Why are old women so triggered about older men being into young women?

[ElaHop]

It's a fact that most older men find women in their 20s most attractive or late teens. This is proven by several studies. This seems to trigger lot of women over 45. It's weird I couldn't care less.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

It’s not the age gap that triggers people, it’s the pattern behind it.

When an older man consistently prefers much younger women, people sense the power imbalance, the emotional gap, and the motives that aren’t always healthy.

Some women react because they’ve seen how often “young” gets confused with “easy to control.”

Some react because it reminds them how disposable women are treated in certain spaces.

It’s not about being old or bitter.

It’s about calling out dynamics that don’t feel genuine or reciprocal.

[Ariesman81]

@Bitter_Sweet94

What if instead of saying easy to control, we say easier to lead. The word "control" has such a negative connotation around it.

[Bitter_Sweet94]

“Lead” only works when both people choose it.

“Control” is when one person benefits at the cost of the other.

Age gaps can create situations where the younger partner doesn’t have the same life experience to push back, so what feels like “leading” to one person can feel like pressure to the other.

The dynamic isn’t automatically wrong, it just depends on whether both people actually have equal say, equal safety, and equal respect.

[Ariesman81]

Well yeah, that's why men like younger women. No man likes pushback, that's called insubordination. Insubordination is detrimental to progress.
So if a woman benefits from my career, is she controlling?

[Bitter_Sweet94]

Benefiting from someone’s career isn’t control, it’s interdependence.

2 people can support each other without one being reduced to a follower.

But if a man sees any form of disagreement as “insubordination,”
that’s not leadership, that’s ego.

A healthy partner doesn’t eliminate pushback, they know how to work with it.

Growth doesn’t come from silence, it comes from understanding.

[Ariesman81]

I disagree... with everything you just said

[Bitter_Sweet94]

That’s fair, we all have different perspectives.

I’m curious, what about it do you see differently?

I’d like to understand your view.

[Miristheiss]

True.

And for marriage... older than 24/25 she is probably shot. Unless you are the one who has been dating her since she was 20-21.

Any modern, western, feminist woman who is still single at 25 or older has been highly promiscuous and is no longer marriage worthy.

Foolish men still pursue older 20's women for marriage.

That ship sailed. The moment she decided to get on the pill and to start becoming sexually active with men that is not her husband and to start pursuing career and giving it up to men to start a hoe phase instead of a family she stopped being a possible wife.

Any man who marries a woman he met as a 'single' woman at age 25, 27, 29... is a fool.

[abc3643]

At an instinctive level, sure, we wanna fuck every hot young piece of ass there is and, the older we are, the more the young look like pieces of ass. (So, when WE were young, girls we might have been too fond about getting it on with then, we likely would be now.)

But, that's all penis-talk...

An older guy wants more of a partner in a relationship and an older woman would usually be better for that... hopefully, she's not too jaded, but more established and worldly and has her shit together. So, for this reason, older women become more attractive too.

[ElaHop]

For sex, it's 99 percent a young woman for the older guy they prefer

[abc3643]

For the most part, yes, of course.

Then again, for the older guy with ED or who isn't "Rod Steele" anymore, he doesn't want to saddle up and be a disappointment to the younger girl and lose her.

So, even the the brain-that-wants-sex says "Yes!", the penis is saying "I need to take a nap, dude." And, so, we refrain from going after the younger woman.

[Apple1996]

Because those older men are creeps for having that mindset. A healthy mans idea of beauty grows as he ages. If he only thinks teens- mid 20s is attractive then he is mentally stunted

[loveslongnails]

It's simply because they're not an attractive young girl or 20/30 something anymore themselves, in most cases. It's both a personal insecure and a moral judgement.

An older woman will berate a man for being shallow and caring only about appearance and not the personality, maturity and refinement of an older woman, even the ones in great shape. For most men, they will respond "So what if that makes me shallow? She's 23 and hot, and she wants to do me or date me. I'm not telling her no, you're too young, not with a chance to have that body"

Obviously, every man doesn't think like that, but certainly quite enough of them do. Even women who are not in relationships themselves will tell you how perverted and disgusting it is for an old man to do this and try to hold on to his "virility" by screwing a younger girl. But if they get a chance with a twenty something year old built like a brick house, with a thing for older women, hmmm... what happens?

[emeraldsaphire]

I don't get triggered. Granted I am not 45 yet lol. My concern is that when old men date young women a lot of the time the old men are taking advantage of them. A lot of women have experience with this happening. So when they see a creepy guy they blocked on Tinder going after an 18yo well, you can see why we'd be concerned

[ElaHop]

Lot of women have positive experiences too with older men so it's not black and white like you think it is

[emeraldsaphire]

@Sandmann731 That's insane I've talked to few of those people on here lol

[abc3643]

@Sandmann731 Cool. How did you identify all those previous fake accounts?

[emeraldsaphire]

@abc3643 looks like the comment got deleted

[ElaHop]

@emeraldsaphire Sandman is a psycho and got his last account deleted. If you wish to speak to him, find him and message him, do not hijack my post with him or I will delete you too.

If you can't discuss this topic with me, then don't respond at all

[ElaHop]

@Sandmann731 Stop spamming my threads and get a life you weirdo.

[emeraldsaphire]

@elahop Well I didn't believe him. I was just reacting to him, And yes I agree that not all age gap relationships are bad. I had a good one, but people only know their experience. So you get some women with bad experiences they will get quite loud

[ElaHop]

@emeraldsaphire agreed with the last part, even when the situation is consensual and there are no negative flags, those women will criticise and yell. I was never one of those gals.

[ElaHop]

@Sandmann731 yet you are here spamming all my questions, leave me alone

[abc3643]

@elahop
You understand, right?, that you just admitted that everything @Sandmann731 said was true. That you are a dude and have had all these accounts.

[ElaHop]

@abc3643 no I didn't admit anything, he's my stalker and it's really creepy

[emeraldsaphire]

Why do I get the feeling Mr ABC and sandman are the same person. 😅 This site is insane

[ElaHop]

@Sandmann731 please seek therapy

[ElaHop]

@abc3643 Weird he always goes inactive all the time then comes back again, typical troll behaviour

[abc3643]

Jesus, you guys are like Bele and Loki in the Star Trek episode "Let That Be Your Last Battlefied".
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aIyTZF6xTh4

[SoccerPlayer99]

It's not taking advantage. That's you projecting your insecurities onto the relationship. Consenting adults can do whatever they want. Would I date a 20 year old? No. But I'm tired of all the dusty older women crying about men their age dating younger. You find any reason possible to make it not ok and shame them both because you cannot compete with younger women. Yikes.

[SoccerPlayer99]

Wait? There's an age fetish troll? Who?

[SoccerPlayer99]

@sandmann731 Wait? There's an age fetish troll? Who?

[Simslover92]

It's perfectly fine with me. A lot of young guys these days seem to want older women for some reason so I kind of understand older men wanting young women. I kinda prefer younger guys myself lol

[Levin]

Well, mostly jealousy and women aren't used to not being in the ascendency when it comes to dating power. In short, fragile egos.

Incidentally, there was a girl at work who was rather young... But, well, I was a good boy :)

[Kelly6]

@elahop im 41 and I don’t see anything wrong with old guys dating young girls.

as I also like dating young guys.

[Dargil]

Especially Young East Asian women. The feminist, woke mentality had a system working. Young women, and particularly East Asian women, screw that up. But there's a good thing about it. It is increasing rabbit vibrator cells dramatically.

[CherryLove007]

Well it's a big world with many opinions like on here.

Age is just the chapter in your life.

I don't give any hoot's who want's to be with whom.

[DrPepper12]

Every study I've seen says it's simple evolutionary advantage. It's not that complicated nor is it subjective. It just is.

[RavVid]

From 8 to 80 we like 18 best.

I think a lot of women over 45 are triggered by realizing their value is low in the dating pool. In 20 years they have gone from hot stuff to the bargain table..

[jahaims]

Because it's common for older guys to take advantage of younger females. If someone has almost double the life experience they shouldn't have enough compatible to date.

[Jennz6]

@elahop

I’m 36 years old and I have dated guys younger than me. I also think it’s okay for older men to date younger women, it’s not creepy at all.

[hafinjun]

What are you doing next Friday, lol wink

[Likes2drive]

I have no idea why older women would care unless they feel like they’re being left out and that those women took away their chances, if that were true, then why am I not getting approached by women close to my age?

[AviatorTom]

I'm guessing they are jealous... because older women don't have the same kind of success with young guys.

[slatyb]

Finding them attractive -- normal. Trying to date teenagers --- creepy.

[ElaHop]

What if it's just sex? nothing wrong if they are over 18

[Telekinetic-Potato]

For exactly the same reason women hate prostitution

[noohair]

The caveman brain operates to maximize the spreading of the DNA of the person. So naturally the brain looks at women of child bearing age.

[WonderingManII]

I think they feel like it's not fair, because they are loosing their looks, and men prefer good looking females.

[JesseP1nk]

Yeah i have seen this. I think it is jealousy. And often times they give shit to younger women how they dress too while forgetting how themselves dressed some time ago when they were young.

[Pohjolan]

Same reason short men are triggered by tall men dating short gals.

Jealousy and worse mating opportunities.

[Celticwolf78]

Because of how society complained about it it shouldn't matter they are old enough to make their own decisions

[Gagforlifetime]

If an older man considers a late teen attractive I would question pedophilia

[Dina88]

I think it’s Society pits us against each other.

[Raydergman26]

Some women like Manther but age is just a number