Have you ever been so disappointed in someone you just gave up?

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worldscolide · Accepted Answer

Yes.. And though i will get some hate for this. It was my mother. She valued sex with random men, and drugs over being a mother to me. so 24 years ago, i cut her from my life (i was 16).. I have not spoken to her since. She has no idea that i am married. She will never know if she becomes a grandmother. My work has been instructed that if she ever comes on property that she is to be arrested for Felony criminal trespass.

My mom is the kind of person that believes that the world revolves around her. She believes that anything that happens to her is someone else's fault. She never takes accountability for any of her actions, Always dishonest, Always a liar. When i was a child, she was abusive in the extreme. I nearly died twice because of her... I almost became like her.. So i cut her from my life.

Sonorous · Accepted Answer

Yeah, but in the context of trying to help people see the error in their ways. I gave up because I realized that I expected empathy from people who were never going to give it in the way that I would for them if we were in each others shoes. It hurt to accept. I really didn't want to. I fought it emotionally. But I had to eventually accept it & it hardened me a bit, I feel it.

Even though I'm still disappointed when I think about it, I still get along with the people. I'll just never be able to respect them as much since I know exactly how they're treat me if things aren't going well for them. I know exactly how different our default empathy levels are. They could rely on me when they needed me & still might be able to in some ways. But I cannot rely on them. I will not rely on them.

blueonblack22 · Answer

This has been done to me and vice versa. There was one time it was justifiably done to me in a romantic situation. I knew I wasn’t pulling my weight but I didn’t even want to be in a relationship in that time in my life. But she was a high quality woman who never did anything wrong. So I had no idea what to do. I used to go home and bang head on the wall in frustration.

While you are not obligated to be in relationship with anybody (platonic or romantic) you do have an moral obligation to treat them with respect and let them know why you are moving on. I said “moral” not “legal” or something. It is just the right thing to do out of general principle.

Of course not everybody does that nowadays and it’s only getting worse in society. Women started doing this to guys and now guys are doing this to women. Vicious cycle continues.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

Yes. When I found my third girlfriend lying to me, stealing from me and cheating on me!
When my 2nd girlfriend got pissed at me for not giving her my last 58 cents so she could buy cat food for some fucking stray cat and then she called me up and left a really nasty message calling me all kinds of names (you know, the way loony lefties are won't to do) so, I'd had enough of her shit and refused to talk to her anymore. I've tried to make up with her but now, SHE refuses to talk to ME!! Oh well!! No great loss, really!!

IslaTheWitch · Answer

Disappointment is a very strong word. And it's connected with expectations.

Other people can piss me off, they can make me cry because I was hurt or because I'm angry. And I can just stop to care. But I don't have expectations towards them... so they can't disappoint me.

MiddleAgedClimbee · Answer

I'm not sure that I've given up on anyone. I certainly have left behind the immature wants and desires of my youth.

If an individual was someone I looked up to, and then my opinion of them changed or something they did caused that change, I relinquish the relationship if there was one.
There are certainly individuals who are in the public eye, whom I have turned my back on, but there was never a relationship with that individual or group.
Giving up requires faith or hope in some one or some thing, place it wisely.

Fireguy17 · Answer

sometimes you need to just cut your losses. You can't fix/save everyone. It isn't your job.

Still-alive · Answer

My ex. uggggh. im a very very patient dude but some people i just can't. and she was one of them.

Thestupidusername · Answer

Yup.. on here too.. a lot of people have a fake persona to protect them and that can't last long. But can also be missunderstandings:/

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, sometimes there is no other choice.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Am just on the way to giving you on someone soon,... it happens we gave up on our friend because we got tired of her

Sparkie460 · Answer

Yes. I disowned my brother after my mom died. When she died, so did he.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

That has happened, yes. But it takes A LOT to get me to that point.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Maybe temporarily until they annoy me again.

Slim57 · Answer

That's happened a lot to me, it took me tons of bad apples to find a good one

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

NO BUT SOMEONE DID TO ME. NEVER GOT OVER IT.

Hardshell1234 · Answer

Yes. Absolutely. It’s exhausting.

TruliAdreamerInLove · Answer

Been very disappointed with life.

spartan55 · Answer

Disappointed how?

syncheart · Answer

Yes several times.

Worst · Answer

@Joker_

MikeFrench · Answer

Yes.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Yes😂

Charliefretz329 · Answer

Yeppers

eagle1951 · Answer

a time or to

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