My boyfriends sexual inexperience ruins the mood. How do I resolve this?

[Anonymous]

When we first started dating over a year ago I was his first girlfriend and never been with a girl. I wasn't bothered by it and I was excited to teach him a lot about women and sex. I taught him everything I liked and how to get me in the mood etc. I have had to keep repeating myself for almost a year.

I am getting frustrated because he cannot learn what I like in bed and what gets me in the mood for over a year now. He keeps asking me every single time we do it, and often nowdays I have to just fantasie a scenario in my head to put myself in the mood because he cannot. My assumption is he is either lazy, he likes being taught or he genuinely doesn't care.

We have had arguments surrounding the amount of times we have sex, I've tried bringing this up and he says it is a hassle and women are complicated. I said I've taught him but he seems bothered.

Im genuinely fed up. I want someone who will go the extra mile like I do but I dont want to give up on him yet.

[Makeushiver]

It sounds like it's a difficult problem. The more I read on here the more I read about men and how well they are sexually fulfilling the desires of their lovers. Many women and men on this forum talk about the arousal and orgasm (s) of women. I don't like it maybe because I happen to find a woman's sexual excitement a huge turn on. Most of the very sexy moments have involved holding an attractive woman's ass in my hand and slowly edging her into a state of mind blowing sexual hunger. When she tries to hump everything because she's now so turned on that anything but immediate release will make her explode. When her back is arched towards my lips trying for contact I sometimes need to manually keep myself from coming. Finally with a couple of fingers up her ass I make sure she cums as hard as she can and as many times as she can. Shit, sorry, got way off on a tangent.

Anyway, the key- it seems to me that the real key is the level of enthusiasm he brings to his game to make you cum. Because it;s such an important part of the entire process I usually have a couple of toys and accessories so I can accomodate beyond what average request to be because I think it is such a huge turn on to me. If it was an obligation and I approached it as it were, I probably wouldn't get much of response would likely be practicing my jerking off techniques but I live to feel that first shudder go through your body. hearing you voice sounding shaky, the little moans and the fantastic way you have of wearing when you cum. I truly wish that I could help in a more tangible way

[AnonAndrew]

From the sounds of it, he thinks what you want is a hassle and you are complicated.

It's been a year, and despite talking about it and fighting about it, it hasn't improved.

It's very unlikely to suddenly change now. Just assume that it will be like this forever, that it can't be changed, and make the decision on whether to stay or to go based on that.

[chrissykerdock]

tell him you need your pussy eaten for 40 minutes or else

[Finchie40]

Dump him and find yourself a guy that knows how to rock your world

[Anonymous]

Sounds like your role of teacher has created an imbalance of power which together with your frustration and criticism most likely has undetermined his autonomy and confidence. And indeed he seems to be saying as much.
I wouldn't be surprised if sex drops off with this trajectory.
If it's a major problem for you it might be fairer to both of you if you split and tried again with someone else. The alternative is some couple therapy.

[HungTexan]

Encourage him to do some research, and that it will be more pleasurable for both of you.

Tell him what a man he is, how you crave his big dick (assuming he’s not tiny), and you want him to f*ck you till you cum.

[slatyb]

It seems you can't have both. You've been talking to him for a year and either he's not making any real effort or he just doesn't have the erotic imagination you desire. I think you'll have to end this and find a lover who satisfies.

[Anonymous]

Sounds to me like you haven't learned what he likes and what gets him in the mood. Or, you don't care.

[beefcakebradybatson]

You're his girlfriend, lay a b. j. on your boy to get him boyed up !!!

[Pterodon]

Tell him exactly what you told us

[Asker]

I dont know how to bring it up without him being sensitive or hurt

[Pterodon]

Well tough. He isn’t getting the message

[Anonymous]

Maybe you just need to accept you clown car was not meant for him.

[Manwomanmythmale]

If he can't do, then you teach

[FunkyMonkee]

Take control!

[Anonymous]

A 2 hour bj


Works for me

[Wise4myage]

Become his teacher.