Have you noticed how most people take things at face value too much?

[Steven80000]

For example, if someone is genuinely nice to your face, most people believe that person that they don't know outside of work, etc. is a nice person as a whole. Just because someone is genuinely nice to you doesn't mean they are like that as a whole (their personality). They could be lying, manipulating other people to get money from them, beating up their dog, etc. And therefore there personality is an asshole. Doesn't matter if they are genuinely nice to you.

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And when I say genuinely I mean they can be nice to you without faking it, but it doesn't "oh my goodness they are a nice person." It doesn't describe their personality. Like I said they could be beating their dog, etc. And despite them being genuinely nice to you, if they manipulate other people to get money from them, etc. their personality is a bad person. Also, it is even more dumb when people say this with people they don't talk deeply with about anything, aren't close.

[RingOfFire]

If I were to graph it I would say our assessment of others is primarily a two function equation. How many impressions of them do we have and was each impression a positive or negative one? I am far more likely to be convinced someone is a "nice person" after the tenth time I have judged something they did to be nice than after the first time.

I think it is true that some people are slower to make an assessment of another than others. I think much of that is a function of age. In general the older and wiser you get, the less likely you are to be fooled by making an assessment of the character of others too early to have enough data points for a reasonable level of confidence in that conclusion.

[Hiker_011]

I have known a few two-faced people. They're very manipulative, and they put on an act in public. It's like a character they've created from watching other people's behavior. In reality they're very cold-hearted. They take advantage of people, and they enjoy hurting others.

[Steven80000]

That also, they could be faking their niceness in public, but also even if they are genuine nice to other people. If to certain people or many people they are lie, steal, etc. it means they are a bad person. What I am saying is that as a whole it doesn't mean they are a good person even if they aren't faking it to many people. As soon as they do something extreme to someone they are an asshole. Do you get what I am saying? Lol

[Steven80000]

Like someone can be doing something cause they actually wanted to, like help someone change a tire, etc. It wasn't a pity act or anything. But at home they beat their wife, and the person who thought this guy or woman is nice for changing their tire, is actually a piece of shit person because there are horrible things they do.

[Hiker_011]

Yes, some people have different sides to them.

[fish5505_87]

Yes!