Why was he ok to meet my parents after everything?

[Lilstars]

I was dating this guy for about 3 months, and have been on multiples dates and sleepover. Everything been really good, his very affectionate and caring.

On our 4th date (1 month mark), out of nowhere he said, I really like you and care about you, and I don’t want to hurt you, but I have this ideal type in my mind and even though you’re beautiful and I’m attracted to you, you’re not my ideal type. He said he doesn’t want to drag things out since it be unfair on me.

We ended up stop seeing each other, but we couldn’t stop messaging each other. So we decided to continue dating. We want to see if it will work out.

He would message me throughout the day, call me every chance he gets. He take care of me, take me out to places to eat and do activities I want to try. His always very affectionate towards me, things were great and I thought maybe this time it will work out.

Then at our 2 and half months, I asked him how he feel about us and he told me that he felt conflicted, that he doesn’t think he can get over his obsession of having an ideal girlfriend, but he also really like me and care about me.

I know this is a bad decision on my part but i really like him and don’t want this to end yet. So I suggested to him why don’t we continue dating but also see if we can find someone else better suited. He hesitated at first, but I convinced him that I will be ok and if he does find his ideal girl then we can breakup.

I know this might not last but I want to enjoy my time with him as long as I can. On the weekend he said he wanted to visit me since his in my area. I hesitated at first and told him my parents are home. He said that fine and he want to help me with chores if I need to. He met my parents and they talked for a while, then he stayed for dinner and we watch a movie before he went home.

I just don’t understand, if he want to find someone else and we won’t end up together, then why bother meeting my parents? Is it meeting parents not a big deal to him?

[ohsheeT]

Wait wait a min you are his ideal girl there are guys out there that play that game
Because they think your going to do what ever it takes to get him and then at the same time if someone better comes a long. That's any girl. he will say. I'm sorry but I thought for sure she was the one and play it play play it


They want to be the good guy the hero by telling you know. There is someone better than you but.. I will put then on hold so you keep showing me how much you want me

[Lilstars]

I just don’t understand, why make effort, being so nice to me, caring and attentive, when he doesn’t want it to go anywhere. When he came back the second time, I really thought we could make it work. I really like him and i know that mean he have more control over me, but i just can’t help how i feel. I will try and distance myself.

[ohsheeT]

He doesn't want to go anywhere because he has to spend money i just have this weird feeling he's telling you some thing you don't want to hear. To pull you in closer to make you fall hard f or him

And then meeting your parents to see how they have done in life and so on.. something is not right. Let me ask when you have gone out or go to do things he pays right..

[ohsheeT]

Even you sound like you like him a lot, but I think even you feel something is not what it is. I would like to chat with you for a min and ask you a couple of things and also explain something to you about .. well just a few things

[Zack-Bann]

Why were YOU ok with introducing someone like that to your parents
The dude literally said
“you’re mid I want a baddie”


Where’s your self esteem.
Tell him to go out and find his “ideal girlfriend” if he thinks he’s worth so much more
And move on.

[Abbycado]

Why in the world would you continue to date someone and lead them on when you know they are not your ideal man?

He prob doesn't care about your parents because of what you told him. I don't even know why he kept seeing you. Smh

[Anonymous]

This sounds like a question a 12 year old would ask.

[Staximus]

This guy doesn't know what the fuck he wants. He thinks she's going to find Miss perfect? She doesn't exist, he needs pull his head out of his ass. There's no such thing as perfect but there is such thing as good enough. If you're not good enough then he needs to fuck off into the sunset.

[Stevepro68]

Nothing about this is good for you. He's pathological both for his needs and the emotional distress he is giving you. Get away from him. ASAP

[Anonymous]

What’s his ideal type

[In_Trance]

Ask him