Coworker keeps teasing me, why?

[Anonymous]

And only me. It doesn't matter what I do or say. I'm shy and bashful and always end up blushing. He galways suggests going to get coffee with me and asks me a lot about myself. We'll be alone on phone conferences together and he will do anything to make me laugh , giggle, and smile. It gets so bad that I end up covering my face! It's difficult brcause we're not allowed to flirt where we work. It doesn't help the fact that he's cute! He teased me so much that I got super shy and blushed.he told me that he liked that ...that it was...then he stopped himself because others were looking and listening and said it was *charming*...what's going on? What do I do since we're not allowed to flirt (at least I think that's what it is)?

[WimpyMcWeaksauce]

I have little experience with romance at work, but I can say with confidence that this guy is hitting on you. He's just trying to do it without getting in trouble.

You seem to like him, so you might as well take this further. However, this is a coworker, so there are a few caveats:

1. Don't let anyone else at work know about it. At least until one of you is writing pay checks for the other, or is about to be in that position. Then you have to let your boss know, because you'll basically be writing your own pay check otherwise. I don't think they'll deny you a position. They'll just have someone else handle that specific area.

2. Be aware that if you start dating, and then break up later, things are going to get awkward at work. One of you will have to get another job or transfer.

3. If you decide to reject him, make it clear. If he doesn't let up after a couple clear rejections, then it may become harassment.

4. Don't let things get physical at work. Just don't. People WILL find out.

Speaking of harassment, that's why they have these no flirting rules: to prevent sexual harassment lawsuits. This guy is risking his job for you. I don't know if that's a good or bad thing, but it's something to keep in mind.

[Anonymous]

How about this. He Always punch me lightly in my arm everytime he just arrive or passed by near, Sometimes I'm working seriously and when he passed by he'll make me shock or sometimes he put the cloth pin on my ear!! Is he bullying me? I'm just the one he treated like that without saying anything. then if i'm shock he will laugh. Is he a psycho? He is a serious guy though. But really crazy to do that to me. Any comments or advised? Thank you

[Anonymous]

I think he is def into you. Now it is up to you if you want to risk your job to be with him. See him outside of work-- go to coffee with him. Go to lunch with him one day. Do not flirt at work if you are going to get in trouble. Keep things on the down low. Him asking about you shows that he is interested. Definitely try and see him outside of work. Have you taken him up on his offer for coffee?

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[ybinyoon]

He's probably also having fun watching your expressions and reactions. If you really wanted to end things, just don't react act all. That's too cold. If you like him you should have lunch together and talk about other things.