan mindset 😂😂😂
I don't care. I hate my age as it doesn't reflect who I am at all lol

[Jay-_-]

Haha it's okay, age means nothing.

[Crimsyjo]

Tell that to guys on tinder my age looking for a girlfriend. I think I'm more sexual and fun then most women but they rather a women 35 than 45. We are considered way past it and not sexual. Probably.

[Jay-_-]

Forget em lol

[MemeSupreme]

i grew up very fast and definitely learned from any serious mistakes bc i had to

wasn't all just responsibility tho like there were enjoyable moments too

[Jay-_-]

Well said.

[NaultD]

Grew up fast. 19 and able fill up the gas tank like i did every time. got more then a few broke girls that ask for a ride home hinting wanting my first born just hearing that click from the pump. It was honestly that bad. If only they we're hotter. So what did I do next with this learning opportunity?

At the time coolest next step I thought i could do... get a morgage. Badass financially as I then double down and even refinance in 2020 with the lowest interest rates in human history. Didn't work that well for me with the girls.

Ultimate lesson don't put your eggs or effort in one basket or thing. Also be quick on your feet being as young as you are.

[Jay-_-]

Not even concentrated on women at the moment, just concentrated on me at the moment.

[NaultD]

It's this very fact that you are focusing this much on other factors is why you need an eye out for that someone.

You're a good kid better then most just even asking this question. So you are not only worthy but a few close lady friends can make and mold the man you personally want to be in no other way anyone else can.

You can also be a memorable man for a woman to be the person she wants. Never take any moment for granted.

You are thinking how trama inducing everything life is at this age. It's equally uplifting and growth.

Like I said before your smarter then most just even asking this question. Do your best.

[Jay-_-]

I'm not ready for "that someone" yet "that someone" I have in mind doesn't deserve who I am at the moment, I don't mean emotionally I mean financially, I'm okay for myself at the moment but I want to be able to get her whatever she wants and I can't do that. I do appreciate the kind words tho, you don't sound like a bad person at all. I'm aware I've missed out on many opportunities and will continue to do so but I know I'll be just fine.

[NaultD]

My final word on this is every word of doubt and putting off is the best reason to put in front of the list.

You got everything covered you got a good head on your shoulders. Better then your fellow peers. Your only short coming is this topic. So double down on it. You got every other plan covered with stress plans to boot. So do the unimaginable to make your hard plans worth the effort you put into them.

You'll never be ready for that someone. That someone is what makes you ready for the world.

[Jay-_-]

I like that I'll definitely take it into consideration.

[Jay-_-]

Thanks for the advice 🙏🏼

[NathanDavis]

I definitely grew up faster... both because of my experiences in life, and also my awareness and understanding above the average for kids

however, I would not call that "growing faster" maybe you just starting earlier or prematurely, I mean... I was age 22 and still figuring out a few things that other people my age who were seemingly "less mature" than me, but they had it together already

[Jay-_-]

I agree 100%. Also Im aware I didn't use the best terminology, I wrote this question pretty quickly. 😂

[NathanDavis]

why you always hurrying... lol

[Jay-_-]

Always? What gives you that idea? LMAO

[NathanDavis]

deja vú... I think you've said this before, lol

[Jay-_-]

Oh and to add on to that, I agree that life is a fill in the blank throughout time but what I don't agree with is a young adult can't be more wise than an old adult, I've seen many elders lacking in the knowledge department for me to say so. I'm not saying all because I don't believe in generalizing because it's the act of the foolish.

[Jay-_-]

Deja vú maybe you dreamed it 🤣

[NathanDavis]

this is definitely a thing we cannot generalize on, that's for sure... lol

whether is knowledge, wisdom or experience... age is NOT the only NOR the decisive factor

but some older people really think that way, but that's the exact way they were raised... nowadays is different

[Jay-_-]

I 100 percent agree.

[molonski2]

OMG , so many issues and how much I just thought I knew ( You just dont , and I was far more sensible than most ) my father was in a car accident when I was 7 , that changed my life for sure , my mother then lacked her " check and balance " for 8 years till he died , my first proper girlfriend ( despite a Cougar at 18 ) was at 19 years , we went out for 4 year's.

I had to grow up fast sure , look after myself , but your attitudes change vastly over time. Sport was a massive part of my life , so I basically pursued that and many women.

Its great being young , but its also horrendous in hindsight , you just don't understand the experience required in life. I thought I knew everything , and had great opinions ( mainly black/ white ) , I sadly did not.

[Jay-_-]

No one knows everything, only God. Doesn't matter how old you are, it's experience and how you choose to learn from it, clearly you choose to concentrate on "many woman" in your youth, that's not my style I'm concentrating on me and my loved ones you had different experiences. "You just don't understand the experience required in life" let me rephrase that for you I don't have experience to live your life as you don't have experience to live mine. Wisen up a little my guy.

[Jay-_-]

I agree attitudes will change over time, but my morals stay the same.

[exitseven]

i did a lot with the limited resources I had. i hitchhiked all over the northeast. I drove to Florida for spring break. I worked a crappy minimum wage job for the year after I graduated high school. I had many strange experiences I would not have had otherwise. I fixed up an old car and had many friends.

[jamesgoldman]

I started my first business at 8 and never looked back

[DrPepper12]

Failure. Challenge. Strife. Chaos. They're ALL the best teachers and I learned well.