Have you ever let someone go and later realized what you lost?

Question

It is sometimes easy to let go of something. . . until it really sinks in as to what you gave up. Who has had this happen, and what was the outcome?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I only made that mistake one time in my life from a girl that was my FWB’s that wanted more with me and at the time I did not , because I was keeping my options opened and didn’t want to settle down with any girl at the time , mainly because I just got out of a long term relationship with my ex and rushing into another relationship wasn’t on my to do list whatsoever. But I really liked this girl as a friend ans well and benefits , until she realized things weren’t going any further for us , and she ended up not investing anymore of her time into me. When I realized I lost her , that’s when it hit me that I was being a moron , that I should have taken it further with her instead of staying single. I knew I messed up so I let her go even though I kicked myself in the ass over it. Months later I ran into her at a bar and she was with another guy , I said Hi to her and gave her a hug , and I said I’m sorry for how things went down between us but I want you to know you are a beautiful person that deserves the best , so I hope he treats you the way you deserve to be treated and that was the last time I ever saw or heard from her since. It sucked , but I knew I fucked up. On the other hand , i experienced this more with my ex girlfriends’ that realized they made a mistake by ending things with me, that tried coming back into my life after we split , but i don’t take exes back. I believe once someone leaves you that claims they loved you , truly doesn’t love you because if they did , they would of never left you to begin with , when a girl tells me she needs space , I tell her take all the space she needs because I will not be waiting for her return whatsoever. Space isn’t for relationships, space is for selfish people that want to weigh their options

MrChinaski · Accepted Answer

Nostalgia is not what it used to be, as they say.

When I've left people it's because I have reached a sober understanding of their strengths and weaknesses and how we (don't) fit together. For me, the feeling is: 'You know I could love you forever and ever, if only you were a different person'.

Celebrate the great things. Love them for their goodness and hold onto that love forever. But they are still the same person you left, and if you got back together then you will separate again for the same reasons.

Tiptoetamm · Accepted Answer

No I haven’t. Have I stayed with someone because I didn’t want to lose them yes but later on realized they were just a leach and removed myself and kept it pushing. When I leave someone I never ever go back. I have one ex I’ve been friendly with in the past because we left in okay terms. But yeah most of the time I just keep pushing forward and don’t look back. I just remember the good moments and it’s okay to do that in my opinion.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Accepted Answer

I was not so good at letting go, I was usually the last one to do that haha.  Now I am learning to let go and be happy with it.

ohsheeT · Answer

No but I have let go of someone because somewhere in Time I would have held her back because of are age difference And it would be fair to I felt she need to live life and experience it she was in collage and she need to experience everything that happens when your there it took us 6 months to do it but we did and I new what I had and new who she was dont know if this makes since but I love her so much to not be selfish and let he go it was for the best for her

exitseven · Answer

I was in a relationship with somebody for 4 years. 3 of these years we were long distance. Eventually I realized that there was really no way that we were going to end up together so I broke up with her. Afterwards i wondered if I made a mistake and considered trying to go back with her. I wondered if I would find anyone as awesome as she was.

After a few weeks I realized that I did the right thing.

GrammariklyIncorrekt · Answer

I almost let it happen. Actually, I did let it happen, and was regretting it ever since she left. Thankfully she was patient and ended up finally coming back... This happened with a girl I knew for like 2 days mind you. Crazy, I know...

sage2021 · Answer

No but he let go of me. Then I was thinking about how I used to complain about having to do so much laundry every week.

But after he was gone for a while, I missed seeing his clothes coming out of the dryer.

Sometimes we need to keep complaints to ourselves because they can add up and you'll have regrets later for complaining.
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whosnumber_1 · Answer

Yes, actually quite a lot of times. I've gotten together with some very nice ladies and probably for my own insecurities not wanted to have a relationship. I can think of a number of women that I missed out on... Kind of a bummer actually. Good question though!

Cyfris · Answer

Yes but no but. Usually the acceptance I find at the end of my 5 stages of grief is that I didn't lose anything but gained an opportunity for greatness I wouldn't have had with that person hence the ending of the relationship.

Unycorn · Answer

Too much I lost. I actually lost my peace, my happiness, ...

NathanDavis · Answer

nope... but I tried to run away and they got me anyway...

SamIam96 · Answer

OMG yes. At this point, there's no correcting the mistake. The song you chose brings back a wave of memories. Thank you; I think.

7Phoenix7 · Answer

I’m not the type to leave easily. If I care about you, I’ll do everything I can to keep us together. But there is a limit… and once I leave, I’ve already made peace with it.

ericclayton · Answer

Yes, It was very clear that I was given the choice between her and my own path. It could have been much more fulfilling to be with her than looking for better opportunities which never came.

MikeTheBartender · Answer

All the fucking time :( especially back when I was a narcissist, cheater, and  all  around asshole.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Nope. I dot regret my decisions in life or in relationships. Learn from and Always look forward.

Likes2drive · Answer

I always wondered if I’m made a mistake by breaking up with my first girlfriend, I had quite a few relationships since and was even married with children by being single again I guess I think about stuff like that still

12karen · Answer

Hmmmm no, for the first months yes. I miss the interaction and all but mehhh when I let go I let go…
And I don’t let go people easily, I would even beg for them to stay but when I’m done I’m done

Pyrofox · Answer

For me I've always been the most okay with just walking away.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Yes, and no regrets. I knew he was a great guy.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

You can't keep someone who doesn't wanna stay by force, so i guess that sometimes we just have to accept things like they are...

Ariesman81 · Answer

Not really. There's been one that made my decision difficult, but it still remains the right choice for both of us.

Iron_Man · Answer

no there’s no reason to let somebody go just because you’re having a bad day

AgentG111 · Answer

Yes and glad I did.

oldman26 · Answer

If you don't feel it, you can't force it

aboredman · Answer

Yup.. years ago, I regret that for so long

Butterfly38142 · Answer

Never anyone like that.

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