How many of you know the attachment theory and remember all 4 attachment categories?

[stalk-stopper]

It's impossible to forget them once you have grasped. But i heard about them MORE than a 100 times. And still kept forgetting.

No cognitive issues. But it was a defense mechanism. There is no way that to study it as extensively as i did and keep forgetting it is just a coincidence with me also fearing to be changed. Wanting to be changed but there is a huge reason why i became this way, to survive.

Both of my clinger-pusher parents are fearful-avoidant because of their pretty bad traumas growing up, till this day they get scared when complimented, for example.

And i learnt that the most widespread recommendations are very harmful, like; "it's no use overthinking" or "love your parents" These spoken excuses always push the anxiety further down so tightly it overflows out as irrationality.

i rarely see my parents and when i do i cannot bring myself to tell them:

Forgiving should come naturally, not through ideology. Just like breathwork never worked for me until opening up my emotions triggered the breathing changes naturally. It is ok to look like you're possesed for days while pouring out the repressed anxiety.

They still press it down with either "we blamed them, they wronged us, now forgive and move on" (my dad) or "they suck, let's revenge forever" (my mom).

Last time i told mom "i have had this bad habit forever, it is finally going away!" she rudely acknowledged and dismissed it in one same sentence.

I think everyone who refuses to investigate this topic and to persist until trauma psychology becomes as clear as adding 1+1, is afraid of finding out they have issues - even if they know they do - because we developed our issues as a means to survive. letting go of daddy issues frightens us to death, it has been our survival strategy.

The tragedy is that 40% of all adults have UNRESOLVED infancy anxiety issues and seek relationships to cope with them instead of fixing their body's repressed panic.

I remember the 4 categories of attachment theory

What are they again

Never heard of them

[SueShe]

Apparently I am not the only one here that has never heard of the attachment theory since nobody answered your question in the more than 17 hours since it was posted.

While it looks like an interesting question, it does not seem to attract much interest, perhaps because people cannot relate to that question or perhaps that, like me, they have not made aware of what those attachments are.

I hope you are a little luckier and that you will get a few more replies. Your question is a welcome change to the usual sexual questions that have become so boring.

[stalk-stopper]

Shit gag made it impossible to remove more than 1 q per day. I want to delete everything.

And i will leave the platform because they restrict deleting our own questions.