What did you learn from it?

[jazque]

Name a time when something went wrong or failed in your life. What if any, lessons did you learn from this? Everything happens for a reason. Some good some bad. But all things happen to teach us something.
If you dont learn from mistakes only doomed to repeat them.
Sometimes life tests us... gives us the same situation again and again until we get it right.

[vald9inches]

Well i definitely learned that jealousy is extremely toxic and poisonous in any kind of relationship and it almost destroyed me physically and spiritually. Instead i have learned to be more understanding and more interested in the love and happiness of everyone and all of my brothers and sisters on this earth. I have also become even more of an advocate for human freedom and the live and let live mantra

[jazque]

Thats awesome. Glad you are open enough to see and understand that. 🙌

[jazque]

And it is very true... by the way.

[vald9inches]

Thank you! 🙌❤️❤️❤️

[vald9inches]

Thanks for the mho beautiful! ❤️

[exitseven]

I was painfully shy as a kid. I was afraid to talk to girls. Even when people would tell me that she was into me I still could not make a move. I finally forced myself to face my fear. A girl I really liked had gone out with another guy and I finally had to tell her how I felt.

[jazque]

Good for you. Thats a tough one to over come... did you win the girl?

[exitseven]

@jazque As a matter of fact I did. She just went out with this other guy to make me jealous. I was so afraid she would laugh at me. If that happened maybe I would have had to leave school. It was pretty obvious she was into me but I was still unable to make a move. One night she ended up in the hospital and made sure that her friend that took her there wrote me a note telling me what had happened. I still was afraid.
We were together for 4 years.

[jazque]

Awe... what an awesome story
Thanks for sharing

[exitseven]

😀😀😀😀😀😀

[Lliam]

It's a really good question, jazque. Unfortunately I can't think of any life changing moments that would make good stories. Life has just been a constant process of evolution and many of my realizations have been in retrospect.

What I regret the most are things I didn't do like sitting down for conversations with my grandparents or my mom.
And there was one relationship that I realized later that I should have fought for. I should have let her know how much I loved her for more than sex. But I didn't figure out what she needed from me or what I did wrong in the relationship until it was way, way too late. Years too late, as a matter of fact.

Okay, there IS one specific incident, a fairly instant epiphany, that I think about once in a while.

In grammar school, there was a girl who was shy, quiet, and sort of chubby. She wasn't popular.

One year our desks were next to each other. I talked to her and treated her like anyone else. She found out that I collected promotional stickers for motorcycles, car parts and other stuff. Her dad worked for an airline and she must have asked him to bring home stickers from airlines like PanAm, TWA, etc. She started bringing me stickers and I was really jazzed.

One time, a kid who was kind of a bully/prankster, got a glob of spit on his finger and flicked it on her in class. The teacher didn't see it but kids did. Some laughed when he did it, and so did I. I don't even know why I laughed (it was more of a snicker. Not a guffaw). It wasn't funny and I wasn't laughing AT her. I don't know if I was just being "one of the guys" or if I laughed for the same reason people laugh at pratfalls. I was probably concerned about social pressure and being cool, too. I wasn't really thinking at the time.

She started crying silently.

When the teacher turned around to see why people were laughing, I just sat there like nothing had happened. Then I kind of forgot about it. It didn't seem like a big deal.

The next day or sometime later, I asked if she had any more stickers. She said that her dad told her not to give me any more.

That's when I realized that she must gone home the day after the spit thing and told him. In thinking about it, I realized that she had probably been heartbroken and cried and cried when she told her dad. She had thought I was her friend.

To this day, I think about the fact that she didn't have any other friends and had been trying to be mine. I still feel terrible.

From that, I learned that is not funny to pick on people who are fragile. I also realized how hard life can be for people at times and how much it can mean to them to have a friend who treats them like a person and not an invisible loser.

[jazque]

Thank you for sharing.

[Lliam]

You're welcome, jazque.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

When I was something like 17, I worked at a small place as a delivery driver. Long story short, a co-worker of mine, spilled the beans on all the skeletons the owners family had in the closet. Aaron was a very sociable fellow.

They were embarrassed and humiliated so they started picking any reason to fire anyone. I tried so hard not to get fired because, let's just say a lot of money (to a 17 year old) was owed to some scary people.

They basically fired me by changing the schedule and saying I was a no call no show.

They called me right when I was leaving to go on a vacation with my family and instead of feeling relaxed, I felt my stomach churn because all I wanted to do was book it off that plane and fix my problem.

But I learned a few things

1. Worrying about a problem you can't do anything about yet is stupid.

2. Anything can happen at any moment. We need to be ready to change drastically at any moment. So don't waste time/energy being shell shocked or taken back.

I think this was also around the time I started to feel comfortable with this feeling of impending doom, that I'm just barely escaping closely looming disaster.

Now when it comes to where I work, I'm very aware of what my value is to the people I work for, and where does that value end for them.

I also see things way before they happen now. I'm just more alert because life already caught me slippin too much 😂

[jazque]

As long as we learn from mistakes. Continue to grow. Thank u for sharing

[Sour-rose]

-"Until you see the place of your own, don't you dare give any money. Not even a dollar."
-"These bosses, this company, you're nobody and this shit proves it. Don't forget this."
-"Dutch chocolate milk is definitely dangerous to drink, holy sh-"
"You've said too much. Keep your mouth shut and watch."

[FunkyMonkee]

Okay so, what good came out of my ex-sisters stealing shitloads of money from mom and having me evicted from my house (left to ME BY mom) and losing well over half of my life?

What good is coming out of me having to pay thousands more dollars than I have for my aunt's house because she was stupid enough to mortgage the place to give more money for scammers 3 weeks before she died because the $9,000,000 she already gave them wasn't enough for them?

[Tstrbrainer]

Welcome back.

I often learn a lot from my previous formal conversations.

[jazque]

Yay... you remember me. Lol
Thats awesome you take something from eveyday interactions

[Tstrbrainer]

Actually I don't get to interact with people daily. So I'm still in a learning phase when it comes to dealing with adult strangers

[Tstrbrainer]

I'm glad you remember me too.

[jazque]

🥰 of course i do... and... Adults are hard. Lol

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeah. That's true

[Tstrbrainer]

I pick a lot of conversational tips from movies too

[jazque]

But thats a nutural topic... and who doesn't love movies.

[Tstrbrainer]

It helped me a lot to identify subtle hints of people expressing their lack of interest in a convo

[jazque]

And there is the learning... xo

[Tstrbrainer]

Yeah, helps me from making a fool out of myself by talking too much 😅

[jazque]

Hahahaha... quiet people make me nervous

[Tstrbrainer]

Quite people are good listeners, I've heard

[Mgtow1990]

Biggest mistake was dating women and the lesson was never do it again unless you want to be hurt

[jazque]

Im sorry you had that experience. But i hate to tell you... MOST OF US HAVE!. if you never know hell how do you know heaven?
It hurts granted. But you need to pick yourself up and try again. Not all people are bad. Just learn from that TYPE of person and avoid it with next one.

[Mgtow1990]

No I am good no need to be with a woman there is no difference in any of them I am fine single and will remain that way till the end of days

[jazque]

Lol... ok. but throwing a pitty party will never let you grow.
Hope things look up.

[jazque]

... so i guess i can say all men are cheating abusive pieces of shit... no difference in any of you hey? You are probably right stay single until you mature a bit more. Xo

[Mgtow1990]

Nope I'll stay just as I am thank you have a good one

[jazque]

Sad... hope you feel better some day...