Can you usually tell if youve crossed a line with someone? If so how can you tell?

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Unintentionally i mean.  And if you discover you have what do you do about it?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Your questions really sit in the grey areas, don't they. Not so easy to answer. Very subjective, not black and white.

In a follow-up reply you said to someone 'what about online' so I'll answer it that way.
Can I tell? Nope. I almost always err on the sensitive side. I like to be spontaneous but I'm in general careful. But I'm very comfortable in this medium so I typically write fast and without much angst or worry. I like words, always have. In the past some have said/though I was too quiet/not talking enough, "too careful" with them, or too precise, but none of those are really the case anymore, I think.
I can get hyper sometimes (in a caffeinated sort of way) and too many words can spill out then, and sometimes either the sentiment was not good/off, or I was being too blunt or too negative, and I often regret those.
I don't think one can really know for certain when they've crossed a line online, because someone not writing back/again for a certain period of time, can mean something or absolutely nothing. I do it myself so often, I just am dealing with too many notifications, too many thoughts and ideas, and my exchanges and relationships with people are typically of a deep nature so it takes mental focus for me to reply. So I just can't sometimes. I wait until 'the decks are clear', my 'ducks are in a row', my 'plate is not full', the 'hamster is not spinning' in my head trying to focus, and when I do write a person back (or reach out with me initiating) then I am truly in a good headspace to give them my full attention.
If I suspect I've crossed a line I will say something. I apologize quite often for rambling, repeating, writing too much, or too hastily. I annoy myself, frankly. It's well within reason that I annoyed someone else, lol.

loves2learn · Accepted Answer

Sometimes it’s difficult to tell. I find that a lot of people fear they crossed a line with me if I’m silent, when in reality I was just helping one of my kids or something. When I’m mad people will know. And it’s hard to make me mad.

TurboKid · Accepted Answer

In-person I can tell easily. It might be the empath thing related to one of your previous questions. Aside from that, I had to learn English in a very difficult kind of way like I was thrown off the nest off a cliff and had to learn to fly quickly to avoid splatting on the ground. So I became very attentive to people's body language and tone of voice to help piece together what they say. One of my bigger strengths, as a result, is that I can tell a lot about what a person is feeling without them having to speak a word, and I've even been accused of being psychic as a result (I'm not, just attentive to nuanced details and body language which tells me a lot without words).

With that said, I feel so crippled over text like on this site because I can't see that person's body language, and I'm so used to seeing that to help me evaluate how someone is feeling. So I'm like the worst online as far as deciphering people's emotions and when I've crossed the line because I depend so much on body language and tone of voice to tell.

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

With most people yes. some people though don’t say anything but then stab you in back later, or bring it up at a later date when you have likely forgotten it.

Anonymous · Answer

loll I did this with a guy i liked. He gave me two nicknames on the day we met "princess" and "buba." I kinda gave him one and literally talked about meeting up. I think the guy got scared lmao. He talks to me from time to time, but always replies late... like 2 days late even though I see his snap score going up. Anyway, he has stuff going on in his life like he got out of a unhealthy/serious relationship a few months ago, he does drugs, gets high, smokes cigarettes and he's depressed. he kinda told me all his secrets after 10 days of meeting me an he told me that he wants to take me out on a date whenever i come to UK ( i do not live in the UK) and he told me he wants me to cuddle and kiss him. lol. i told him that i liked him and he told me that i was brave to tell him that and that he likes me as well, but is not ready to get into a relationship cuz he has to concentrate on himself, i didn't ask for a relationship, but oh well. I don't know if he likes me or if he was just bluffing. He even said stuff like "you're so cute" "i wanna kiss you rn so much" and stuff like that. does he like me?

DarkCarousel · Answer

I can usually tell by their facial expression or response. Some people are just better at hiding their emotions or reacting more calmly.

menina · Answer

I can tell but sometimes it's difficult. Unless when I feel bad after saying something or if I can see that they're upset or angry or sad.
After dealing with them for a certain time I know what it's ok to say and what is not ok.

lakotabebebe · Answer

If I find out I've crossed a line, I give that person space and time. When they're ready to talk about it, I ask them what I did wrong, ask for forgiveness, and never cross that line again

Oceanwaves032 · Answer

What do you mean by "cross a line with someone"? Are you talking about friends? Could you elaborate a bit?

bannacookies · Answer

I may not notice right away, but eventually the bad vibrations come through.

Éhmîë · Answer

Not all the time. I may do that physically but I can't really tell when online unless I can guess his or her feelings about it

jshm2 · Answer

Depends on person. chatty people will go silent, gesticulators will "pause" mid air. etc etc.  Pretty much a "change" in behaviour or mannerism from the point of the offence taken.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Usually you can tell by a person's reaction or behavior..

Miah02 · Answer

Can't fully tell but i will apologize if i do find out

electromagnetic · Answer

If I cross the line, odds are they weren’t ready to face the facts.

collie22 · Answer

People get annoyed when i do that. That's when I have to say sorry

karaspara · Answer

Mainly option B. How/if I can fix the damage depends what indiscretion iv'e committed

COMMODOREII · Answer

Unintentionally? Maybe when they bark down my throat. But intentionally? All the time. I'm like this when an asshole tells me to not do something.

douride2 · Answer

For the most part I can tell if or when I crossed the line.

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

I can. I am finding it funny that most women won't take you as interested UNLESS you cross it. If you don't - you are Beta. If you do - ah, Alpha, yes, let's do that. It seems very very stupid to me.

exitseven · Answer

I don;t know most of the time. I usually find out long after the fact. There is a reason I do not have many friends.

Wiredone · Answer

I can sometimes tell by their reaction. I always apologize when I over step.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Usually. I try and apologize or make amends.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Only if they get pissed off.

Titli1995 · Answer

It is really difficult.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I can tell but sometimes it’s difficult

awanti95 · Answer

Try to don't cross ❌

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