Bored at a frat party, didn't even try to have fun. Is that weird?

[michaelhotguy]

so, I went to this frat party. when I got there I immediately didn't feel like I fit in. I'm a fit dude, but they were all jacked dueches, and it felt like they were all posturing with each other, I didn't even feel like trying to engage in it. I knew a couple guys, by a couple I mean 2, one wasn't there, and the other was coat check and bar. I felt like I had no one to hang out with. on top of that I've been sort of seeing this sorority girl, who was there. I left just after getting there early and it was just starting up so I had a beer and walked about. when I came back it was packed. but I still didn't feel like engaging in conversation with anyone or dancing, to be honest I was tired. I'm 23 and had a full week, and I'm starting to think partying isn't my idea of fun. I didn't even try to find the girl I was seeing, instead I just drank my ticket-prices worth of the beer and sat at the back reading articles on my phone. a few people came to me, so I met some people. but I just didn't want to do more than I did. I felt a little bad not finding this girl, but she was with her sorority so I knew she was having fun with them, and I knew my lack of enthusiasm for being there would be a downer to them. I do feel bad though Because I told her id see her there... anyone been in similar situations? I don't wanna say its because I'm old, I just think my idea of fun is different. I lead a very full life during the week, and to be honest my work is fun to me. and honestly I was having more fun reading articles with music blasting and a beer in my hand than being part of any circle. is that weird?

[Anonymous]

You are painting the stereotypical image of the 'frat boy' and I think you're a little off in your perceptions. Some aren't cut out to be in fraternities or attend their parties, and you aren't going to ever be welcomed at any if you act like a pretentious 'douche' of your own. I know many fraternity brothers who aren't jacked or wear popped collared shirts, or paddle each others asses with paddles. It's not really all that hard to blend in at a fraternity party, considering all you have to do is show up, drink, and talk. Often times there are brother and sister Greek organizations, and it's late September which means many are in their pledging process, so I wouldn't take it personally at all. No one wants a downer, so honestly I wouldn't blame her for ignoring you and acting that way honestly. Frankly, if you were acting like a bitch at my frat house and not socializing with people and being a judgmental and pretentious person, I'd throw you out and you'd never be welcomed back. Maybe join a math team or something more suited for you.

[michaelhotguy]

your probably right man. just didn't feel like my crowd.

[Anonymous]

College isn't really much fun when you're out of college. You just have different priorities. There are lots of girls your age looking for a fit, level headed guy. I'd go about meeting girls in places that are more your style. That way, you'll enjoy the time you spend with her. Trying to force yourself to do things that are tedious or annoying is part of what makes trying to date so frustrating. Trying to maintain at least some of the things you find fun helps make dating more agreeable.