Girls is no experience with relationships a turn off?

[whiteknight01]

I'm 20 years old and turning 21 June 6, I've never been in a relationship, I've never had a girlfriend, I'm a virgin, I've never even been kissed :( . I easily attract girls and pretty good looking, been called "sexy" and "handsome", but I just have really poor social skills especially with girls that's why I'm still single, I don't have any pictures up because all my pictures suck. I've been on two dates in my lifetime that's it, I have limited experience with talking to girls and never been in a relationship before.

I never say anything inappropriate though. Girls is no experience with relationships a turn off? Being 20 years old do I have any chance to get into a relationship with my inexperience?

Yes

No

[KylieSmiley]

I prefer males with little to no experience because I see that they have more respect for themselves and for women. You should never give up sex for someone that means nothing to you. I have very little respect for people who who give up their virginity or their morals just for a night ( or a few minutes) of pleasure. You could wait for the right person and give them everything. All of you, your body, your heart. Id much rather make sexy passionate love while giving my virginity to the man whom I'm crazy about. It would mean the world if he would give me the same. If the man that I loved and would spend the rest of my days with, had given his body to many women, I would feel like I wasn't worth the wait and id feel like I'm being compared to the others. I would want to learn and experiment with him as we grow better at making love to each other. People have lost touch with what is special and intimate and what is not meant to be shared with the world. Wait until you find someone who gives you so much love that you feel higher than a king. It will be worth the wait and you know that they are there for the right reasons. You can trust them and you'll know that you're loved for everything you are. Don't lower yourself to society's level. They will make you feel like an outcast because you're not impatient and selfishly pleasure-crazed like them. I wish you the best of luck!

[MaskedSanity]

Virginity is only a trophy to those, who haven't accomplished anything else in life.

[KylieSmiley]

That's very condemning and you couldn't be more wrong. I am proud of what I have accomplished in life and you will not tell me that you are better than me just because you have thrown away your virginity. Having sex does not give you any power over the people that value more in life.

[MaskedSanity]

I never claimed to be better than anyone. Virginity has no actual value what so ever. Being a virgin is not an accomplishment, unless you were locked up in a cell with a bunch of sex offenders. Having had sex isn't an accomplishment either. It's just an activity people engage in, because it's fun or they want to conceive or both.



It's just sex.

Because of people like you women are still considered "less valuable", if they're not virgins. You are actively propelling modern misogyny.

[KylieSmiley]

I think you have that backwards. If I were to be so narrow minded like you and give an equally ignorant answer, I would have to say that women who give their bodies up for random men would be considered easy and of "less value". Where I value myself and my future husband, I am pure, untouched and of "more value". Men pay money to use women for sex, but women like me are priceless. Why someone would believe such idiocy, it makes no sense. Why are you debating over something so irrelevant?

[Jeydeeyon]

Exactly!!!

[Lamia]

Ofcourse you do!

I mean you have actually more chances than any other guy!Seriously.

Guys tends to carry ’baggage’ from one point to another,so there is always that creepy ’ghost of the past’ shadow thing. You on the other hand are a blank page and that is very alluring, unless the girl you will want just wants the relationship for the ’label’ and whatever comes with it(which is also a result of her baggage from previous relationships-which I also find sad)

Talking is easy if not even more simple. Just talk to any girl and you will see that there is nothing to be afraid. Always start simple, with simple casual stuff, it might get somewhere in time. Always give everything time.Always take things slow(well not years long,but slow)

Oh and a huge help will be getting more friends girls. Most of them provide good advices as to anything that has to do with girls,so that will be a huge help.

So you have better chances than anyone(: so chill and stay positive(: Girls also like confidence

[scanson]

I don't think having no relationship experience is a turn off to women. Think about it this way, men (at least stereotypically) appreciate women from the same background and can delight in showing them the ropes and staking claim to them. There's this approach, which may have inadvertently made you feel a bit uncomfortable, and then there's the understanding and compassionate facets naturally attributed to women. Some women may be really attracted by your background and think it's really sweet! There are guys who wait for sex until marriage and women can appreciate that as a romantic and prudent decision.

In short, don't worry too much about your inexperience. It's going to work out. :)

[shyguy89]

the best way to go into this that won't get you rejection after rejection is to ask a girl out, but forget all the experience you don't have a go with the experiences you do have. what makes you who you are,cause women don't date cause of experience that's bull I'm in my first relationship at 24 its been a year and yes I am a kinda weird around girls cause of the lack of experience but if that was my opening statement I would have never had a girl. first rule confidence. good luck bro you got it in you it just needs to come out all the girls already know.

[Whitechocolate1001]

Just be happy you've actually been on a date two to be exact and you've been called ''sexy'' and handsome'' I've only been called ugly, stupid, fat you name it. I'm a few years older and never been in a relationship so without sounding rude, you have nothing to complain about.

[whiteknight01]

Yeah I'm afraid it's not all chocolates and roses for me either, my poor social skills are a problem.

[Whitechocolate1001]

I understand trust me I freeze up when I see some girl I like. I know what I want to say but can't find the way to say it. I have a hard time going up to a girl or women and saying Hi my name is_________ how are you doing?

[whiteknight01]

I'm not shy at all, just never know what to say.

[MaskedSanity]

If you're trying to hook up or be fuck buddies, then yes, it is a huge turn off. There's nothing more unattractive, than a man, who's trying to get laid and has no idea what he's doing.

However, when you're looking for an actual serious relationship, it doesn't matter that much, since you want to be with that PERSON, rather than their body. If you two love each other, she will teach you the rest, experience will come with time.

As long as you're honest about your lack of experience, you should be fine. A lot of girls enjoy guiding their significant other in those aspects.

[Lafemmedeschats]

This is very accurate. I for one have never been and never will be a "one nighter" type of gal so if my man had no experience at all then I would be A OK with that!

[lumos]

Nope, not a turn off! I think it's sweet. Some guys are just too shy, or haven't had the opportunity for a relationship yet, and that's completely fine. There's lots of women in their twenties who are just as inexperienced as you are, and I'm sure most of them would be more than happy to experience things with you for the first time. I'm also sure that there are more experienced girls out there who wouldn't mind teaching you what to do. :)

[AlyssaSalcido12]

No experience might be a turn-off to some women but that's only natural, seeing as every woman is different. And of course you have a chance to get into a relationship. Just because you don't have any experience doesn't mean you're undateable. As for having no social skills, that's not really a huge problem. Just be yourself and speaking to women will get easier over time. You're still young and you've got plenty of time to find someone, so don't worry about it.

[Jade4]

Up to about 25 doesn't matter AT ALL as long as you don't make a huge deal about it. After that I'd expect someone to have probably dated someone at least for a couple of months unless there was a reason, like they moved around a lot, they weren't ready etc

[IHateBeingaMan]

Why is up to 25 when it starts to become skeptical?

[Jade4]

Well 25 is a bit of an arbitrary number, I guess what I was trying to say is that it's so common when you're younger it wouldn't even occur to me to ask. The older you get the more unusual it gets so the. I'd probably enquire, not because in itself it would concern me but sometimes the underlying reason might

[sammy_31]

No I don't think so. I'm 21 going on 22 in May and never have been in a relationship, never had a boyfriend and yes a virgin as well. Yes I do believe you have a chance to get into a relationship with your inexperience. I'm sure lots of girls would not mind. :D Don't worry.

[lolok]

As long as you're nice, respectful, compatible with the girl, I don't see why it would be a probleme at least for me. Plus, a lot of girls are stil virgin around your age and never had boyfriends either (that's my case by the way lol and I'm 22). You should be nervous about that really, and if it doesn't work with girl you choose to talk because of that then she's not deserving you.

[Anonymous]

you need to read the book mode one: let the woman know what you're thinking by alan currie it will change the way you deal with women even if your shy I use to be like you. seriously you can get this book anywhere on-line used cheap just read it. good luck...

[Anonymous]

When people first start dating no one is ever experienced. I know I wasn't but you learn as you go. I think it's cool you have never had a kiss. Purity is rare these days. Of course you can get a girlfriend. You say girls flirt and come to you then wait for a girl to come to you go for it and speak your mind. You got this

[craZy_4_musiC_o0]

hope not, cause if so, I'm in a lot of trouble (same boat, different sex)...

[honeychick]

No it's not a turn-off. Yes you still have a chance.

[Anonymous]

It's not a turn off, it doesn't matter

[moviedude714]

To a lot of women the answer is yes unfortunately

[Anonymous]

No. Because he will have no baggage.

[thatguy67]

There might be low self-esteem

[surfergirl44]

ya