Does it anyone else get tired of people who haven't been through a lot of shit or insensitive people telling you to get over things?

[Steven80000]

It's easier said than done when you have been through so much shit.

[nolabels]

I tend to let that sort of stuff slide off my back, and I've been through way more than my share of shit throughout my life.
There's no one to blame for most of it.
That's just the way it is.

People say stuff without giving much thought to how it may be perceived by the recipient.
It may arise from awkwardness, ignorance, insensitivity, or evil.
Letting it bother me is, to use a popular term, 'Giving those people free rent inside my head'.
There's no need for me to allow that to occur, so I don't, in most cases.
Some people's BS can rile me on occasion, until I take a moment to remember that popular saying.

My recently departed wife's very loving, grieving sister is having difficulty in regard to some people in her life issuing certain comments to her.
I listen to her complaints about such treatment of her by others with compassion.

She's a smart woman.
She's also grieving the loss of her sister very badly.
We share long talks, and things are beginning to come around for her.
She'll be okay in the long run.

I'm also grieving the loss of my wife.
I knew my wife for 35 years.
Her sister knew her for 65 years.
I'm of the opinion that she has much more to process in grieving her sister than do I as my wife's widowed husband in some ways.

I wish the same for you. 😊

[genericname85]

people never tell me to get over things. why would you say are people saying that to you?

[Anonymous]

The thing is, no one gets to tell you how to deal with things. You don't have to listen to them.

[jahaims]

You have to allow those types around you for that to happen

[beefcakebradybatson]

I'm a black man. Guess?

[Steven80000]

Sorry about that.

[beefcakebradybatson]

Why would I be sorry to be a handsome black cowboy?

[Steven80000]

No not that. I am saying sorry for people telling you to get over it.