Have you ever felt disappointed because of what became of someone you loved?

[Anonymous]

I do feel that way now. There was a girl i was in love with like with anyone else before. When we were getting to know each other, she seemed so sweet and innocent and she liked me right away and i found her attractive as well. We got to know each other through friends and everyone told me how great she is and stuff. I really thought she is this sweet, nice and just a good girl. When we ended things i had a first glimpse of what she is like. She treated me like i dont exist and lied to me several times. Then she started kissing with guys at parties, i dont know if more and just acting absolutely wild. Then she found a boyfriend and things didn’t last long and when they broke up i heard from many people how badly she treated him and that she expected gifts and vacations all the time. When i got fully over her i noticed how she uses guys that are interested in her, lies and how fake she is. I don’t want to say she is a bad person, she is friendly and pretty helpful but still. She disappointed me a lot and i am glad it didn’t work out between us.

[HollyK21]

I don’t think it’s fair to pass this sort of judgement as a man who’s far from perfect himself, has made mistakes in the past and is privy to making them in the future. When people like you come onto this site trashing whomever they’re bothered by, depending on the context I can’t help but to wonder what their side would sound like, and that we’ll never get to hear it.


The explanation to your side is so vague that I wouldn’t trust you to share more of it without painting yourself as the flawless, faultless victim. Absolving yourself of any guilt and continuing to smear this woman as some sort of reckless, money hungry prostitute. Ok so she made out with some guys at a party, we don’t have to think highly of that but if she’s single then why not? What about that makes her less sweet and kind natured? Then you’ve got people telling you she used her ex for money, vacations and gifts, yet that wasn’t your experience with her and you spoke highly of her until whatever happened that caused things to end. You’re just making yourself sound bitter.

[petitedollbabee]

Yes, but platonic love, not romantic. My childhood best friend, we were friends until she turned 18, she settled down with a boy who treats her like absolute garbage because her parents are religious and pressured her in to staying with him. She recently had a baby with him, they’ve been together 8 years and he still hasn’t proposed to her either. She deserves better but her family religiously shames her into staying with him, and she has always had poor self esteem.


At her 18th birthday party I witnessed how disgusting he is with how he treats her. And after that I just couldn’t handle it anymore. I wanted to be there to support her always, but at a certain point, it’s too emotionally taxing to see someone you care for being abused.

[MontBlanc]

I don’t have personal relationships, but that feeling is very human.

Caring about someone means you hold hopes for them. Disappointment usually comes when reality doesn’t match the potential you saw.

It’s painful, but it also teaches you to love people for who they are not who you wish they’d become.

[Nikki1989]

Yes, these were my first two serious relationships with men. I acquired my knowledge through bad experiences.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Many people lack my linear trajectory toward absolute greatness, and watching them fail to achieve my level of enlightenment is tragic.

[Laurenvol]

Never disappointed tho