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It's impossible to forget them once you have grasped. But i heard about them MORE than a 100 times. And still kept forgetting.

No cognitive issues. But it was a defense mechanism. There is no way that to study it as extensively as i did and keep forgetting it is just a coincidence with me also fearing to be changed. Wanting to be changed but there is a huge reason why i became this way, to survive.

Both of my clinger-pusher parents are fearful-avoidant because of their pretty bad traumas growing up, till this day they get scared when complimented, for example.

And i learnt that the most widespread recommendations are very harmful, like; "it's no use overthinking" or "love your parents" These spoken excuses always push the anxiety further down so tightly it overflows out as irrationality.

i rarely see my parents and when i do i cannot bring myself to tell them:

Forgiving should come naturally, not through ideology. Just like breathwork never worked for me until opening up my emotions triggered the breathing changes naturally. It is ok to look like you're possesed for days while pouring out the repressed anxiety.

They still press it down with either "we blamed them, they wronged us, now forgive and move on" (my dad) or "they suck, let's revenge forever" (my mom).

Last time i told mom "i have had this bad habit forever, it is finally going away!" she rudely acknowledged and dismissed it in one same sentence.

I think everyone who refuses to investigate this topic and to persist until trauma psychology becomes as clear as adding 1+1, is afraid of finding out they have issues - even if they know they do - because we developed our issues as a means to survive. letting go of daddy issues frightens us to death, it has been our survival strategy.

The tragedy is that 40% of all adults have UNRESOLVED infancy anxiety issues and seek relationships to cope with them instead of fixing their body's repressed panic.

I dated this girl from a small ethnic community of people I come from. She looks so unique and is the prettiest girl I’ve ever seen she has green eyes (pretty damn rare). Stunning in my eyes. I look at insta models and am like they can’t compare!

She went from being obsessed with me to getting overwhelmed and dropping me like a hot potato.

I met her parents she met mine, all in 3.5 months. We stayed overnight with each other, talked for hours a day, had s*x with each other once which was a disaster as it was so awkward and I didn’t get to f her good.

I was shocked she let me go as I am exceptional too and I was good to her but there were some lessons I had to learn. I do think she was a bit unstable inside. We also got on like a house on fire and I felt a connection to her.

I don’t know if I can do better! She also came out of nowhere