What did you learn from the Gabby Petito case?

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I don’t think there’s enough light shined on domestic violence. It had nothing to do with her race at all. People wanna make it that way and it’s not.

kc_4308 · Accepted Answer

I can relate to Gabby situation and currently working on a book to honor her story and other women’s story. I advocate against DV against women and there are a lot of monsters out here. Women see these red signs , but some don’t make it when it’s too late. Women should take heed to Gabby’s story and know that love that causes pain and hurt isn’t healthy. Brian is a narcissistic and sadistic that inflicted pain on Gabby. Women who are abused often lose a part of themself and their self esteem is destroyed by these types of monsters.

kyleelyn199723 · Accepted Answer

I learned that most women posting those “cute relationship goals” pics and videos are most likely not in good relationships and their cute couple pics are an escape from reality of how they want their actual relationship to be. She sure did paint her relationship to be loving and happy.

Pasiton5 · Answer

Don't know much about the details don't follow news much but if this is about her being white and receiving much attention over other races, we only have ourselves and those that call themselves leaders in Washington, this group of I'll be nice here people have done more damage in dividing this country to where it is today, instead of working for betterment of this nation and it's citizens they have done nothing but behave like shellfish immature punks wimps and idiots this is the worst bunch of people ever be where they are, they don't give a damn about the people here the citizens but illegals shit they're bending over backwards to cater to them, those you see homeless out there are Americans citizens illegals come here and have more rights than the citizens soon as they arrive better there know what to do whoo to looks good and just like that they get can food s home and monthly benefits of our tax dollars, and if you think they are grateful they care less about you me or this nation, h those born here works made this nation great are refused the aid they need while this sworn to up hold of less are not for do but breaking them I ask why do we need governments ask they do is start crap around the world and run here with those tail between their assess cower behind the military who they send to fight a useless war, now back to Gabby you know people white people are sick and tired of how they are portrayed as the evil racist people come here from all over but do the see themselves as Americans, hell no they don't assimilate or even bother to leave our language as it's supposed to be and what you our fearless leader do it say not a damn thing cowards are afraid to enact or laws for fear of being called a racist cowards, can get up there and life to the world like the jackass they are but don't even have the back bone to defend the laws of this nation this is too much here I'll only say if you come here legally your an American not where your from if you can't deal with that too bad bye instead people come here group them selves of and not interact with any other races or culture, but got the nerve to have their hands out for what ever this country had to offer, and Shane on all who but into this division of venosus republican bull shit we are all one people Americans I don't give a damn where your from you here legally your a damn American not African American or Chinese American, man the things I could tell you about this bunch hit to love biggest thieves liars ever lie worst than the damn Arabs, but we need to unite add one nation the government works for us not other way around, I got so much more to say about all this bull shit, less cover ups deception and worse and if anyone took offense at what I said í meant none in being completely honest and ask this whining over don't say that it's hurtful racist that's bull shit should heart what it's really think of Americans just give you money stay away damn said more than I intended but I say this is going to get ugly before normalcy returns see they fucked up and it's getting out of their control ass holes2021, this is not how it's supposed to be it's all wrong or I'm in the wrong universe

Alyssa11 · Answer

I completely recognise that domestic violence doesn’t discriminate against gender. I know that men sometimes experience domestic violence too.

What I want to say is that you here needs to be w change and it needs to come from us as individuals first and foremost but also from those who are in power. Be it police forces, the government, whatever.

In ONE week, American news has been alarmed with Petito’s week and British news has been consumed by Sabrina Nessa’s murder.

We as woman are at RISK. I don’t want to hear another gender related murder. I’m scared. I’m tired of it. And I resent the government.

This isn’t just about feminism or not all men are trash. This is much more than that. Our lives are at stake. We are afraid to go on about our lives as usual. Petito was trying to make a name for herself and Nessa was on her way to meet a friend on a Friday night. Nothing crazy.

Men need to recognise that we are scared. They need to raise awareness between each other. And the government needs to do something. We need better laws and more measures.

anniisa97 · Answer

I learnt how confident liars and domestic abusers can be. I've seen the police footage from when Gabby and Brian got pulled over and he told the police so many obvious lies that weren't looked into. Just from what I can remember from the top of my head, he lied about not having a phone of his own and only using hers, later on in the footage he was using his own phone in front of police, Gabby also told him told him something about his phone charger towards the end.

He said they had a good morning it started off well and later on they started having arguments, when Gabby was questioned she said they had a rough morning, so they were having arguments from the start.

Brian seemed open to talking, answered all questions, seemed relaxed and not very worried. So officers basically took no notice to some details of his story being different to hers or the fact that he blatantly lied about his phone. To them he seemed like an innocent man who was the victim of domestic abuse, when the real victim was in tears taking the blame for it all regardless on what witnesses said. To have someone who can sweet talk and fool officers like that is scary.

BCA6010 · Answer

What I've learned... is that the general population is still insufferably stupid. In fact, on this site, almost all of the questions that pop up under "trending and news" are about Gabby Petito. Really? Of all the events happening all over the world right now, THIS is what people are talking about? And why her? Thousands of young women, teenagers and kids disappear, get kidnapped, abused, murdered, abandoned, etc every year yet we're still on this one weeks later. President Trump formed a task force to address this sort of thing happening around Native American land (which I doubt he would've even known about were it not for a movie getting released about it), and nobody said a thing. The Fort Worth Texas police and county sheriff department busted literally hundreds of human traffickers smuggling children over the last couple years, and it barely even made local news. The crap that's going on at the border right now is basically this story multiplied thousand-fold, but the realities get ignored. Domestic violence (and people kidding themselves by staying in those toxic relationships) in general are certainly worth addressing, but obsessing over one single case like it's a season of a crime drama with a literal Dogg the Bounty Hunter cameo is not doing anyone any good.

Amy10223 · Answer

I learned that Gabby might have been in an abusive relationship, and that she chose the wrong person to go on a trip in a van with a person who may be (or may have been) physically abusive to her. Someone saw him slap her and hit her in broad daylight, it was known in Utah, and the policemen who stopped them on the road after receiving a domestic dispute tip did not know this fact. So they let him go although they separated them for the night.

Laundrie prepared a backpack as per his parents, who seem to be covering for him, and headed out towards the swamps near his home. However, that was 2 weeks after she was reported missing, and I am thinking, what if he had left the state, or the country for that reason? The airports wouldn't be looking for his name then. Mom didn't report her missing until Sept 11, and he came home on Sept 1. That gave =him plenty of time to leave for somewhere.

Women need to think twice about thinking that they know the guy they are with well enough to go anywhere far from home. So sad, a parent's worst nightmare.

PS there are thousands of women from all walks of life that go missing everywhere in the states. Why she had all this publicity is no mystery, but seriously--more attention needs to be made to those other missing women and people, period. Women from Native American tribes especially, and no one knows about it. All around the states there are missing people, some are found, many are not paid much attention to because the police figure they were run aways, and in many cases this is not true.

Anonymous · Answer

As a guy, it only validates why girls are super on guard giving her number or going out on dates with guys or men. Society is dysfunctional, this world is a mess, the world is an evil place. But I do believe there is a lot of hope and goodness in the world, it's just that evil has overtaken that. I know some guys who possess toxic jealousy or aggressiveness towards girls and i've distanced myself from those guys. But as a guy, I'm not going to lie I'm annoyed why I try to work on myself for the better and I keep getting rejected. Meanwhile, girls will make awful decisions and awful guys. When I say "awful" I don't mean bad boys alone, I mean guys who lack the right morals or character and toxic between the guy and the girl. I can't stand people who have that (I don't give a fuck) approach in life. It's a very stupid mantra to live by. For the girl, honestly I hope she's in heaven and I hope the guy is caught. I get the feeling the guy will do something heinous to himself or to others if he knows he's about to get caught.

cryscrys1 · Answer

I learned as a women please when you date or engaged or married TELL you family the truth. Tell your mother your father your sister your brother your grandmother anyone you are closed the truth of your relationship don’t hide it. If the guy you are dating ABUSES you always tell your family. Because telling your family can prevent this to happen they can tell you how dangerous it is and stay away from him. Also , be STRONG dare to say NO dare to say Fuck off and LEAVE. Never give someone a chance to walk over you! Why , for what? You came to this world alone and will die alone so never ever let someone take control of YOU.

If something is wrong don’t walk but RUN

Wester1967 · Answer

Women too too often default to picking horrible toxic partners. Yes. This is the default. I’d given the choice between the part time barista who’s working on an engineering degree and a BDSM tatted up narcissist killer psychopath, the default is the exciting bad boy.

Further, look at some old guy like me. If I’d offers to protect her. Give her a safe place to stay. Provide unconditional support, etc, society would scream that it was gross and insane and beyond toxic and they would come point a gun at my head, probably charge me with all kinds of crimes, and force her to hook up with a twisted BDDM torture porn killer. Literally. Society would insist that happen at gunpoint.

Celtero · Answer

People will blow up any stupid bullshit when the news cycle is slow and attribute it with messages that align with their particular beliefs.

Men are like, "if female domestic violence was taken seriously she'd still be alive!."
Women are like, "if male domestic violence was taken seriously she's still be alive!"
Intersectional retards be like, "if she was black she wouldn't be in the news!"
I'm like "people are murdered every single day, what's so special about this bitch?"

BruceJender · Answer

It's utterly tragic, but to me, it simply confirms how social media is just a game of smoke and mirrors.

I've only watched a couple of their video segments - mainly those shown on the news - and they come across as this 'perfect' couple. Yet, now we know this wasn't the case at all.

Word of advice, stop using FaceBook, Instagram, SnapChat et al. Stop. It's not worth it. Instead of taking souvenir pictures with your phone, buy a proper camera, print the pictures, and add them to a book.

Social media is a cesspit of attention-seeking, self-validating fools who live off your desperation to have a 'life' like theirs.

TheTower · Answer

Love is hard. When people fall in love each others, its kinda hard for then to cut off their ties if thing go bad. She might be abused by her fiancé but her love for him might be undying hence the relation. But there also some that I know the reason she stay with her boyfriend is because she afraid what will happen next. Some is because for love. Some might be due to then afraid of what will happen next. My friend manage to end her relationship after getting support from her friends where we all cheer for her breakup (LOL) but in the end she is happy now and even in relation with new guy.

Anonymous · Answer

I learned Missing White Woman Syndrome is still alive and well. I still have no reason to understand why I'm supposed to care about this missing person over the thousands of other people missing. Hell Kelly Prices family hasn't heard anything from her for near a month and she's been officially missing for a week and nobody cares

menina · Answer

I learned that most people still don't care about domestic violence. In that video I could see that she was nervous, afraid and extremely unhappy.
How come the police didn't notice that she wasn't ok, that she couldn't be with Brian? She was crying for help and no one heard her. Unfortunately there are many "Gabbys" and "Brians" out there...

cth96190 · Answer

I did not learn anything new.
What young women should learn are two things.
1. Do not pick the ‘exciting’ bad boy. Young women are the architects of their own misery and destruction.
2. Looks match. Gabby was a pretty girl. The boyfriend was dog ugly, in an untermensch DNA type of way. Gabby could have done much, much better.

Anonymous · Answer

"It had nothing to do with her race at all. People wanna make it that way and it’s not."

You've missed the point of the race (and gender) discussion around the Gabby Petito story. It has literally become international news, and that would never have happened had she not been an attractive white woman. Nor would it have been news if she was a man. Males go missing more than women do, and yet their stories get a fraction of the attention by the public, and thus by law enforcement. It's a horrible story but there there are absolutely absolutely very important racial and gender issues that should be talked about. Women in general, and white women in particular, are very privileged in way they rarely recognize or acknowledge.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing new here, girls following their emotions instead of their brains which eventually leads to tragedy. I don't know why such cases only get covered so rarely.

It seems like they only get covered when there's mystery involved in the story to keep readers hooked, maybe if there was no attention to profit to report such stories, there would be more awareness on domestic violence.

Cause and effect, you give your body and soul to a mentally ill guy, you know nothing good comes out of that.

libsaretards · Answer

I've learned that I have too much going on in my life to give a damn about what else happens. I've also learned that for all these murder cases that make TV, thousands more go unsolved and pushed to the backburner. I hate it when a murder case makes the news because that is not right to other victims who lost their lives and are unknown. What makes the lives of those who get their cases on TV more important than those who do not?

HayleyMarie · Answer

That there is clearly more light shone on a missing tik tok star than any other regular human being.  There are hundreds of missing indigenous women and girls. Who’s looking for them?

DiegoO · Answer

Ok, but I am not sure why her case went nationwide in the US. Many women's there have been murdered by their partners or ex. Every year women's are killed by a relative, in the US.

What made her case more visible, could have been her family economical status, the video capture; little before she dissapeared, and, why not, her ethnicity. What if she was latina, Asian or African American?

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I care more about the two black people who were gunned down near my city a few days ago, it’s disgusting how the media only cares about young white lives

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Well, they claimed someone reported her and the boyfriend arguing so the police were called also they got a warrant out for the boyfriend cause he used her bank debit card to withdraw money without consent, not yet for her murder so who knows if they will find him but it seems like he's hiding from the police

Anonymous · Answer

Not much. Sounds like dumb blonde chose a bad boy, people tried to get her out of the bad situation but she just kept going back till he killed her. And Im supposed to care more than other missing people because she had a lot of followers on Instagram because she was an attractive female

SaraSmithishere · Answer

She should have gotten out of that relationship sooner. Sadly, you never know what that man said to her behind closed doors... did he threaten to kill/hurt her siblings/parents if she spoke out? A restraining order only goes so far. I wound imagine he really toyed with her in order to keep her from going to the authorities.

Cnlngler · Answer

I'm leaning that people need to move on to a new topic, she its sad that she died. But I'm getting tired of everyone talking about it.. People die all the time, and in worse circumstances and even sadder ones. Why is this case any different..

Iknowbestgirls · Answer

Pretty sure it's because she is a famous white girl that was missing and then found dead. Yea it's not that she is white it's so be size she had a huge following I guess. I e never heard of her until I was on here.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Nah, there clearly is a lot of coverage because she is a pretty white girl. Remember, pretty white girls are the most privileged and entitled people on the planet.

t-8900 · Answer

If someone treats you poorly just leave. You are in it for love, caring, understanding. If you are just with somebody for a sense of belonging and self worth you aren't in a relationship for the right reasons.

Hugs = Good
Back Hands = Bad

jshm2 · Answer

That you need to name your kids better in case they end up on the news. I mean "petit" and "laundry" you knew there was going to be trouble.

ronaldo75 · Answer

That young pretty blonde white girls are literally the most important living beings on the face of the planet. I mean... wow.

Miristheiss · Answer

Nothing really.  Just that she died.  Is there really anything to learn?

Anonymous · Answer

Whenever our women of color get killed in the exact same way, nobody cares. Since she is a white girl tho everyone seem to be caring now because she is white. This is example of white privileged.

WowwGirl · Answer

It's just a more covered case. The crime is nothing new

Twinrova · Answer

I learned that this case is a good example of why every single Americaan aside from Joy Reid is RRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAACCCCCCCCCCCCCIIIIIIIIIIISSSSSSSSSSSSSSTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!

somerandomindianguy · Answer

That black people will never care about innocent people and dismiss someone's death as "missing white girl syndrome" just because she's white absolutely disgusting. RIP Gabby

Anonymous · Answer

Narcissistic evil player boyfriend, but girls want rage addicted bad boys and dump nice guys. Girls will never learn, is the lesson. Girls hate nice family guys, go after head strong, bad boy abusers, con artist losers.. Then complain, blame shift, all guys are trash, end up abused by bad boys through out lifetime, baggage, bitter memories of abuse in old age.. Girls love bad boy losers.. And these losers know it... sad.. sad... sad.. rip...

anylolone · Answer

That she was almost arrested for DV and that her boyfriend almost certainly killed her and it's probably going to use her violent behavior as an excuse for murder.

I had violent exes, I never even thought of killing them.

Anonymous · Answer

That men are also victims of domestic violence and most American's I would never want on my jury as they make up their mind about someone being guilty even BEFORE there is any hard evidence.

Anonymous · Answer

NOTHING BUT THAT THE WORD OF GOD COMES TO PASS  FOR SOCIETY HAS FORGOTTEN THE KING  AND THAT HIS WORD WILL NOT RETURN VOID

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

I can almost guarantee that any day I turn on the news someone was killed. If it wasn't for this sight I would not have known about this.

Anonymous · Answer

Most domestic violence is initiated by females. She likely abused him first, he got triggered, went to far, and had to kill her. or leave her as her own witness and go to jail.

Anonymous · Answer

that everything you see on social media is not real and not every relationship is perfect. looking at her instagram, it seems like they had it good. but what happened is just terrifying...

Interstate · Answer

To make sure you know the person well enough before committing to them.

Subarugirl · Answer

That some men will always find a way to blame the woman

Sonorous · Answer

Nothing other than the details of the whole situation.

ewok737 · Answer

If you're a woman, always carry a handgun, know how to use it, be sure you can use it when the situation arises.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Its nothing new unfortunately and race eh I’m not going to get into it because it’s not worth it on here go read some stats. There’s books on it as well.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe the person that killed her is after him but it does look like he may be involved he could have somebody like this after him. https://youtu. be/C-iQldPiH64

ChefPapiChulo · Answer

I haven't followed the case. I know its mainstream, and what happened to her is horrible. But it's just not an issue for me. It's something tragic that happened to someone I don't know.

msc545 · Answer

There isn't enough light shined on women's domestic violence toward men. The first time that police had contact with the Patito she was deemed the aggressor not the victim

FilmGuy93 · Answer

The case isn't over yet, so it's tough to have learned anything just yet.

FireFox001 · Answer

Nothing. Whar we have are allegations, tidbits of information and that's all. I am not drawing conclusions until tgere is gard evidence.

gag2021 · Answer

It can take a long long time to be able to trust someone! If you get red flags from someone, it's a warning! Stay safe is more than just for covid!

Anonymous · Answer

That laura Ingraham and other fox news contributors agree. That popularity of this is a case of missing white women syndrome.

Youdumbeotch · Answer

I didn’t learn anything other than people need to stop jumping to conclusions. Everyone’s quick to assume without thinking throughly

Shiningtempest · Answer

I learned from the Gabby Petito case that there are rotten people who have zero qualms about killing their lovers.

jimmy2 · Answer

All i hear is they can't not find the guy. He used someone's card at Walmart they charged him for forgery but when they fined him he be charged with murder up north

EnglishEuropean · Answer

I didn't learn anything. It will all come out in court.

Anonymous · Answer

Wait, how are people making this about race? I hadn't heard that. Wasn't her dude a white guy too?

Anonymous · Answer

Choices were made, people suffered, nothing can undo it, time marches on.

Anonymous · Answer

What are people saying about her race? Aren't she and her boyfriend the same race?

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