My mom is going to take me to abort the baby after a few days, does it hurt? Am I going to die?

[Anonymous]

I just turned 18 and my mom is is really mad and she going to take me after a few days because she said it's for the best and i'm still young to have a babe now. but i'm so scared of it, please be honest with me

It hurt like hell

You will be fine

[fauchelevent]

Are you sure that this is what you want to do? The doctor will go through the process with you before it starts, and they'll tell you what's going to happen, explain the risks, things like that. You'll probably get blood and STI tests, they may also examine your vagina and give you an ultrasound, though I doubt that will be necessary if you're only a month along.

Because you're only a month into your pregnancy, it's still very early, and you will be given a less invasive, early pregnancy abortion. These are two medications, taken about a day and a half or two days apart. You may have some bleeding, and some slight pain, but nothing extreme. Think period cramps.

The first pill is to block the hormone that makes your womb lining suitable for the egg. You won't have to stay in hospital or anything, you can go home like normal. The second pill is to help break down the womb lining, along with the embryo. This is lost through bleeding, exactly like your normal period, so no need to panic. As I said before, it's this pill that may cause pain but it's just like a period, so you should be okay with it. It doesn't happen to everyone anyway.

If you're experiencing very heavy bleeding or in a lot of pain, you should speak to your doctor, but it's very unlikely for that to happen.

(This is based on the UK procedure, I'm not sure where you're from and it might differ, but this is a standard procedure for where I live.)

[AvaMarina]

Are you positive this is the right decision for you? Your mom has absolutely no right to force you into this now that you're an adult, and if you feel that you'd rather carry out your pregnancy (you can always give the baby up for adoption; plenty of families are looking for infants), you have every right to do so. It'll probably cause an argument, but this is your decision and if you don't want an abortion, I strongly urge you not to get one.

That said, if you're sure an abortion is best... you're not going to die. Severe side effects are rare, but it still likely won't be pleasant, tbh. This site explains it: americanpregnancy.org/.../

But again, the risk of severe side effects is very low, so it's not worth worrying about them. Be aware of them, just in case, but you don't need to be afraid. You're going to be okay.

[Asker]

Thank you you're amazing

[AvaMarina]

No problem. :) If you ever need to talk to someone, you can always message me and I'll listen.

[dogbert444]

Good opinion!!

[COCOCHANEL]

very good advice

[badboy666]

You are not going to die, it is a very safe procedure. How long in the gestation process are you? That might make a difference in how involved the process gets. Again, you'll be fine and will get through this OK!

[Asker]

It's going to be a month

[dogbert444]

Is this a long enough time to know you are pregnant? Have you just missed a period because of the trauma? Have you done a test?

Whatever, good luck!

Take care, stay safe!!

[dogbert444]

@asker

[Asker]

@dogbert444 no we went to a doctor

[badboy666]

It should not be too bad at all. Best of luck, and I hope your mother gives you the support you need. And really, physically you should be fine.

[Xelebrum]

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Come on now. If abortion WAS that risky (which it's NOT), so many people (especially women) wouldn't be demanding that it be made legal.

[LIZGRIZ111]

YOu said that you were raped. I am very sorry for that. Why would your mother be angry at you though if you were raped and this was the result of a crime and not your own actions?

[Asker]

I really don't know why but she's kind of blaming me and trying to punish me by not talking to me like she used to not before the abortion. It feels like I'm not her little girl anymore

[LIZGRIZ111]

I have never been in this situation and once again I am sorry. If that was my mother I would talk to her and tell her "look I know you are upset but I need you. I need your support and guidance. I love you and if you love me I would hope that you could see that this is not my fault. I understand that things will not be as they were before but I know that the love is still there and that we can get through this together. Please don't make me face this alone. I need my mother" I personally am not for abortion but If that is what you choose then I wish the best for you (both physically, mentally, and emotionally) I know some women who have had abortions one who had one because of her lyfestyle choices and another because of complications. In both cases I saw that the actual procedure was not as bad as the emotions they felt after. That is why I encourage you to talk to ur mother. Is there a case against your rapist?

[Asker]

Yes there's a case, we told the police everything about what happened. I just can't keep the baby, i'm young and i didn't finish studying yet, i don't have a job or any money. This baby will have no father and i'm sure that i would hate him/her more than anything else in this world because it will always remember me of what happened and that i lost my first time to that sick guy. You still think i should keep it?

[LIZGRIZ111]

I have no opinion on wether you should keep it or not. I only feel that you should seek support from your mother in whatever you decide.

[Asker]

Thank you so much for everything

[Prettygurl12]

You'll be fine.

I had to read up on this for a project once.

You'll probably be given a pill to abort. One dislodges it from the wall of the uterus and the next pill causes your period.

Or they'll remove it by hand and I hear that pinches/feels like pressure. It'd probably be uncomfortable but nothing like childbirth or anything. I've heard it described as bad menstrual cramps.

[Ulyss]

Psychologically I think it would affect you but other than that you won't die from an abortion unless you're from a rural area which I highly doubt

[Anonymous]

It's amazing how you're going to go kill your unborn child and somehow you got will am I going to die out of it.

How old are you a legal adult? Well it doesn't matter as much as im against abortion from what you just asked your mother is right you're to young to be a parent.

[Asker]

I don't want it! I am pregnant because someone raped me not by my choice even i didn't i will never love this baby. I'm still young and all i want is to live my life away from all this. So don't come and tell me that i want to kill it when you don't know anything

[LIZGRIZ111]

Why is your mother mad at you if you were raped?

[Opinion Owner]

Well I didn't know you were raped but as for what I said it's still true.

What happened to you is unfortunate and believe me when I say I sympathize with you but to ask a question like will I die says that even if being raped had nothing to do with the situation and you were just going to get an abortion or like you are now you should know that you're not going to die. At least if you're getting it done by an actual doctor.

You're going to be on drugs for the most part you won't feel anything there might be a little discomfort at the most i mean because sonethibg is going isinside of you as well as coming out of you but it shouldn't be excruciating pain.

[Opinion Owner]

That is a really good point lizgriz111

Her mom should be sympathing with her not mad at her. The only reason I could why her mom would be mad at her is if she wanted to keep the baby but she clearly doesn't so I don't understand.

[Asker]

My mom is a tough woman and when she ask you to do something you can't say no to her, I know she is in a huge pressure now but i really don't know why she's mad at me like this

[Opinion Owner]

I'm really sorry that you're going through this and regardless of my opinion I hope all goes well for you.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

You will be fine. Also do you want to abort the child? Or you doing it for your mum? & do you have a boyfriend?

[Asker]

No i don't have a boyfriend cause this happened because a guy raped me. I don't want this baby too

[Opinion Owner]

I'm so sorry to hear that. I wish you all the best. Stay strong!

[Asker]

Thank you

[KidanisCortes]

Abortions are safe till like the 3rd month If I remeber correctly but are you sure you wanna abort?

[Asker]

I don't want this shit inside me because i hate everything about it

[KidanisCortes]

well then do it, your body your rules. Its a safe p[rocedure given you go to a good doctor

[Anonymous]

You'll be okay. Talk to a doctor--they'll explain everything to you that you need to know. Good luck--stay strong!

[Asker]

Thank you

[Opinion Owner]

You're welcome! I hope it all works out for you. Things will get better soon.