Why do girls get upset when you delete them from Facebook?

[gtex1991]

some girls have rejected me... so with nothing in common I delete them from Facebook... then suddenly they get upset at me

[vishna]

Lol do guys? I've done that before ...they didn't reject me it just didn't work out

If you honestly don't have a reason to be their friend anymore, if you sent them a request just to get closer to them and it didn't work out, then I don't see why you don't have the right to delete them.

It is your fb account :)

[CatholicVirginia]

Because it feels like you weren't really interested in them as a person, then. "If I can't be your piece of meat, you're not even interested in trying to be my friend? I guess it's clear what you were after!"

[CatholicVirginia]

I don't think their anger is terribly unreasonable. Your lover should be your best friend. So if you're pursuing me, you should want to be my friend. If I reject you nicely, why can't we thus still be friends? I thought you were interested in me as a person, not just a female?

[Croutons]

Yep.

[gtex1991]

lol... why talk to someone who doesn't want you... seems unfair don't you think

[CatholicVirginia]

Not really. Because if you liked me enough to date me, you should like me enough to be friends. It may be awkward at first, but if we're really friends, we can work through it. Unless you really don't like me enough to be friends with me, in which case, why did you want to date me in the first place?

[gtex1991]

well if you have never experience rejection its kinder hard to relate... there is no point talking to someone who doesn't want you or care... do you talk to people who don't want you?

[CatholicVirginia]

But when I reject you, I DO care. I care about you as a friend. I just don't feel that you are a lover. So for that reason, we end our friendship?

I don't try to date people I'm not interested in as PEOPLE, so I can't really relate where you're coming from. I don't date for the sake of dating. I date when I like the person.

[gtex1991]

true you date when you like a person... but when you reject a person you implying you don't want them... no one wants to feel unwanted and when you not wanted people go seek other people who like them...

[CatholicVirginia]

I have different experiences than you. Honestly, I've been rejected once, and it's not because the guy doesn't like me as a person. It's because he doesn't like me ENOUGH to go through the trouble of a relationship. And that's all I can really relate with. Otherwise, I do the rejecting, but usually the guys and I stay friends.

[gtex1991]

well the fact that I ask a girl to a date is an indicationi want to get to know her... if you don't give me the chance how do you expect friendship to be there after the rejection... so you can't say I was in it just for the sex... personally I would rather spend time with people who want to know me and spend time with me... you do not hang around people who do not like you.. makes no sense.. especially when female are picky and some are willing to call the police...

[alltheabove1212]

When you go into it hoping to DATE the girl (which is totally acceptable), it is a big slap in the face when she rejects you. You could be very nice about the rejection, but it's still a blow to our self esteem and ego. We didn't want to be just friends, we wanted to date. If we dated then of course we would have similar traits to a friendship<-that's not the issue. It's the fact that if there is no chance to date you, then we would be lying if we said we are cool with just being friends

[alltheabove1212]

If you look at it from a guy's point of view: We could try to be just friends, but going from romantic feelings to JUST friends feelings is very very difficult. It's easy for you because you don't have romantic interest. So we'd be "friends", but the guy still is interested, so you'd get attention while the guy would hurt. It's much easier to cut off contact and move on. I've been there and done it both ways. Cutting contact is by far the better option

[CatholicVirginia]

I understand that. And the deleting us off of Facebook - symbolic of you not caring to even be our friends - is a rejection on your part, which is another reason it hurts and we take it personally.

[alltheabove1212]

It has less to do with us not seeing you as a good friend, and more to do with protecting ourselves. You could be cool as sh*t, but there are no benefits for us to be around you and giving you attention when it would hurt to feel more rejected.

[CatholicVirginia]

Fair enough. It's just a shame a friendship has to end like that.

[Anonymous]

Today I deleted a few because yesterday was my birthday and they didn't even bother to say anything to me. But when it was the other way around, I was the dummy who did wish them a happy birthday. Why should I have people like that. It says "friends list" not "strangers list"

Those people are just immature who just want to have it their way.

[LossofWords]

really? They could have not been on Facebook or if they were, didn't notice that it was your birthday. Deleting them just because they didn't wish you a happy birthday seems extremely immature to me :/

[Opinion Owner]

you probably feel butthurt because you do the same. Don't butt-in.

[ladywine]

ah f*** em, girls are more concerned about their pride mate, don't let it bother you..I find Facebook to be more trouble than good.. effectively have the same sinking social life as before

[Anonymous]

same thing happened to me this guy rejected me and I deleted him, and he was pissed like hitler or some sh*t, and I didn't understand at all, I'm the one who should be hurting not him.

[LexiNinja]

they take it as a life or death situation, as if its reality

[Anonymous]

It's kind of catty but it is somewhat of a backhanded slap to girls when you delete them from Facebook.

[Anonymous]

I have no idea. I think sometimes Facebook turns people into idiots.