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Maybe they’re meant to be together?

I feel hurt after my cousin secretly started talking to a guy I confided in her about then tried to gaslight me about it and really started struggling with my mental health… I haven’t really dated in my 20s and he was my first real emotional connection.. I really wanted to be with him and we did talk and go out.. he ultimately ended up rejecting me and he just treated me like I was nothing.. I felt really depressed and I found out he was also attracted to trans women.. I have a trans cousin I was close with and I talked to her about it and showed her his @ twitter to see if he there were signs I missed… I just knew something was up awhile after and it sent me to pieces.. like just feeling betrayed and rejected.. I feel small.. and I feel like when I try to talk about it I’m dismissed and they’re encouraged..

I talked to my therapist and she says “is it so bad if they were together?” Or other people saying “so, let them fall in love”

So it’s just been a blow to my self worth entirely and right now I just kind of started doing Onlyfans and other stuff to feel somewhat good about myself and not think about never being chosen by any man.. and wanting to get work done.

i've been thinking about this question lowkeyly since shortly after trump was reelected, since that's when i really noticed the manosphere & the heritage foundation's agendy and all the other 'good' stuff. i feel like at this point most guys my age are at least somewhat contaminated with manosphere or alt right talking points (i even personally know guys that are kneck deep into that shit) which is really scary to think about. it's pretty concerning namely because i definitely don't want to risk accidently dating or worse, marrying & having kids, with a genuine misogynist who worships fresh&fit and nick fuentes. especially if you factor in potential rolling back of no fault divorce, birth control, etc. a lot of those dudes pretend to be normal or downplay what they are, so it's often hard to know, especially in the beginning. even if you get with a normal dude, there's a big risk his algorithm eventually ends up brainwashing him. even if these guys don't end up on the farther end of the spectrum, they still end up with ideas and attitudes about women that feel remniscent of the 80s, and that's pretty terrible already.

now about the question, i know that this touches every age bracket but it's heavily concentrated on gen z dudes and younger. i'm in my mid twenties (the age of my profile is muchhh older, thought it was slightly funny when i created my account years ago) for reference. i'm really most attracted to guys my age, never been that much of a daddy appreciator or anything, but i think it could maybe be more wise potentially? to date older at this point. i feel like millenials are much less contaminated by this type of stuff, or am i wrong? (atm that refers to 30-40yos). could maybe consider younger gen x (like 45-50something yos), though i'm typically not very physically attracted to men those ages and there's the risk that if they're willing to date a woman in her mid 20s it could mean bad things about their real beliefs and attitutes to women.