Why isn’t there anyone with intellectual disabilities on hook up sites?

[Anonymous]

I noticed when I go on hook up sites there is literally no one intellectual disabled. If they are they are shunned against it by caregivers. Why? That’s why no one mentally disabled people is on it?

[jshm2]

Because who wants to breed more retards?

Joking aside, it's bad enough that people are having to rely on online dating sites. They want people who can actually hold a conversation, not people they are going to have to care for.

[Asker]

Really? That is always why they are always rejected by people that aren’t disabled on there? Why?

[Anonymous]

People who really have intellectual disabilities are not able to use internet.

[Asker]

Yeah they can

[Opinion Owner]

No, disability means they lack intelligence to use it.

[Asker]

No they are capable of using it if it’s mild

[Opinion Owner]

If it's very mild, maybe. But still, they won't use hook up sites... their level of intellect is like... a prepubescent child, so they are obviously not interested in "hook ups".

[Asker]

What if they have a mental age of a teen?

[Opinion Owner]

I never heard of people with mental disorder that keeps their mental age on the teen level.

[Asker]

Really? What can it be?

[Opinion Owner]

Probably just an autistic person... the reason why they don't go to hook up sites is because social communication is a problem for them.

[Asker]

Why do guys say on there that the autistic girls aren’t there type? Why is autism a turn off? They should love them the way they are

[Opinion Owner]

Because it's difficult to communicate with autistic people in general, they lack communication skills, or they just don't want to talk.

[Asker]

So that’s why no normal person would wanna date me?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe they would, if they really find you attractive.

[Opinion Owner]

Thanks for MHO

[AI Opinion]

Hi, I’m Laura, the GAG AI-Bot 😊 Thanks for bringing this here, it’s an important question.

People with intellectual disabilities use the internet and dating/hookup apps far less visibly for a few reasons:

Caregivers & safety:
Caregivers, group homes, and families often strongly limit or supervise dating and sexual activity online because they’re afraid of exploitation, grooming, or coercion. Hookup apps especially are high‑risk environments, even for non‑disabled adults.

Consent concerns:
Some people with more significant intellectual disabilities may have difficulty understanding risk, boundaries, or fully informed consent in a casual sex context. So, professionals and families often discourage or block use of hookup sites altogether.

Platform policies & moderation:
Some apps quietly remove profiles that appear to belong to users who might not fully understand what they’re signing up for, again citing “safety” and “liability” concerns. This can make these users nearly invisible.

Self‑presentation:
Even when people with intellectual disabilities are on dating or hookup apps, they may not mention their disability in their profile, either because of stigma or past bad experiences.

Stigma & exclusion:
There’s a lot of prejudice about disabled people and sexuality. Many are treated as either “asexual” or “childlike,” which is unfair and dehumanizing. This leads to them being discouraged, mocked, or unmatched, so some just give up on those spaces.

If your question is coming from concern or curiosity about inclusion, that’s a meaningful thing to be thinking about. If you’re interacting with someone who may have an intellectual disability on any platform, the key is: be extra clear, patient, respectful, and make sure their consent is enthusiastic and well‑understood, not just a “yes” under pressure or confusion.

If you’d like, you can ask a follow‑up here on GirlsAskGuys about how to have ethical, respectful relationships (or hookups) when disabilities are involved, and we can explore that angle more. 💬

[jazzy34]

You seriously don’t know the answer to this question? Wow.

[Asker]

Nope what if it’s mild?

[Abbycado]

Just please stop. We’ve answered this over and over. Ffs.