How do I deal with cyber bullying?

[Anonymous]

I play Roblox with voice chat, people keep on bullying me. I'm already not in a good place mental health wise, and all these words make me even more depressed.
People tell me to kill myself, that I'm ugly, that I sound like a kid (which I do), they call me a dumb bitch and so on. They also talk shit about me to each other.
I don't do anything, sometimes I don't even talk but people pick at me. I don't know why people act like I'm not a person with feelings.
For anyone wondering I am 14 going 15 this year. (I'm born in 2007)

[bucketofsmile]

As a girl and as a daughter of God, you deserve respect and consideration. Bullying, online or not, is never acceptable, no matter how often people do that to you or how many they are doing that.

Normally, you should be able to enjoy a game without being harassed by anyone. But since this happens, this virtual space is not healthy and will poison you. Have you considered reporting the bullies to the moderators (if there are for this game)? Or maybe you should play other games with a better community, policy and moderation to enjoy the experience in a healthy environment.

Please know that this is courageous to seek for help. Please know that you are not guilty for the bullying that you are suffering, nor should feel so.
I also recommend you to talk to trustworthy person around you (in person this time) to protect yourself, heal, and not isolate you (that happens when one is harassed sometimes). Maybe easier to say than to do, I guess. But I sincerely hope that you will have comfort, security, and peace.

Again, you have great worth and value. This should not be debated in any mean. Please remember it. 🙏

[Asker]

Thank you so much! Moderation is really bad in this game, I've reported people multiple time but nothing happens to them.

[Wonderwhat]

You need to disable the chat. It's not worth your mental health. The USA sucks when it comes to censorship on the internet when it comes to cyber bullying. Talk to your parents about it and if you feel suicidal seek help. Cyber bullying can do a lot of damage to you psychologically. It's bad for you in the long term. Please tell your parents and disable the chat. Don't listen to those jerks.

[Asker]

Thank you, but I can't tell my parents. Things would turn out worse.

[Wonderwhat]

Alright but just disable the chat and don't talk them. There's a lot of creeps online. A lot of people hurt themselves from cyber bullying it's very serious. Just trying to make sure you are alright. They say stuff like that to me online too. It can really get to you after a while. I don't talk to people in online games for that reason. I wrote a research paper on cyber bullying and they say it can be worse than normal bullying. So becareful and don't talk those creeps trolling in the game.

[Asker]

Okay thank you so much, also I'm sorry that you had to go through that.
I guess te people who cyber bully don't think it gets to their victims that much.

[Wonderwhat]

Most bullies had the bullying done to them and they do it to other people because they think it's a normal thing to do. Their reality is distorted. People who have been bullied think it's normal. They either become the bully or they become what they call in psychological terms the "savior". The savior has been through it too, thinks it's normal too, but wants to protect others instead of bullying. I am what is considered a "savior". I am over protective though and worry something bad might happen to someone. I don't like the term "savior" because I don't look at myself as a hero or anything lol, but that's the term they gave it.

[Asker]

You're a good man, human and person <3

[andreasderjuengere]

When I was a kid: my ''games'' were sometimes on playgrounds; some ''tough guys'' were around every now and then, and disturbing others.
So I just left for one other place to play.

I know of online games where you can turn off 'chat' function.

[Asker]

I wish I could go outside and play games but my parents doesn't let me outside because they don't trust me or others. So the only way for me to socialize and have fun is playing online.
Thank you though.

[TenkRealist]

Disable the chat, play more single player games, play with friends or find other hobbies. Your mental health is what is most important. Don't let them get to you.

[Asker]

Okay thank you!

[John_Doesnt]

Stop using the Internet and stop using any online games with voice chat.

[Asker]

Okay!

[TrillXHippy]

You really don’t need to deal with that toxic mess so yeah turn off the chat or whatever is best

[Asker]

I will try.

[jackinoff]

Unfortunately people are just dicks. I'm not up to date with the gaming world but can't you mute people or turn the voice thing off?

[Asker]

I'm not sure how to, but there's probably a tutorial out there. Thank you!

[jahaims]

Literally ignore it

[Asker]

Okay!