I've been in touch with this person for a while (about a year), but their phone number isn't attached to their iMessage account, only their email account.
They gave me their phone number, and we were exchanging plain text messages for a while, until they reached out to me over iMessage. We communicated over iMessage from then on, until we had a... kind of falling out of sorts. It wasn't really that we had a disagreement, it was more like we were just in different places (geographically) and pumped the brakes on things. We each said that if the opportunity arose to reconnect in person, we would, but that the online correspondence would basically stop.
This happened a few weeks ago and we've basically been no contact. Giving each other space was definitely in order.
In any event, I wanted to wish this person a happy Thanksgiving, so I prepared the message and selected her email, so the message would send over iMessage. My phone defaulted to her phone number and sent a green bubble.
I'm just wondering if that's the default when someone's phone number isn't tied to an iMessage account, or if I should just assume I've been blocked and move on?
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Really sorry about your situation and the confusion. Unfortunately I don't know a lot about iMessage because I've used Samsung all my life. But something in my gut says what you got from her end is probably not a good thing. Maybe she did block you, or delete your contact, or change her number. Really not sure. But for the sake of saving yourself the hurt, I would just chalk it up as she blocked you so you can let that go and move on. I know it's disappointing and I'm sorry for it, but don't try to wonder about it, figure it out, or wait around for a response. Treat it like a loss and try to pick yourself back up.
I ran into an old co-worker last week and she said she was so glad to see me, especially somebody from our old job cuz she never does. I asked for her number, she put mine in her phone right in front of me and dialed me right there so I could have hers. I told her maybe we can do something some time. She sounded cool with it. I wasn't exactly interested in dating, just looking for a new friend, and she was always cool on our old job so I was down to hang out some time. I texted her happy Thanksgiving this morning, even though something already told me she probably wouldn't respond, and so far she has not. I can't say I'm disappointed, but not surprised either. I simply let it go.
Women do this stuff all the time out of nowhere, cuz they got some kinds of issues, are overthinking everything about you, or swung over to someone else. Yesterday they were crazy about you and promised to see you again, then today you're suddenly blocked and left scratching your head. The good news is these situations let you know about their character and probably are not the kind of women you would really want to spend forever with anyway.
Yeah... I wish this stuff wasn't so common. I know it's not personal, but it's tough not to get a little bit annoyed with it at times.
Oh for sure. I completely understand. I think the best way to go into it - sadly - is to have it in mind that ANY woman you connect with can do this stuff. Especially in the kind of world we are living in now where soooooo many women think it literally is acceptable or justifiable to ghost or block a man without any explanation - and society encourages it by empathizing with them and teaching women that it's okay to run and that they "don't owe anyone any explanation." Yet these same women get broken to pieces when a man does it to them, and they're ready to start talking about how awful men are or how unfair it is that they're still single.
The best we can do is get more knowledge from these experiences with women like this, as it betters YOU as a man and also teaches you how NOT to be. We take the time to hurt for a little bit, then get back up and keep moving.
It’s interesting… While I am not 100% certain that I have been blocked, I have decided that this situation; the way she handled things, has totally destroyed any shot she has at a stable relationship, if things come back around. Even if she was to hit me up tonight, I don’t think I could possibly take her seriously moving forward.
I think that's best attitude to have, yeah. She's shown you something that makes you pause, and if that's happening, who knows what else she might do later on down the road.
If the message doesn't say “delivered” it means you've been blocked.
It didn't even send a blue message, though; it sent green. If it sends green, you don't get any delivered or read receipts.
Oh, that's a text message. I thought you meant it was an imessage.
Yeah, I don't know how you can tell if you've been blocked by a text message 🤔
Exactly, that's what makes the situation weird. I tried to send the message over iMessage, but my phone decided to send a regular text instead. That's why I was wondering if that's a sign I was blocked.
Hmm... I think you’ve been blocked.
Try again once more. If it goes to a text message then you've been blocked.
Ugh... this is so stupid, dude... Why do so many women do this kind of thing? It's like it isn't possible for women to just let tension rest for a moment. It has be all-in, 100% right away, or we have to go nuclear and cut all ties.
Here's a novel idea, why don't we just say "hey, we had a great date, but the timing isn't right, but we'll explore this more in future?" Instead we have to cut all ties lmao I feel like I must be missing some part of this equation.
Tbh I don't know myself. Women block men for a number of reasons. I usually block men if they are creepy or asking sexual stuff. Oh, and I block them if they start to send abusive messages.
Some women block men because they don’t return the feeling the man might have or they get bored with the man.
She wasn't feeling the vibe online, but this is a woman who told me she could see us having kids together and wanted me to move down to her city. She said that stuff on our first date. I think maybe she's just a crazy person?
Dang! On the first date. That's a red flag for sure.
I think she's A. Crazy, B. Rebounding from an ex or C. Trying to make an ex jealous
I'm just getting crazy vibes in general right now.
She's an attractive and smart lady, but she also has some serious insecurities, and she did a few things on our date that just kinda oozed desperation. I really liked her personality though. I was willing to see passed her desperate comments, just because she's kind of at an age where a lot of women start freaking out about the fact they haven't been wifed up and made a mother.
She was in a 5 year relationship (where she got cheated on) that ended like a year and a half ago, just before she moved to a new city. She's dated other men in the time since.
My guess at this point is that she's probably a legit lunatic. I don't think anyone ever deserves to get cheated on, but in my experience, when that ish happens... there is almost always a reason.
Oh ok. Yeah. She’s freaking out about her age and how there's no husband or children in sight.
That's really sad. Cheating leaves a lot of damage to the victim.
Maybe she freaked out or felt embarrassed by her behaviour and that's why she blocked you. No one wants to look desperate, especially when on a date.
Yeah… it’s a sad situation. I hope she comes around. I’m not gonna hold my breath though
Good idea. She may message again, she may not. Best not to give it too much thought 😃
Yeah, that sounds like as good a plan as any. I just wish these situations could be handled better.
I agree with you.
Sadly, lack of communication is the downside to social media and instant messaging.
It was hard to avoid people back in the day, and our communication was better back then. There wasn't any “ghosting” and stuff.
your blocked bro. Thats the best thing about iMessage, you can see who is dirty like that
Yeah... if I ever run back into her and she wants to reconnect, I'm gonna make sure she stays at arm's length. No wifety/girlfriend material there.