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Hey guys so me and my boyfriend have been getting into a lot of arguments over it recently and neither of us are willing to compromise so I want to know opinions.

I follow other guys on Instagram, I know them from school and extra curricular and we don’t interact with each others post and only message to ask questions about performance and midterm dates, study guides and homework or missed classes or extracurricular (I’m in a group where we do singing and dancing and we catch eachother up on choreography for anyone who’s missed. Almost all of these chats are group chats with multiple women and men. None of them have my phone number or my Snapchat as that feels like a different level, and no one has yet (I have my boyfriend posted and always make it pretty clear from the get go I have a boyfriend like if I meet people in class and it’s a group and someone’s like “what’s everyone doing after? Anyone down to grab lunch?” I’ll respond with “sorry, I really miss my boyfriend so I think I’m just going to head home for today”) but if anyone did make a flirtatious or suggestive comment my immediate response would be to block them and probably say something along the lines of “not cool… you know I have a boyfriend so fuck right off”, even being in group chats together if someone crossed that line I genuinely wouldn’t care about the missed opportunities for school work and info because it’s a broken boundary and I would find someone else in class or another group who would be more respectful.

to him, he still feels like it’s disrespectful and that no guy would be okay with this. To me, I feel like it’s controlling and while if he specifically said to unadd anyone specifically I would, not being able to add any feels like too much and if we don’t come to a conclusion now what’s it going to look like in the future? If our kids go out with a friend and their dad can I not get his number to check on my kids? What about getting coworkers contacts to switch shifts?

30F & I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.

30F and I wonder if most women get where I’m coming from. I’ve never been in a real relationship, saw someone very briefly in my early twenties. Haven’t had sex either since then and don’t feel the need to, masturbating doesn’t do anything for me. Also doesn’t help that I’m not the friendliest, the only way I’ve met up with guys over the years were on dating apps. I get attention on them but it just feels off in a way, I’ve always felt like I am going to end up alone. I don’t want kids but like the idea of getting married, over the years people have justified my single status to being picky or shy etc. Those are excuses or cop outs, I feel like compared to the average woman though I likely get less attention from guys in person.

Literally the only attention I’ve gotten from guys I find attractive are on dating apps, in person maybe someone I was outside with would tell me that this guy looked at me etc (on and off throughout the years). But they never make it known to me directly, it makes me second guess things. It’s like I always wonder why I never have a boyfriend if I’m told I’m attractive, I also hear about a lot of introverted/socially awkward women that are in long term relationships. I really wonder if finding the right person is the answer to all my issues, I’ve spoken to guys in the past and tend to find ways to get out of it before I determine if they’re a good fit or not. Something about guys has always felt…different. Since I was in my teens, never got the craze with being boy crazy etc.