How can I become a winner just average?

[Anonymous]

Yup I am a gigantic loser, I want love and hugs and the desperation is killing me.

[Abbycado]

First thing is the right attitude.

[Asker]

How, I tried to be confident, considerate, and kind.
But I get friendzoned, fished, or just used.
I am there for anyone who needs support and kindness.
People can cry in front of me.
I know I am not attractive but nobody chooses me.
They cry in front of me that they lost their chance with someone. Or ask me" why doesn't he like me?"

[Abbycado]

Sounds like it might be that you are giving off a strong friend vibe with wanting to be supportive, letting people cry on your shoulder, etc.

While I’m not saying those are bad qualities to have, being empathetic, maybe you lay it on to the point these girls view you solely as a friend because of it.

@HollyK21 do you have the same/similar feeling?

[HollyK21]

I absolutely agree Abby. I’m curious Anon, how do you go about making a move on a woman you’ve taken interest in? What’s this process look like for you?

[Asker]

It starts good I get a good connection but when I make a move they move away, ghost me, so I stop as well.
I know one might be busy.
But the same pattern repeats,
And dating apps, and events are worse

[Asker]

The event was so bad that it made me trapped in my room for days depressed and sad.
It made me so miserable cause everyone got a date and I was the only guy left.
(A lucky guy got 2 girls)
Which made me more sad.
And because I couldn't cry it just ate me

[Mike_Hum]

Stop being a loser.